Hello guys, hope you are doing great. I want to give an update after ghosting my LDR (1 month now) and saving a shatter of my self-respect by doing so.
Gym progress is going good, I resumed dating, and I can say that I’m pretty good now, even though the first 3 weeks were a little bit hard bit after what i found i moved on pretty good.
After my emotions began to wane, what I found was gut-wrenching. Not only was I cucked without being aware, but the bitch had pleasure playing me and cucking me while her AF was in her bed in her city. She was sending voice messages and I could hear his breathing, slapping her ass, and laughing.
Those voice messages, I always listened to them while driving, so I never paid attention to the background sounds.
As I said in a prior post: To catch a cheating hoe, track her menstrual cycle and pay attzntion when she becomes very affectionate. I always had a gut feeling that the bitch was up to no good.
I rechecked all the voice messages she sent during those days, and guess what I found:
One day after we spent 2 days together in her city, while we were laying in bed, she reduced the phone luminosity and sent some shit. I was suspicious (this was after 1 month of dating), but I brushed it off and said this bitch was up to no good.
Before going back to my city, I dropped her near her home to a “female friend” (she said). After ghosting, I came back to the voice messages she sent saying she got home safe. What I found was that the bitch was having a threesome (moaning and heavy breathing of a male and another girl close).
Another day, I had a gut feeling. What I found was that she was part of an orgy .
Another finding was that the bitch was laughing at my voice messages with her AF while he was slapping her ass (I said nothing that was funny).
While doing all this crap , the ho was showing massive amount of jealousy ( ex: one day a group of girls were sending strong eye contact and she lost her temper and asked if i know them)
I dumped her because she violated a boundary, but what I found afterward was even worse.
I’m showing my gratitude to you guys today for bringing me to do the right thing and at least regain a little bit of self-respect.
Thank you again. I know the hoe was never LTR material from the get-go (met her on Bumble), but I still tried to give her a chance and in a LDR.

GeorgeIII 1 2d ago
Jesus man, it’s time to move on. I get she was a hoe and not LTR worthy.
But it’s been a month, and you are going through old messages. (Not new ones, right?)
You’re giving her rent free space in your head, 1 month AFTER the breakup. Time to move on. Nothing you learn from here will make you feel better.
On the bright side, glad to hear you are out and about with other ladies!
Machiaspinner 2d ago
Thank you a lot , i’m doing better now, moving on pretty good and resumed dating. The messages are old , i digged through them after the breakup and found what i found .
SwarmShawarma 3d ago
After this event, even skiing down Mount Everest won't be as crazy.
First-light 2 3d ago
This sounds as bad as it gets. Sorry you had this experience. I hope the future is brighter.
Machiaspinner 3d ago
This experience only made me swallow the pill again to the fullest . Thank you
SwarmShawarma 3d ago
What you did with that pill will come out in a wash, there are dudes somewhere going through 5th divorce saying 5th time never again.
Machiaspinner 3d ago
Totally right . All of the above , but more cruel and cunning is the answer.
brazilianxof 3d ago
Did you "find it" or did you reach to those conclusions out of paranoia while checking things in a biased emotional state? Careful.
Moving on means moving on, not living in the past looking for reasons.
If you broke up already, forget it.
Machiaspinner 3d ago
I searched for all the days i had suspicions (as said she reduced the luminosity of her phone while she as beside me) , i found she was having a 3some after dropping her , i send the voice message to 4 of my friends and they confirmed me that , in addition to the other suspicious voice messages they also confirmed the findings . I could show it to you , but u'll need to focus on the background heavy breathing and the other girl moaning (Because she is speaking in arabic). Anyways , ur right those findings were in the first weeks after i ghosted her , now i'm moving on.
ExConvictNowMillionaire 3d ago
I never caught an LDR cheating as brutally as this, but LDR's are a recipe for disaster unless you're shit rich and can afford to fly her out or fly yourself any minute of the day. Good luck & stay on track.
Machiaspinner 3d ago
Indeed , never been in a LDR but this confirms why everyone here is warning about it. Thank you a lot.