guys in their 30s, 40s, 50s that are dating girls in their 20s: what are some nuances you discovered relating to gaming younger girls, what advice can you give? is it any different than when you yourself were in your 20s?
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No-Stress-Cat 1d ago
What I can tell you is that two 20's = a 40. Do what you will with that.
SwarmShawarma 2d ago
Verbatim title of the chapter in the 'ask TRP sidebar'.
Admin! How is the printing of the free giveway copies of the AskTrp Sidebar going?
Have the young Irish Big tittie nannies, been also sorted to be hired, to read the book to people interested in book content?
Not to mention a few good breakdowns on ApexMindset channel.
AbusiveFather1 2d ago
Very cool, but I’m asking people about their experiences and stories
SwarmShawarma 2d ago
And I understand that and wouldn't say a thing if that be your first q where you could show some insight in a question, meaning you have invested some time in getting basics.
Plus on AM channel it is one of the last few vids
MrSupreme 2d ago
I for one am interested on what the guys here have to say about it. I'm 36, my forties are just around the corner, and everyone I meet around my age are getting off the cock carousel and wanting to settle down with a "gentleman" that will take care of her child(s). No thanks ma'am.
It is less about age and more about what they bring. Single,childless,happy,ready to mingle and beautiful women are easy to find on their 20s, but I'm not going to pass on a 34 year old that is still a cutie patootie, has no kids, is single, is fun and joyful and is not resentful at love because she's still single and has no kids.
I take into account an intellectual and emotional gap between me and a 24 year old, should I?
I think there is a big focus on women in their "pre-wall prime", and I get it, there is a beauty component, but there is also brain rot, social media addiction and 3-second attention spans. I'd like more than a one night stand.
superhitops 2d ago
The main issue with kids is cost and the bagage they represent. It is like when they have pets, but 10x more energy, cost and effort. All of that for what? Pussy? Not worth it.
"Of course, it is used pussy". Not because of being used, but what it represents. The main issue with the CC is not "used pussy" on the literal sense. Man, baby come out of that thing and it goes back to normal. The actual issue is that rarely they can separate things, and you get to own all the mistakes of all previous man. The more man, the more psychological damage.
Well, even literal hookers are sometimes less damaged that these slut types. At least they have put a price tag and know why they riding it.
MrSupreme 2d ago
It is up to the woman if she is including her child in her love life, IMO it shouldn't be part of it unless going for a LTR where being a part of their life is a thing. But for dating a few months I don't see why they should be around, and most will be looking for a LTR from the beggining so I don't give a fuck anymore about single moms and I next them right away, they can be hot or whatever but I can't waste more time meeting them just to end up hitting the same wall of the "gentleman" they're looking for. Good luck to them, single mom life is hard too.
My cock will be part of the cock carousel, i'm single and not looking for LTR at the moment, just some steady fun, sex and meeting people, nothing too deep or serious, (totally taboo and extremist where I live,hypocrits though).
I've met some hookers and working girls and they're fun as friends, they talk about anything and generally just are happy people. The damage comes from projecting the results of bad decisions into others.
superhitops 2d ago
Single moms cannot avoid bringing drama. Actually, on their situation, it is mandatory part of the vetting: they need to filter for the types that can take or that want it, so drama must be brought as early as possible.
Hit and run.
ncstaterepted 2d ago
Young girls appreciate raw confidence even if it's unrefined. So keeping it simple really works best with them. For a lot of girls I'm the first and only guy who's ever approached them in public. They tell me that in different ways, and if they like you, that moment you picked them up, brought them back to your place, etc, will be the magic moment they remember and think about all the time.
"Hi, What's your name? Oh, nice to meet you, I'm x. Wow, you have as strong handshake! Oh, from your dad huh? Let's get coffee and you tell me about those secret techniques." A younger girl whos feeling u will be like hell yeah.
If you approach a Christmas cake like this, they might good puppy you, even if she's feeling you. "Wow, so confident! I don't do impromptu dates but I'd love to chat! What do you like to do when you're not working?" (she's feeling out for employment, museum, going out to eat, money activities)
When dating college girls, most of them are planning on being on the move within 2-4 years, though. So unfortunately although they are the highest quality available women they are not often looking to get pinned down to a man. They have things happening fast in their lives like graduating, job offers, secondary schooling, etc.
Young girls are way more exposed to hot guys, drugs, parties, etc. Lots of them love the old/young dynamic but aren't ready to express that in front of their social groups. GENERALLY the girl's friends are going to be against the older dude, unless it is they themselves dating him. Their biggest fear being that she meets a quality man and stops being a party whore with them. So she's not going to invite you to the art house rager that she's going to and she's not going to mention that the football team will be there tonight. If she behaves like this of course only FWB no commitment. But it's common.
