What are some other behavioral traps that guys can fall into, mistakes that will make a girl beta-zone him?
Here are some I can think of, off the top of my head:
-Confessing feelings to a girl, especially early
-Smiling in a total dork way
-Looking down in a sheepish submissive way
-Being seen as the 'follower' of another man 'leader' (but is there more context to this?)
-Hesitating in the approach for too long
-Shaming other men who say things that offend women, like a girl would do
-General emotional reactivity
-Being a simp
-Nervous awkwardness
-Having no muscle
Vermillion-Rx Admin 4d ago Stickied
You guys need to stop it with the memes
throwaway415 2d ago
contrary to popular belief, being an "alpha" has nothing to do with having money or muscles. it's entirely based on your mindset and how you carry yourself.
It just so happens that an alpha mindset is often conducive to financial success and physical strength, as guys with that sort of mindset tend to like to challenge themselves, they tend to be very goal oriented and unrelenting in their pursuit of fitness and financial goals, but those are just common byproducts of being an alpha, they don't make you an alpha in and of themselves. It's how you got there that really matters.
A guy can have no muscles and be broke as a joke and still be perceived as an alpha if he carries himself like one.
Similarly, a guy can be rich as hell and yoked like Hulk Hogan, and still be treated like a beta because he has a beta personality
TL;DR its all in your head
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First-light 4d ago
Value yourself realistically, act positively.
Both are needed. You can't fake not being beta by acting above your value. You will probably not pull it off, if you do you can't sustain it. If you are poor, you can't sustain a rich man's lifestyle. If you are not an athlete you can't sustain athletic performance. If you are not socially capable, it will show sooner or later. If you are not good at pleasing women in bed, she will find out. If you are emotionally needy, you can't hide behind a touch facade and then get cross and controlling when she appears to move away from you without her realising you are weak and insecure and so on and so on.
So know your abilities and then act positively like you expect good to happen and take bad if it comes as either bad luck or experience. Acknowledging your weaknesses btu being positive about them will get you much further than trying to copy what strong looks like to you. In a short term tight spot be positive, act strong but long term, you have to be yourself.
nr_guidelines 2d ago
Sure, but some of these things listed also just seem like beta lifestyle choices which should be stopped to make room for better paths. Like I don't know how one could be a simp in an alpha way, if it's possible it'd be news to me
No-Stress-Cat 3d ago
Add this to the list:
-Giving a fuck what women think.
-Asking for permission to do shit.
-Taking a woman's advice.
Musicgoon78 2 4d ago
The best way to avoid it is simple: Be decisive. Decide what you want to do and do it. 100 percent of the time.
Don't concentrate on being an alpha male. That shit is for fagtards. You'll look autistic by trying too hard. Simply have fun.
Talk to everyone and listen well. Being good at conversations is key.