I knew a girl from a while back that's younger than me and 3 times more inexperienced.
Judging by her actions she seemed like a virgin and her family is really christian-oriented, they're big believers.
She blocked me a year ago, because her parents found about me, her brother saw that she was texting me and she got in big trouble because of that. They're very religious and take things like that seriously. What's crazy is we never went on a date, I never took her seriously because of that and because her parents are strict and she didn't go out as much as she could - which was somewhat true ngl, she did bullshit a little, but I never saw her anywhere and her parents are hella strict.
I had 0 contact with her after she blocked me, then she found me again (a year has passed by this point) with her new profiles on socials. We met only once (1st time actually), we were out for 30 mins because she couldn't stay longer, she blocked me again after 2-3 weeks - same reason, someone found her texting me.
She found me again a month later, we went out on 3-4 dates, but we never went past making out, I knew something was fishy.
She felt really nervous but was okay with me touching her although we never went past making out once - even during the makeout she was really new to it, I could tell she doesn't know what to do, or should I say, how to kiss properly.
She talked about 2 guys she was with, it turns out that she had sex with 1 of her exes, which completely turned me off. Apparently that ex is her brother's friend so he was allowed to be in their house and to chill with them - he had more time with her, to calm her down, lower her defenses and at this point if you can go to her house you can fuck her easily.
I stopped caring about her honestly, but I still want to get a body, I made her to chase me, I was unavailable since I didn't want to and I didn't have the time - she could only go out for like an hour and a half and in the worst time for me - because I needed to rush to work and do other important things.
She still chases me more than I chase her, which is normal, she openly talks about lots of things - why did she tell me about her having sex? She could've let me smash, in the middle of it, I see that she's not a virgin and just move on, it's better that way than outright telling me, lowering chances of me sleeping with her - she voluntarily said that and became a hoe in my eyes.
What to do now? I thought she was nervous and all that because she was a virgin. Now that I know she isn't, it's really confusing to me.
She doesn't want to do things as I did with other girls (1st date or 2nd those girls were jumping on me and really were lusting over me but she doesn't), she doesn't put a lot of resistance as others did, but it doesn't go anywhere, it's like some sort of limbo, it's not as good or as bad as it can be. Maybe those girls I was with were much more experienced and that's why it went faster with them.
Do I still go out with her and try to get a body? It's really tiresome tbh, she doesn't fit my schedule, isn't interesting and isn't easy to do something sexual other than making out, which is bad to do with her.
She does send me some freaky, sluttish things on tt, reels, even some half-naked pictures - honestly I know I'm not the only one seeing those pictures, but is hella shy in person.
This post is too long, I can clarify some things if you need for the context.
mattyanon Admin 2w ago
fucking NEXT.
3-4 dates to nowhere with you....... fucked someone else.
Dude, seriously...... No. Hell No. Hell no with prejudice.
What is she chasing you FOR? It's not sex. So what does it matter? She's chasing you for something that benefits her and does not benefit you.
She's putting in effort but she's still a timewaster.
Limbo is the worst because it soaks up all your time and energy.
So like...... 5 dates to nowhere instead of 4?
okay.
Lies. She sends you LIES.
She's shy WITH YOU.
She is farming men for attention.
Please clarify how this girl is not a timewaster.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2w ago
Have some self respect dude
Next
SSBPikkon 2w ago
Simple as that
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2w ago
I'm removing your flair.
Just don't ask us to spoonfeed you information any more and put a genuine effort into thinking for yourself on what you could have/should have done
What you did right or wrong, etc.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2w ago
Yes. Just next
Musicgoon78 3 2w ago
What the ever loving fuck....?
You waste so much fucking time on this bullshit. It's unreal. Move on instead of hoping and praying for this time waster to fuck you.
Have some standards man. Do you enjoy just spinning your wheels and getting nowhere? I wasted my time now reading this shit. She's not worth your time.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2w ago
Any time i find out a girl will fuck other men but not me when given the chance, i next.
No questions about it
Musicgoon78 3 2w ago
I think I've been doing the same except subconsciously. Self respect is crucial for growth!
Bozza 2 2w ago
Have you even read the sidebar yet?
SSBPikkon 2w ago
Yes
I need to find more quality options, because every time I write something like this everyone says I next this or that girl.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2w ago
It's deeper than that you are not closing the deal with options you have.
Which is why you should next. If you fail to make an adequate impression and they play games it's over.
Bozza 2 2w ago
You will end up nexting the majority of the girls you meet. That's why is so important to have an abundance of options.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2w ago
You should also next women you fumble.
Once a woman decides there are critical reasons she won't fuck you even if she otherwise was open to it it's a waste of time converting them
It's better to fuck off and improve than to flip a non believer
SSBPikkon 2w ago
I'll see with this one, if she doesn't want anything in the next 2 dates I'm out
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2w ago
God Damn dude
You already had no self respect here and you're doubling down
She's not interested
Ronaldraygun77 2w ago
“She”x 24 times.
“Her”x 19 Times
Dude…
Early stages of oneitis and you haven’t even fucked this chick. Listen to everyone else and Next. If she comes around cool. If not, probably even better.
Trust me, once you see how well girls that are really into you will treat you with little effort, you will NEVER want to put up with anything else.
SSBPikkon 2w ago
My english isn't as good that's why I put lots of "she" and "her".
I think she didn't move from her ex. She lets me do things, but she never escalates in the slightest.
I'll next her ofc, I'm tired of bullshiting and trying to escalate for nothing.