OP's username = BrainDamagedIncel

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She is trying to manipulate you into spending less time with your friends and more time with her.

Classic case of what she thinks she wants vs what she actually wants (To date a guy who has friends and a cool life).

In my past relationship, I initially dealt with these easily, but they kept coming, she would get more emotional, more upset, make it seem like the world was ending etc. I actually reduce the days I went to the gym from 5 to 4 (insane for me) - and it changed absolutely nothing, give them an inch and they take a mile.

In the early days you can get away with agree and amplifying but at some point , I think you just have to go "Look my friends are an important part of my life and I am going to spend time with them, if you can't handle that then I am not the person for you"

Shut that shit down. I sure wish I did earlier on. Once you start seeing it as your friends vs your girlfriend it's a double sided slippery slope.

This is actually quite difficult to deal with and is a problem in most relationships at some point.

Don't do what I did with my first wife, take it seriously and then rationally explain why your action is fair. Remember, she is making an emotional reaction. You may be able to explain it is fair at other times and in other ways (though be careful even then). She is feeling like she is not getting enough of you. Explaining why she deserves to feel like that won't make you the good guy.

What you can take seriously is that she is feeling like that. You now have to decide what to do about it yourself. Do you spend more time on her in other ways or do you just hope she gets used to it? If she is unreasonable about it it won't fix if it is a serious feeling, even if you are being fair. This is not usually a big problem but it really can be. Don't lean into it by entertaining it could be an issue or train her that she can get results by pressing on a sore nerve.

Only ever be light hearted in speaking about it but try not to be dismissive of her feelings, even if they are unfair. They are her feelings and if you make a joke of them, it won't help. Ignore as much as you can and then light heartedly say things like "Yeah I need to stay fit, so I need to see the guys" or " You don't want me all frustrated and miserable do you?" or "Well the guys will be feeling the same on Saturday when we go to your parents" but don't go further into rationalisation than that. its not a rational thing, its a feeling thing and you will not make her feel better if you debate the legitimacy of her feelings.

She's your girlfriend.

Sit down and talk rationally about the things she's bringing up in a jokey manner.

If she can't do that like an adult then you shouldn't be in a relationship with her.

Bro stop making up terms. She would send me a text of that shit and I wouldn't even understand what she's saying.

Let's break this down into simple terms. If she's doing something you don't like, it's your job to lay out a boundary and tell her to stop. Failure to lead will cause her to lose tingles and disrespect you.

When she uses "You" staments, she's putting words in your mouth. Don't play her game, it's your job to stand up her.

Sounds like a comfort test. You know I love spending time with you, kiss on the forehead and then continue doing whatever you're doing. I wouldn't address it like a serious issue because then you might get pulled into some stupid argument