err...... don't live with her if she's your ex. terrible plan. fuck her by all means...... but the "we live together and fuck and you're free but I like your financial support" will breed resentment and she won't stick to it and 6 months down the road she'll be fucking up your life and fucking someone else.

Her and I went through a lot together and I do want to get back to her but I need to know what do u guys think.

stay friends.... fuck...... don't live together.

So you're living with her even though you're no longer in a relationship?

That's a terrible setup and will negatively affect your life. This is like TRP 101. You claim to have been lurking on this sub, but it's clear you've never even read the sidebar. So do that first.

Move out or make her move out. Get in shape. Bang other women (which is damn near impossible to do while you're living with an ex).

Everything else will work itself out. It's really that simple.

I’ve recently broken up with my first gf and we have been living together in SF.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #4 NEVER under any circumstance live with a woman you aren’t married to or are not planning to marry in within 6 months.

She’s going to medical school

Medicine is notorious for slutty women. Red flag.

At first we were going to live together but she’s has a lot of issues on me being beta (not being fit, no being able to deal with tough situations, and not being “man” enough).

Good that you're aware of this. Continue to boost SMV.

She does still want to keep me around and maybe a possibility to to live together next years because she wants to be on her own for the first year.

She wants to spend her first year going around fucking hawt guys. You will be waiting on the sidelines giving her free attention and getting zero pussy.

Her and I went through a lot together and I do want to get back to her but I need to know what do u guys think.

Fuck her. She dumped you to go and get fucked by other guys. Have some respect and never look back. Boost your SMV and go spin plates.

Here's what you do:

NEXT!

How long have you been together? You say she has issues with you being beta. Understand it is her having issues about the man you are now and not the one you can potentially become. Women won't likely invest in guys that need work done, she'd rather look for the guy that's already got it figured out. Some do and will fall into the "I can fix this man" thing, but that is usually for bad boys(thugs,jail guys,gangsters,criminals,even serial killers and your average Chad), not for guys that are not going to the gym.

Your issues, whether pointed by her or realized by you, have a solution.And that is where TRP and the sidebar come in,

Not being fit--------Work out,lose weight,gain muscle Not being able to deal with stressful stuff----------This is very situational, a fireman can handle pressure better than a programmer. Take MMA classes, train your reflexes and bond with the guys. Not being "man enough"---------Too abstract and possibly her trying to manipulate you into investing too much into your relationship, forget about that shit.

Living separately is a good thing, you can use the distance and freedom for whatever the fuck you want to do.You didn't feel sad for the breakup? Me either when I divorced and I still feel like a million bucks,

She still wants to keep you around for sex? She is handing you the opportunity to use her as a plate and for access to sex, use it for a long as you can. This is your time to focus on yourself, work on the gym and learn to handle high pressure situations ( I suggest reading Stoicism too).Usually the confidence from having a nice body, lifting heavy weights,doing complex workouts can splash on to being able to be the EMOTIONAL LEAD on the relationship.

If you want to plate her, as you say, she is giving that to you. Don't get your hopes up about a future with her, just use the access to sex and rapport to enjoy some fine sex. If she gets too intense just let her know you're gonna be working on yourrself FOR YOURSELF and leave the bitch, spin some plates and enjoy heing by yourself. Freedom is great.

Ex-girlfriends are like fast food. We know we shouldn't and it is not healthy, but we do it from time to time anyway.

Dude, If this wasn't a ready made lesson to you as to why you should not cohabit with or commit to a woman that you are not absolutely sure is going to stick around for the long haul....

I don't know what to tell you then.

She says she doesn’t want to look for guys and only wants to fuck me for now

And I got a freezer in Alaska to sell you.

As a general rule, wise men treat woman initiated breakups as a forever breakup. She's more than likely just keeping you around as a backup option in case slutting it up in LA doesn't work out and Dr Chad, MD (Massive Dong) doesn't want to upgrade her from booty call. Being mad or insecure about that is a waste of your time though, sloots gon sloot and nothing on your end will ever change their nature.

That being said, at least you are being handed a situation where you can eventually eject/ghost with minimal issues so long as you aren't dumb enough to let her reside with you again. Play it cool, get back to a solo residence again, work on yourself, and give her the exact level of consideration she gave you by bailing for better once you can get it. And going no-contact with her counts as better. If she wasn't willing to help you become a better man, then she does not deserve you once you are a better man.