Decided to hit things with a beautiful colleague of mine at a school.
Background: She has given several IOIs in the past such as trying to initiate conversations with me, asking unnecessary questions, being very nervous/shy when I'm around, asking abt me (she asked me if I'm the guy she has been hearing abt, like what's my name etc).
What happened: Yesterday I saw her in the staff room preparing her lesson note. After she greeted me "hi, good morning" I replied "good morning" and then asked her, what week are you on? (We prepare our lesson note in weeks, and currently the school is in week 4)
She smiled and said: week 2 I then jokingly teased her with "Lazy Teacher" and she started laughing.
After school, on her way home, I approached her and told her I wanted us to talk, and she should give me her number. She then asked me if I'm the (--- my name ---) she has heard of. I didn't tell her. She was still curious, and said who will I tell her is chatting, when I message her? I said, she would find out .
I got the number and later in the night around 9:47 pm I messaged her on Whatsapp.
Me: Lazy Teacher...
She never replied again.
Funny girl. Could it be she slept earlier :)
Anyway, I didn't msg her again nad don't even plan on doing that guys.
kawzero Should i (x1) 1w ago
UPDATE: Guys, this is how things later went with logistics. Sorry I'm updating late. Have been busy lately.
...So, the next morning around 9 AM, she replied:
Her: "Hiiii"
We chatted a bit. At some point, I asked about her schedule after school the following Monday.
After that, she disappeared for several days. During that period I assumed she might not be interested anymore.
A few days later she replied and apologized for the delay. She explained that she had low blood pressure and had not been feeling well.
I replied and checked on her.
She said:
"No medications for low bp ????"
and later:
"Ehh, but I'll be fine"
I reacted with a heart reaction.
A few days later I messaged:
"So u survived ????"
She replied:
"Hii"
"Yes ????"
"Sorry I didn't stay long enough to say hi when I came to school"
I replied:
"It's fine"
Then I asked:
"Are u free Saturday or Sunday evening?"
She replied:
"To come to school? ????"
I replied:
"Noo :) Let's go somewhere Saturday or Sunday evening. Which one works for u"
She replied:
"Somewhere in town?"
I replied:
"Yh"
She then said:
"Where's that then?"
"I don't really go out here."
"Mostly go out alone."
I replied:
"Then, I'll hv to shw u arnd. Is swimming fine with u? Hope u aren't scared of water? ????"
She replied:
"I don't swim."
"I love water but I don't swim ????????"
We continued joking. I suggested we could simply get something to eat and take a walk instead.
She said:
"That doesn't sound bad."
Then she asked:
"Are you coming to the town (The area we were to meet - it's far from school) for something else too?"
I replied:
"No."
After that the conversation paused.
Two days later I messaged:
"Hey, so which day works for you"
She didn't reply immediately.
Later she replied:
"Are you guys at the camp?" (We had a camping function that day) "I'll talk to you there"
We met physically at camp and spoke in person. During that conversation, she herself brought up the topic of us going out. I suggested Saturday around 5 PM. Initially she seemed reluctant and mentioned work obligations, but after discussing it, we tentatively agreed on Saturday.
The next morning she sent me this message:
"There's something else I wanted to say, I don't know why you'd want us to hang out tho but I'm in a relationship and I'm conflicted about you taking me out and spending your money"
I replied:
"I understand okay. No pressure.
Since u aren't comfortable wit de idea for obvious reasons, we can call it Off. No problem at all"
She replied:
"Thank you for understanding ????????"
I reacted with a thumbs-up reaction and that is where things currently stand.
My questions are:
@Mrsupreme @Typo-MAGAshiv @GeorgeIII @Vermillion-Rx
MrSupreme 2w ago
She's doing you a favor not replying to your texts. Cut all contact unless it is strictly professional and necessary, make it boring, monotone and professional when you do contact.
I know what it is like to be exposed to females only at work, part of the grind but fight that shit. They will not be worth the energy, and work environment will become childish, petty and uncomfortable. Learn how to not attract attention and be super boring to the right people, with the rest be kinda nice, focus on the boys if they're serious and decent guys, the girls are just to talk with in groups, never alone because they're like that.
EDIT: Didn't read the comments. I would cancel the date and never reschedule. You do you, but keep both heart and dick out of work.
kawzero Should i (x1) 1w ago
Hey bro, she later replied, and we agreed on meeting, I tagged u to the update, will appreciate ur input.
MrSupreme 5d ago
She's doing you a favor rejecting you for whatever reason, women lie and she's probably dating her pillow every night, drooling hard all over it, yeah. You got pillow cucked in her mind. Theatrics, it's all in your mind. Be a boring bastard at work, specially with attention sluts like her.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 3w ago
Why are you so worried about one particular woman?
It looks like gentle teasing to me. Most women eat that shit up. If this particular one doesn't, oh well, there are billions of others out there.
Billions of others who aren't coworkers who can fuck up your job.
kawzero Should i (x1) 3w ago
Alright bro, she replied today Morning around 9AM though. I didn't open the text until now
GeorgeIII 1 3w ago
OP, I remember you. Did you fix your logistics? Or have a plan for it at least?
If your logistics are still bad, there’s little point in thinking about what to do, let alone one you have oneitis for.
kawzero Should i (x1) 3w ago
Yeah man, I did. But, have ditched that girl.
GeorgeIII 1 3w ago
I didn’t mean that chick from before. I meant this one in this post.
When I see this “past” in the statement and see the overthinking texting question, I observe this as some level of mental investment. Which is potentially the start of oneitis. Just be careful bro.
kawzero Should i (x1) 3w ago
Sure man. I just fixed logistics with her. We meeting Saturday.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3w ago
Trying to push the same joke twice can seem forced and land flat unless she actively participates or there is some surefire benefit to teasing with it more than once
Some women (especially teachers) go to bed early. Wait till the next day
Women get burned out, tired and upset about random things in their way just like anyone else. Texting a woman later and feeling like you're talking to a different person who is less interested doesn't mean YOU personally did something. A different reaction to you after a time gap doesn't necessarily have anything do with you.
Wait till she actually responds instead of overthinking it and stop focusing on just one woman. Focusing on too few chicks is how you end up in overthinking mode like this. If you had more options you'd be texting the interested ones and not asking online strangers about the one who didn't reply back
Don't double text just wait and meet other women
In the future if you want to be more sure it ISN'T you have a stronger in person interaction and then have a more engaging text hook later. If a woman STILL doesn't respond more enthusiastically to that in those situations she probably isn't interested or will get back to you next day
Try only focusing on higher interest women and you'll have less uncertainty
kawzero Should i (x1) 3w ago
Alright bro, she replied today Morning around 9AM though. I didn't open the text until now
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3w ago
What did it say
kawzero Should i (x1) 3w ago
She said: Hiiii
We are currently chatting though.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3w ago
Hiiiiiii is a low effort but positive sign
Just be natural and try to get logistics going soon
kawzero Should i (x1) 3w ago
Sure bro. It worked. Thanks for your advice man
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3w ago
No problem man
Next time just ask yourself what you would do if 3 other girls were texting you and banging you already and you will start doing the right thing each time you are unsure
kawzero Should i (x1) 3w ago
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