Been spinning this plate for about a year and there's oneitis involved now, I was thinking about promoting to ltr. This bitch is very scarce when it comes to shittests but comfort tests ALL the time. She's painfully insecure, and it doesn't help that my lifestyle naturally fuels dread I guess.
A week ago we went out and had a great time all around, she slept over at my house but we went to hers in the morning so she could make us breakfast. We were planning on watching a movie afterwards, and when I advised doing it back at my house she sarcastically asked if it's beause her house is dirty/lame compared to mine. I scoffed it off, we went out so she could walk her dog and when we were back in front of her house I said "leave the dog, take the keys and come back to my house, I'll be there". She straight up said "No." Okay, see you soon then, and I started walking back home. She stopped me for a second visibly flabbergasted and asked "Seriously??", to which I replied something like "Yeah, I don't understand, do you want me to wait for you or?", and she just went back inside saying "nevermind then".
I sent her a random message a few hours later, not knowing that it was seemingly a big deal for her - she ghosted me, it's been 8 days without a reply now. Do I call to see what's up? I have a feeling if I don't this might be the end, and it's a really retarded thing to end the relationship over. On the other hand, what if it's just a shittest? Do I wait?
To answer my own question, calling her this one time might not be too beta of me but definitely hardnext it it happens again
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 1d ago
None of that was a comfort test, let alone a "nuclear" comfort test. I didn't see any shit tests either. Keep in mind that not everything a woman says or does is some kind of test.
Something that strikes me as odd, though:
What's with the insistence on going back to your place? I mean, I get the first venue change because she needs to take care of the dog. But why insist on going back to your place instead of just hanging out at hers?
Artila 1d ago
I wasn't really insistent, it was just my preference at that moment. Had she actually expressed that she'd prefer we stay at her place, I'd comply, but she reacted like I described, "No, seriously? Nevermind then". Don't really see how this situation can cause a girl to withdraw this hard no matter how retarded she is
Musicgoon78 3 18h ago
This is just like the retards on here that don't give compliments. You put up your alpha act and she got fed up with it. In other words, you went full retard.
If you're not somewhat flexible and provide no comfort, women will eventually get sick of it and leave.
8 days without a reply is your answer. She's done.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 1d ago
That seems pretty insistent to me.
She did that, indirectly, when she asked if her place was dirty/lame compared to yours. That was the moment to say one of two things:
1) OK, let's just stay here
2) well, yeah. Clean up your place! (or replace this with whatever the reason was, if there was a legit reason such as "my TV is better").
This reads like you're both retarded.
Were you both just incapable of an adult conversation about where to watch the movie? Here's how the events went down, put in different words:
You: now that we've come back here to take care of your dog, let's go back to my place to watch the movie
Her: why? Is my house too dirty or lame for you?
You: *scoffs*
[a few minutes of silence]
You: leave the dog, take the keys and come back to my house, I'll be there.
Her: no!
You: ok, see you soon. *walks away*
Her: seriously?!
You: Yeah, I don't understand, do you want me to wait for you or?
Her: never mind, then.
Do you not see how retarded this is? And you're a bigger retard than she is, in that scenario. You're two stumbling retards who aren't ready for a relationship. She's doomed to be used for sex and discarded, and you're doomed to alienate any chick you may have been willing to keep around for longer than a fling.
You two should make up so that you save the rest of the world from each other.
Artila 1d ago
Okay, I'm at the same level of retardness as her because I failed to insert a retrospective and an indirect statement into our conversation. If we're getting to details I mentioned there's something I need to do back home, before I invited her. So an indirect "lets go my place" was met with the same coming from me. Setting aside the rest of world, what's the best course of action for my benefit here?
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 8h ago
Get on with your life and don't be so retarded in the future.
pofkaf 1 1d ago
Soft next. Don't call her. Only respond if she initiates.
Go fuck other women in the meantime. Oh wait, you don't have any other options, do you?
Artila 1d ago
Spin plates isn't always a solution, although I understand how a place where 95% of askers are bitchless produces such a sentiment. If it were, asktrp would just be a single blank page with a banner saying "fuck other women".
Overkill_Engine Endorsed Contributor 23h ago
Sounds like a great way to optimize the process really. 95% accuracy rate is hard as fuck to beat.
MrSupreme 1d ago
I wouldn't worry about her until she makes contact, don't expect anything at all and be a single man again.
After 1 year i wouldn't call it Oneitis because that is a long time and it is not unnatural to develop high interest,some emotions and just taking care of your plate.
But if she gonna act single and like you don't exist then you do the same, it wouldn't be far fetched to think she is looking to get railed tonight.
Act.like the plate broke and get yourself another one.If she comes back,resume the sex while knowing what shes like and don't consider her for anything other than sex.
Jackmoter 1d ago
"She's painfully insecure" ... "I was thinking about promoting to LTR" - Listen to yourself man. Who tf wants a "painfully insecure" girlfriend.
This is only bothering you because you are more attached then you think.
If you phone up grovelling begging for forgiveness she will use this opportunity to reset the power dynamic and before you know it you'll be whipped little mummies good boy.
cundardunfinished 19h ago
Women are not completely foreign creatures, they have pride too. Sounds like you hurt hers by ordering her back to your place. Sometimes these things are precipitated by a plate being wobbly anyway e.g. maybe another guy entered the picture. Nothing you can do at this point, a year is a decent amount of time to keep a plate.