I was shopping at the mall and a cute girl entered my space where I was looking at stuff so I struck up a conversation w her. I complimented her on her dress and we just made some small talk abt where she got it from, if she was dressed up for some event and what she was shopping for. She eventually brought up that she had a boyfriend. The thing that kind of made me think my approach was off was cause she said that “dating apps are terrible so I try to be polite to anyone that shoots their shot”.
Idk it just made me feel like I gave lonely incel vibes or some shit like that What do you guys think?
ncstaterepted 1d ago
Approach more than 1, friend. I have milfs and college girls following me through the store when I shop, staring at me at stop lights. Much of the time if I ever talk to these girls they become embarrassed or alarmed. 30% of them are into it and u have to find them
Lone_Ranger 2 15h ago
you need to stop being so invested in every approach. We have already explained this to you.
If it helps, stop thinking of an approach as 'an approach'. Just be friendly all the time to everyone. Strike up convos with everyone, on the reg, as part of your normal day.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3d ago
Doesn't really strike me as an attempt to answer your own question.
Also, was this your only approach since the FR a month ago? If so, why?
joyboy 3d ago
Yes. Because I keep pussying out. One of the girls working at a beauty store helped me while I was shopping for cologne, being friendly and whatnot (I did feel like she was being a little flirty at some point but didn’t know for sure). The interaction was over after she rang me up and I told her to have a nice day, but then she stopped me as I was leaving and kept the convo going, asking abt my bike. She asked like twice how it felt to ride one (I guess she wanted me to offer her to go for a ride sometime). Just couldn’t bring myself to do it
Musicgoon78 2 3d ago
You put in no effort you get no results. Simple as that. Sack up and keep going.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3d ago
I said my piece. It wasn't nice
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3d ago
I get rejected by 20 women a week what the fuck is your excuse? And I'm a god damn red pill admin
Stop being a fucking bitch and accept rejection, it's a fact of life
How many times have we told you hitting on girls who are working (their fucking livelihood) are just trying to get you through so.they can get to the next customer
You keep picking stationary trapped women who can't escape your approaches like a bitch. No wonder you are approaching women who can't fucking leave their post when you approach
Stop being such a fucking coward it's beyond obvious why you are targeting such women
Let me get this fucking straight, you picked a sitting fucking duck and even though she could have ended the interaction at any point she wanted she gave you an opening and you couldn't even be assed to try to invite her anyway?
You couldn't stomach the possibility of rejection so you didn't even try?
Fuck you. No seriously fuck you. Stop wasting our time
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3d ago
I'm only being harsh because you need to hear it
You are betraying yourself and then coming here in your own pity
Meanwhile other guys on here are slugging through rejections because it's a numbers game
Jesus man
@joyboy
Play the game or stop playing it
joyboy 3d ago
No that was a different girl. The one in the post wasn’t a worker it was just a girl shopping. And I don’t typically hit on workers I’m not stupid, that’s why I sidnt do anything but looking back it seems like she was the one making moves on me
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3d ago
Then your FRs need to be better if it's that confusing
Either way if you do not attempt to close you are wasting everyone's time here
Bozza 2 3d ago
Or she had a boyfriend and was just being polite. Point is she politely turned you down and the reasons are somewhat irrelevant, onto the next.
Just keep practicing, day in day out and you will slowly improve. You probably are awkward because you're not used to doing it, and as you practice you'll get better.
Once you have some success it really snowballs from there because you start hitting the positive feedback loops.