Lots of younger girls want good dick, exciting dick, excitement, but they don't want relationship status or burden.
Younger girls have "bitches" now who are guys they can dial up at any moment and fuck. We call them simps or orbiters, the girls call them bitches, cause the guys these girls are fucking call their girls bitches. Women are really emulating the language and behavior of the most popular men they are fucking.
lambOfGod 2d ago
simps and orbiters don't fuck. What they're calling up is their fuckboys, the ones like me who get to fuck these hoes to sleep and not take them to dates or sugar daddy shit guys like you do.
Ofc, I don't give a fuck about them because they're just that, hoes. Most young girls view older men as sugar daddies or career advancement. These girls will never view you as someone to settle down with, they will do that around their 30s with the IT corporate fag that's been a good boy all his life waiting for the hoe to get her epiphany phase (which, as of 2025, is at around 24-25, not fucking 30s anymore).
As long as you're fine with the fact that you will have to provide something for her as an older guy to keep her around to just fuck, you do you, who cares.
But if you think they actually have genuine desire for you when there are ripped hot guys in their 20s who run trains on these college girls every week at a text message distance and a 15 min car ride, you are clearly the type of guy who found red pill near his 30s who for the life of him couldn't get his dick wet and it shows.
ncstaterepted 16h ago
simps and orbiters can fuck. a fuckboy is a simp - a sexual slave for a woman. she calls him, it's on her terms, and she wants nothing to do with him. while you're sitting on your phone wondering when she's going to call you, she's at my place trying to qualify to me by telling me that she has as many bitches (you) as I do.
Yes.. of course, that's what i said.
You are contradicting yourself.. I thought you were similar to me and didn't pay for women... but now you're talking about how you provide for them...
Yes, that's what I said. You repeated what I said again LOL. Once you start getting laid you will learn what it's like to be genuinely desired by a woman and have a frame of reference to draw your own conclusions.
AbusiveFather1 2d ago
Do you think it is feasible for an older man to compete with younger guys for genuine desire or it's just not in the cards and he should thus stick to his niche (sugardaddy) and supercompensate with money and status. If the said older man is taking very good care of himself (is also ripped and so forth).
Musicgoon78 2 20h ago
Fucking dumb... Older guys can compete if not surpass younger guys in genuine desire. Sugardaddy is just a nice way of saying rich old beta faggot.
In my 40's I've had girls 20 years younger than me buying me dinners, paying for hotel rooms to bang in and getting me gifts.
This idea of yours is a complete loser mindset when older guys are getting laid more than you can imagine.
lambOfGod 1d ago
it depends on how big the age gap is. if it's 15+ years it won't work because you don't have anything in common with a 20s girl not matter how much the guy in the gayosphere tell you that (ever wonder why? they're trying to grift since their audience is mostly older guys).
if its 7-around 12 years gap, it's feasible.
The reality is that the small niche (yes, it's fucking small, stop gaying yourself up) of young girls that are into old guys sees the relationship as a transactionary one. Most women DATE, SETTLE, FUCK and have GENUINE DESIRE within their age bracket or at most 5-max,max 10 years gap.
Once you understand that 80% of the content around the soyosphere (and gay millennial fags red pill content creators that want to grift because they went to a buttplug studies college and can't make any money) is retarded and autistic, you will see that women exhibit many social dynamic breeding patterns that men do too, at least on a surface level.
Only once you understand this and know yourself, the game will become easier as it will be second nature.
Youthness is where it's at. A 36 yr old man with a 25 yr old women will not be seen as that much of an outlier to the woman. A 50yr old with a 20 something or even early to mid 30s woman? It will not be the same dynamic dude. Most women are not attracted to gray hairs, as the fucking basement dwellers shitfags on TRT will have you think.
Go to any social event and see how repulsed young women are when gray hairs chat them up. They might act friendly, but they're scanning the room for a young hot guy to approach them and get them out of the interaction.
lambOfGod 6h ago
keep on dreaming you older fags about the copium these content creators serve you. Just make sure you tie that rope that you're gonna hang yourself with over delusion really hard so that you won't be able to come back to spew some of your spergings on an ADJ forum like this
SwarmShawarma 1d ago
That shit is tad skewed but ok.
Musicgoon78 2 2d ago
I know what I'm doing and I know who I am. Gaming is very easy.
Musicgoon78 2 15h ago
In my 20s I had no game and no idea how to be ok with sexuality.practice makes perfect and guys have higher DMV in there 30s and 40s.