Hey guys, new to trp. I'm 26M guy, never been in relationship before, I'm 6ft tall, fit. I always had body dysmorphia in school and uni and thought of myself as ugly(never cared about my looks either, was anti-social nerdy quiet guy) so even when some girls showed interest in me or gave me hints I never took it serious. Now after taking care of myself I get looks from girls and even married women.
I made a post about it and a girl DM'd me. She kept talking to me about a lot of things, I shared many things about me as well and daily happenings like how some girls check me out. For some reason she uses "Good boyy" too much. She asked about my dick size, asked me to send my face pic. I said no because its an anonymous account. She's also never been in a relationship before, she shared her pic, shes very beautiful, like near model tier. She keeps asking me to send my face pic. I think I'm mid looking compared to her and I'm sure she's talking to some other guys as well.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1d ago Stickied
There are a lot of scams online. I wouldn't send pics to strangers. A lot of these are foreign men scamming people with female profile pics
This seems sketchy. it does not sound real and you should block this account. Model tier going for an inexperienced man on a forum that doesn't already have face pics and specifically for men who are insecure about themselves? Unsolicited pics and asking for yours with an initial small but invasive request and then baiting you for more.
It's a scam dude. Sounds like sextortion and I bet it's a dude behind the account. Block and ghost
This looks very sketchy and I wouldn't listen to any advice to this AskTRP suggesting it's a real person
This is 100% a dude grooming you to extort you via pictures by training you to comply with info or requests
Do not give that account another ounce of information about yourself and stop communicating with it
zeroed 23h ago
I understand what you mean, but she is 100% real, shes shared a lot of details and is from the same community, same religion I'm from. She was raised in a conservative family with strict/protective parents. Just in a different country.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 23h ago
You've been warned
Go browse r/sextortion
Sounds like you are going to fall for it. The fact "she" is not in your country in the first place is a complete waste of time anyway
This shouldn't be a post on here
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 23h ago
Even if this were a real woman who was really interested, it's a waste of time. There's no such thing as a long-distance relationship.
Find women who are local to you and who are interested.
zeroed 23h ago
That's what I'm gonna do, but the thing is I'm still kinda broke. Currently I get attention from girls but I ignore them because I'm unemployed and training for a better job.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 23h ago
You don't need money to get laid.
If you're currently between jobs, confidently own it.
If a chick loses interest just because of that, she did you a favor by filtering herself out of your life.
zeroed 23h ago
She said good boy when I shared I built my home on my own, and that all the weight is on me since I'm the only son(no siblings). Once I asked her to give me push up challenge for fun, she said 100, I said 100 is easy, she then said 200. I did 200 push ups and then she said "Good boy" lol, ngl it feels disrespectful to me for some reason.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 23h ago
It feels disrespectful because it's not a real person and "she" is likely scamming you
Look man you have been on warned. This is a scam , and I'm trying to tell you how they operate
zeroed 23h ago
Maybe you're right. I forgot to reply her for a day and she said "its ok if you dont want to share pic, at least reply to me" (we've texted for hours before).
Anyways, please keep this post up, I'd like to hear other's opinion as well. I haven't talked to her for the past 3 days.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 23h ago
I'm not removing it but you're likely going to get advice telling you how to game "her" and it's legitimately dangerous
And again it's a different country so why would you want validation anyway. All you would be doing is all risk and zero reward
What are you even doing man? You couldn't possibly be this interested in validation from someone many territories away who is running a scam. If anything you should be reporting that account
zeroed 23h ago
Yes, I'm ignoring her. Its her reddit account and she has posts on girl centric subreddits.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 23h ago
There is no reason to trust this account regardless. It is inherently sketchy and doesn't seem right
GeorgeIII 1 16h ago
Block. You’ve never met this person. Block.
Women do not randomly ask strangers for dick pics, unless they know you are giga hot or famous. And even then you shouldn’t send.
Men sending dick pics to women they haven’t met is a miss-play. Men do it because they like when girls send nudes, and incorrectly assume that girls want the same.
This “chick” is playing you on that thread. You are most likely talking to a dude in the 3rd world.
Their goal is to pray on your loneliness and thirst. They know there’s guys like you in the West. Block. Turn around. Let any hope from this “girl” leave your heart and soul, now.
First-light 2 16h ago
Its important to realise that whether she is a scammer or not, the chances of this going anywhere are vanishingly small.
