Since then I've traveled the world for nearly 2 years now, made more money then ever, more in shape, and even added 30 lays. And had several short term relationships. But everytime I think about my ex from the USA. I still miss her. I don't know why. Does this feeling ever go away?
I'm assuming it's because I haven't been able to find a girl like her, personality wise. Super submissive, feminine, and overall a very caring person who always brings me gifts, cooks for me, and changes for me.
No-Stress-Cat 9h ago
Women do this all the time! My ex this, my ex that. Question is, would you ever go back to your ex if you could? Are you trying to pick up with these women where you left off from your ex? If so, then you aren't ready for another relationship yet. You have more healing to do.
You will never find another girl like her. People are different. They have their own personalities, experiences, traumas, and quirks. Which is why you can't compare other women to her. What you need to ask yourself is if these other women you're dating are meeting your standards. If not, then you're not dating the right women.
Yes, eventually the feeling does go away. You will look back and appreciate the good times you had, and learn the lessons from the bad. You have to understand that your world revolves around you, and not your ex. It sounds like you're just getting by in your present stagnation. Eventually, you will have to let go of the past, and look toward the future if you want to continue to grow and succeed.
MrSupreme 8h ago
The whole point of having positive and constructive experiences is to have memories you can go back to for inspiration and comfort and not like open wounds you need to heal, which can lead to regret and maybe learning something from it.
Maybe it will never go away, maybe it shouldn't go away. Think of the alternatives to a great memory: a shitty memory of pain and unpleasantness or total indifference.
I have a 9 year old relationship that ended up in a divorce and the woman's last words and thoughts towards me won't ever be nice,ever. Women hold on to resentment because it is the easy way. The ogre-woman doesn't deserve to be remembered anyways.
I have a girl I dated for 3-4 months, fucked like rabbits everytime we met, she showered me with gifts and was submissive as hell, I remember it all the time with lust and joy.
The positive experiences can be just as constructive and a learning experience as a negative one, I choose the positive one cause I got no time and space for pettiness.
AbusiveFather1 8h ago
How did it end?
MrSupreme 5h ago
I was living abroad and wasn't doing too good, so I had to move back to my country, we broke up about a month before i left.
superhitops 7h ago
This is a severe case of chronic oneities. Abundance mindset and understanding that awalt may help to treat this.
kv2_0833 6h ago
I'll say it's not for the reasons you listed, I think it's just a personality thing for some of us.
My ex-ltr 2 years ago was not any of those things, very caring in the moment, maybe. Neither was she the hottest, but I miss her more than any one I've been with since. Comes and goes, I find it goes away if I'm actively not in a dry spell, so abundance is probably the actual answer.
Though if you're avoidant like me you tend to go through bad dry spells once you've hit your social limit, and all that time spent alone will make you think about things. I don't think you actually miss her, it might be an ego thing or something like "you were trying to prove to yourself", and you attach that to the past relationship