You're coming at this from the wrong angle entirely. The best thing for you is to simultaneously keep pursuing women that are geographically closer (shotgun approach), so that you don't spend a lot of brain power overthinking "should I text this or that" to someone 3 hours away.

Long distance always boils down to scarcity. You wouldn't spend a lot of energy on this if you had other options that were closer. So it's the lack of options you should be focusing on - not composing the perfect text at the perfect time (sniper approach).

I wouldn't offer a sleepover if you haven't met yet. Being used for a bed is worse than being used for dinner (and sometimes sketchier too).

Personally I'd probably just give out positive vibes and let her know you two should connect if she's in town. The point is to make the invitation clear and inviting so she's more likely to actually reach out since women are terrified of rejection and generally will not reach out. Then I'd basically move on, maybe send a refresher text at some point in the future if it seems like she's likely to actually be in town (e.g. she mentions visiting for work etc.)

You're already over-invested into making this one option work out.

Put your energy into closer and more productive options. Don't have any? Put your energy into creating closer and more productive options.

As the other posters noted, be open to her hopping on your dick while she happens to be in town but do not fall all over yourself to arrange it. Desperation/scarcity are pussy repellent.

TRP isn't a password to unlock guaranteed pussy from a specific woman. It's realizing when a specific woman isn't going to be worth further effort to get pussy from, thus freeing you up to spend your energy more productively. If she truly wants your time and attention, she'll do what it takes to get it.

I'm not sure your experience level but even 1 hour away is hard.

I've had FWBs and some dates an hour away and that shit adds up. At best with 3 hours away you're looking at a one night stand

It is easy enough to maintain an hour away as long as you aren't doing something stupid like going exclusive (distance will cause plans to fall through for a number of reasons) then an hour isn't that bad but dude three?

This is a case of needing to have very low expectations. Unless there is a destination you are dying to see in her area or hers in yours where it would be worth the trip for that alone (even then, like I said, for a one night stand) because of the destination to see.

Outside of that you are too invested. If your area is that challenging that you need to look 3 hours outward, you need to improve your SMV, profile, and pics

I'm just giving you an idea: I'd think about keeping her around if the dates are extremely fine(great sex and getting along well), but only as a plate on your rotation,keep one near home and that one for a day off the city.

I still think it is kinda meh because you can just spin the plates near you,and you're not commiting to anyone right now so doesn't matter much if the plates find out about each other and/or break.

3 hour drives are for going to the beach or a hike or something, or cheating on your wife.

Don't bother. Find plates closer.

The only times I've ever managed to secure a plate with a significant distance was when I'd already met and fucked the girl in her hometown. Only then are they willing to spend time travelling to you to get fucked.

But even then, these plates are super fragile. As soon as someone half decent come along who's closer, the plate will break.

Personally would’ve dropped it to low effort when finding out she’s 3hrs away. There are thousands of hotter, nicer, more fun girls in your city. Get some of those.

Also, how does one create a post on the forum? Nothing against redpillschool but the site layout needs a bit more work