So i broke up with my ex 2 months ago. I hooked up with other girls but I didnt move on from her. 2 weeks ago we started talking again. She said she doesn’t want to get back in relationship, ans stay as friends. I played along. Few days later she booty calls me and I go. After that she said we shouldn’t have sex and remain friends. How to get her back as fwb or get her hooked again as she was before breakup.
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Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 2d ago Stickied
1) one of the requirements of askTRP is to try to answer your own question in the post. Please edit your OP to comply with this requirement.
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If you have read the sidebar, then surely you've read the first year of the Rational Male blog or the first Rational Male book?
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Musicgoon78 3 1d ago
I agree with everyone that you need to answer your own question, fuck it... I don't want to waste time so I'll give you my answer:
I've posted this many times but I'll tell it again. I had an ex that was quite crazy but I loved, loved, loved how she was in bed!
We would break up a lot and get back together later. She used to say "Goon you're such an asshole I'm angry at you we are hanging out but I'm not fucking you". I would simply say "I understand" and then continue on with whatever we were doing. I would smile internally because I knew sex was pretty much guaranteed that evening. I just had to stay fun, happy and a bit charming.
When a woman tells you they won't be fucking you that's a very good thing. This shows that her mind is already on sex with you.
A woman that doesn't want to have sex simply won't have sex. She won't bring it up, she won't entertain the thought. It's a hard no.
All you have to tell her is "I understand" or some simple version of ok. Continue on as usual and have good sex.
You can either have a FWB without the label or you can move on to other women. (Do both at the same time) I say this is a good experiment for you to learn more about female sexuality.
Have fun bro! Don't overthink it.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 1d ago
As much as I dislike bothering with exes, this part is absolute gold and I've said similar several times.
GeorgeIII 1 2d ago
Mostly copy pasted from another post.
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Re-read what you wrote. Imagine a close, male friend of yours was in this exact situation. And that he asked you for advice.
What would you tell him to do with this woman? If he told you that he was trying to get back with his ex, would you tell him that’s a good idea? Bad?
Take that answer, and apply it to yourself.
First-light 2 2d ago
Most likely she wanted to check she still has you on the hook when she was feeling low.
Solution friendly but minimal contact, mostly as replies, the odd breadcrumbing if you fancy. May booty call you again if she is not sure she has you, if she is going through a dry spell, if she has had a knock to her confidence. Simp out and beg and she will "know" in her mind that she was right to run.
A relationship re-start is however not possible. A whole new relationship occasionally is if one or both parties has undergone a real change of heart or increase of life experience. However unless this happens its off the cards. She had a reason to move on. Unless that vanishes, it won't really resume.