You have a sunk cost in this -you have developed a relationship with her and you come from a sheltered background and you have no relationship experience. These things make you vulnerable to scammers. Please bear this in mind whatever you do. I have seen worldly wise men who have had many women fall for love scams. It really could be you. Be wary. If its too good to be true -model standard girl chatting up shy foreigner with no relationship experience- its almost always not true.
Most guys in your shoes will want to find out more about this contact of yours, regardless of advice to the contrary. If you do try to find out more, you are only in danger if you do something dumb. I used to worry a bit about my kids talking to so many random people on the internet. I came to realise there was no danger, so long as they sent no money, no nudes or nothing that you wouldn't mind anyone in your home town knowing. My hottest daughter even got what looked to me like a bona fide $10,000 dollar offer for sex from a much older man but it was not actually anything more than funny because she never even gave him her number. If you met someone on the street, you would not give them a photo, money or a dick pic. You have not even met this individual, so you don't give them any more than your time for now.
The simple way to see if she is a real person -still could be a scammer even if she is real- is to give her a phone number -could be your pal's could be a burner phone if you are scared but then again I have my number out on the internet for my business and no one has yet managed to use it to do me harm, so you could even give your own number -if you want to risk being out on a dumb people list and sold to more scammers. Connect to her on social media, Whatsapp call her. Speak to her on video. Call her at unexpected times and see if she answers. This will at least let you know if she is a person. If she won't agree to that, well then she isn't real or isn't available even for a phone call, so she is no use to you at all.
If she is from another country, her use of the language does not necessarily mean anything. However, you say she comes from the same religious community as you and was raised by conservative parents. In your experience how many innocent, conservatively raised girls in your community enquire about strangers' dick size?
zeroed 4h ago
I'll share the same comment here:
brazilianxof 15h ago
It is a DUDE trying to scam you. Send your face and dick pictures and wait for the extortion.
zeroed 4h ago
She never asked me about my dick pic, just face pic. As stated in other comment:
GeorgeIII 1 4h ago
Everyone on here has already told you that it’s a scam, and even in the 0.1% it’s not, it isn’t worth it due to the distance and logistics. Not a single person has told you it’s a good idea to game “her”, or how to do it.
But sure man, you can keep huffing the copium. Just pass it over here when you’re done.
Send that pic, maybe you’ll get another “good boyy” in return.
zeroed 3h ago
Hahaha, alright man, I haven't sent her a message in 4 days. Gonna ignore now.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 8h ago
Coming back to this after a long workday, but more awake and alert.
From your OP:
From one of your comments:
These two statements do not add up.
1) I have never had a woman ask about my dick size. Not one. Ever. I've had almost all of them grab it while we're making out, but I've never had one ask about it when we're just talking. Also, for the vast, vast, vast majority of women, penis size doesn't matter all that much. The nerves in the vagina only go about 2 inches back, and anything longer than 7" or so risks bruising the cervix, which is incredibly painful for them. They generally prefer average length give or take a bit, and decent girth. The few dudes I've known who were legit packing monsters usually had women react by saying "that thing is NOTgoing inside me!".
2) a woman who is so religiously conservative is even less likely to ask that.
So just like everyone else said: 99% certain it's a scam from some turd worlder who will use your pics to blackmail you.
And like I said originally: even if this is real, the distance factor makes it not worth bothering with.
zeroed 4h ago
Yes, her asking about my dick size caught me off guard. She started with "guys just send me dick pics showing off their 4 inch small dicks". And then said "please don't be offended if you've 4 inch". I said no I have 6.5 inch. She then said "measure it" lol
Says she is not religious. She has shared details about herself, like she is currently studying nursing. Her family's home back here in my country is just 2 hours away from me.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 7m ago
1) That's your instincts telling you that something is off.
2) women generally don't do that.
3) most women aren't going to be able to tell the difference between 3", 4", 5", or 6" without the items being side-by-side for comparison. They have terrible spatial reasoning, and so are terrible at estimating length, height, distance, etc. It's also why so many of them can't parallel park. Check this out.
Anyway, the fact that you're still defending this whole... situation of yours at all, hell, the fact that you even had to ask this in the first place instead of just laughing it off, shows that you have a scarcity mindset and lack experience. Work on meeting and fucking women IRL, and don't waste your precious time on bullshit long-distance pen-pals.
have you read the sidebar?