Coworker texts me out of the blue (I didn’t even have her number saved, she must’ve gotten it from the group chat) saying this. :
Hi it’s [name] I forgot to ask when you were in here
Would you ever wanna give me a ride on ur bike ??? I wanna go on it so bad
I just replied “sure lol wyd tomorrow night” and have been left on seen
So I went pretty direct just to logistics cause I thought she was being pretty forward too.
I’m guessing I should’ve been more banterg or flirty or something ? Not too sure. I’m just trying to use the principle of always be escalating now since that’s what yall have drilled into my head
Obviously I’m not going to double text or anything like that. If she doesn’t reply by tomorrow I’ll just move on
Musicgoon78 3 1d ago
You didn't do anything wrong. Just wait for her response.
First-light 2 1d ago
Possibly a bit quick in that you didn't find out what sort of ride she was wanting to take or what time of day suited her. Possibly looks a bit thirsty. She might have had some fine notion of a Saturday morning ride out in the country leading to something to eat while out or she might have wanted to tear through the dark streets terrified clinging to your leather jacket after everyone had gone to bed. I would find out what excites her.
I think its totally reasonable to request a yes or no answer closer to the time. She made the request of a favour and and you made an offer. Its not reasonable to leave your favour hanging as an option. She is not doing you a favour getting on your bike remember that. You are offering her the favour she requested. Don't be angry but confidently seek clarity, you can always then say "We can find a better time that suits us both if you like, tell me what sort of ride you are most interested in?"
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throwaway415 1d ago
youre overthinking this. why even care? gftow
master-of-losers 1d ago
You did nothing wrong. She might be excited but nervous, and doesn't want to text back too quickly as to not seem too eager. Girls often do stuff like that. Don't double text her.
joyboy 1d ago
I figured she was pretty eager based off the fact that she had to find my number (I never gave it to her or msged her before that) so I thought I could pretty much say anything. Yeah I’m not gonna double text since she’s the one that sought me out anyways
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1d ago
Nothing wrong
You could have bantered some more. Giving a single day to do something is hit or miss and you can't always expect girls to drop everything they might have had going on in 24 hours or on specific days
If she really wants to ride it she'll find an alternative time and day
You did nothing wrong and she gave you sufficient interest for straight up logistics, making teasing and bantering unnecessary but with skill could have set up a premise for it to be less innocent
Just wait. Any sufficiently interested woman will respond. Double texting is therefore rarely needed
joyboy 1d ago
Yeah definitely not gonna double text. I didn't know the bike method was so strong tho cause she is definitely a baddie. I'll take it as a confidence boost even if nothing comes from it
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1d ago
Yeah bikes will draw in a lot of women
joyboy 1d ago
Yea for sure i get attention almost every time i go out with it. I've had cars full of girls waving at me, blowing kisses on the road etc. I've also had girls yelling out to me i like ur bike while im just sitting down on it or approaching and complimenting me after they see me get off it
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1d ago
That's good just keep working on the social and game aspect
MidgetSpinner 1d ago
Ignore the other comments about you looking thirsty, she's the one who's thirsty here. She got your number through someone else, and begged you for a ride on your bike. Pretty self-explanatory. Wait for her to reply - which she will if she's keen enough, if not, just leave it. No biggie.
joyboy 1d ago
Yea thats what i thought. It just seemed kinda weird that she would be all excited like that then just leave me on seen. Oh well
MidgetSpinner 1d ago
Are you still on seen with her now?
joyboy 1d ago
No she replied a bit ago. She said “ Sorry, I just saw this. I’m working tonight, but I definitely wanna go on it next time we work together lol”
So my interpretation is she doesn’t want to set up a specific date or meeting but wants to just have it happen spontaneously. I told her to just lmk since I have to bring a spare helmet which she saw
mattyanon Admin 1d ago
The end.
joyboy 1d ago
? Idc abt shitting where i eat it’s a min wage part time job