Hello guys, I need some outside perspective on a situation.
I’ve been in an FWB situation with this girl (22 yo student , low income family , 7,5/10) for about 4 months. I was vetting her for a possible LDR (even though I know LDRs rarely work). She travels to see me often (1 hour distance).
She’s feminine, in my frame , cooks, sex is good and available on demand.
I still live with my family due to their health situation. Because of that, I’ve been paying for all dates and also covering logistics, which adds extra cost.
For 4 months, the dynamic was smooth and low drama. No demands, no pressure.
Things shifted when Valentine’s Day and her birthday (same week) came up. I voluntarily suggested a plan: a nice restaurant and stay together for the week-end (because I wanted to, not because she asked) , i also had the idea to give her something cheap as a gift. During the discussion, she said: “You still have time to think about the gift.”
That line immediately hit me ( give an inch, she wants a mile) . I told her , then paying for a diner doesn’t count as a gift and it’s nothing so i need to bring a gift in addition, that’s it? She said she wanted a gift to keep and remember me. I told her it’s strange that she needs a physical object to remember me, and that if the dinner isn’t seen as a gift, I’d rather cancel it altogether. She backtracked—“No, the plan was perfect”.
I ended the conversation and shut the topic down. This situation really made me angry althought i stayed stoic on the outside.No woman has ever told me to bring a gift.
Did I handle this situatiln correctly ? Should I demote her to a plate (even though she’s currently my only one , scarcity ..)? Or is the correct move to walk away completely.
Thank you a lot folks.

Musicgoon78 3 10h ago
Im sorry, but who's frame are you operating in? If you want to give her an extra fancy gift, or something that does even cost shit, that's completely up to you.
No need to get butthurt or even state anything. If you aren't feeling it, don't do it. It's that simple.
Stop all this stoic larper alpha shit. Why do you guys want to tell us all the stupid stats on her? Does she get you wooded? "Do you like her is the only thing that matters.
Start living your life.
mattyanon Admin 1d ago
See this as a warning.
No need to cut her off if things are good.
Just remember that women are forever trying to beta-ize you, and are actively trying to kill their own attraction to you.
Nothing overly wrong with this one - at least she's honest.
AWALT.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1d ago
You're overthinking the fuck out of this
I have objects to remember people by who were the closest people I've ever had in my life
Get over yourself, stop LARPing alpha bravado holy hell man
Machiaspinner 1d ago
Not trying to act Alpha as fuck , i told that already i had the idea to buy a gift. The problem is that she said it as it’s an order , that’s what made me angry
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1d ago
Did she really say it like an order?
It sounds like she was fairly nice about it all, especially with the word choice you said she used
Either way, you're being absurd
You should not be in a relationship with this woman, not because of her, but because you wouldn't be able to handle one
1) you could have merely ended your sentence at "the dinner was the gift" if she were in your frame she'd comply, no need to mention canceling as some kind of leverage
You interjected unnecessary tension into this situation, future demands will have less leverage because you already pulled a threat card
2) you got angry at it. Total frame loss. No way you're going to be able to handle bigger obstacles than this in a relationship with her
Machiaspinner 1d ago
Not really like an order . I think i really pushed it so far , that’s why i asked about it. I don’t know , i think i should console her a little bit now. Thank you a lot.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1d ago
Read my edit
Also you're welcome
Machiaspinner 1d ago
Very wise words , thank you a lot again . For to the point number 1 , is there any chance to recover?
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 1d ago
Unless she's a total psycho, occasional slip-ups aren't going to doom you. Just learn from it and try not to repeat mistakes.
I've been with my wife for 21 years (and married for 20 of them), and I've made far bigger mistakes than that.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1d ago
Yes just don't throw out hasty power plays where softer plays and shit test passes are sufficient
Just have a good date, you can always get the cheap gift you were going to get anyway, and then fuck her good