So I got some infection related problems and haven’t been able to fuck for like several weeks now due to low sex drive and risk of infection. Also I think it has lowered my testosterone, I have way less energy and tbh I‘m less dominant when with her. Treatment hasn’t really worked so far but if everything goes well this will be fixed in 1-2 weeks.
Our relationship dynamic just doesn’t work without the emotions from sex. At first she was patient but the past week she’s started to disrespect me and becoming more demanding. Also I’ve infected her at least 3 times over the past couple months and she associates my dick with STDs
How do I deal with this? I can’t just next her since she’s an LTR. I already decided I won’t marry this chick but I still want to keep her since we spend good time together and she lets me fuck other girls.
Attempt to answer own Q: spend less time with her, make her miss me. Doesn’t feel right to do this though
Vermillion-Rx Admin 23h ago
This is really shitty to have as a circumstance so you have my condolences
But why would you punish her for your infection? That seems fucked up
Are you finishing her with your hands or anything? Or is she just being left high and dry?
Don't punish your LTR for your infection. That's why it doesn't feel right to you because it's wrong
Own the consequences of this then. Sex isn't risk free. You introduced this situation into your life and the possibilities that come with it.
medstudentgerman2002 23h ago
Unfortunately she doesn’t like being fingered unless she’s very horny, and she hasn’t been getting that horny for me lately. The other day we tried having sex with condom and it didn’t really go that well, I noticed this and spat on her face and she blew up on me and said gtfo (I figured I’d rather give her a reason to stop the sex than have her endure mediocre sex that she doesn’t enjoy)
Overall our sex dynamic is based on me using her as I please. I don’t think I can convincingly get that type of thing going when I can’t use my dick and have low sex drive
Vermillion-Rx Admin 22h ago
Honestly dude your risky sex might have fucked up your relationship then if you have such a contingent sexual dynamic that can fall apart on a whim.
Most girls will also not be forever plates in one sided open relationships
The best you can do here is be patient and try to salvage whatever other parts of your relationship you have but seeing the writing on the wall your time is probably limited unless you can clear up the infection soon
Ronaldraygun77 23h ago
This does all sound rough. But even when you’re losing, there’s always the next best move to make.
If you don’t know to give her squirting orgasms, teach yourself now. It can be done with your dick or just your fingers. Remember;, she doesn’t associate being dominated with just your dick, she associates it with YOU. Manhandle her, thrown her on her back, wrap one hand around her throat while your fingers are insides her, make sure she knows who’s in control whether your cock is on FMLA or not. Trust me, lots of girls out there have never been MADE to squirt, and it’ll be something special she associates with you.
bjorn 22h ago
You fucked other girls and gave her an STD man. Three times! Wouldn't you hate someone who did that to you?