Scarcity mindset. There may be some women who have done those things and are still relationship worthy. But most aren’t. So why would you take that gamble. Your mistakes from which you gain nothing, and their “mistakes” when they were younger are two totally different things. Do you think they regret what they did or regret that they can’t get married now?

Being judge jury and executioner about her past is a fool's errand. First, you never know the truth. So I generally don't want to know about whatever interpretations exists (usually hers) of a woman's past.

I'm old enough now they all have one, I mean dating women above age 20, and if they don't it just means they don't YET. If a woman doesn't tell you she cheated that doesn't a) mean she has never cheated and b) mean she will never cheat on you. And I'm never committing myself to the degree where it matters, if her getting gangbanged at 15 is somehow relevant to today then when that becomes apparent I'll just dump her.

All you can really do is go by how she responds to you, how she acts towards you, and enjoy and appreciate that for what it is which is a moment in time. Placing bets that her past will be like her future is a dangerous game

Granted some situations are more extreme and you may just not choose to spend your time on them, being more confident in the outcome. If she has banged 100 guys, my gangbang at 15 example is actually too extreme, etc. But your run of the mill woman who has jumped on the carousel, nothing you're gonna be able to do about that.

Its unclear to me what do you ask? Forgive her what she did in the past to someone else? I almost dont care. You dont have the whole picture.

If you talk about forgiving her cheating on me, no that I would not do. I forgive women a lot of misbehave because they are emotional mess, they do stupid shit, but cheating or writing with other guy no, that I would not excuse.

Yes we all need second chances sometimes. Its about whether we have learned from the last mistake or not. It takes a long time to learn what is going on inside a woman's head. Don't rush in with second chances but also don't be dumb enough to withhold the possibility.

Consider how much of a repeat offender you are looking at. Make 10 mistakes and ask for a 11th chance and you are going to need to show some serious reformation that you have already done or I would be really really dumb to give you that chance.

I have a female friend. She broke up with her first boyfriend and then cheated on her 2nd boyfriend with the 1st.

She is very active, very respectable, a good person, and has her head screwed on a lot better than most women.

So why did she cheat? Boyfriend number 2 was an absolute pussy. He spent all his days crying about where she was and what she was doing. He needed comfort and contact 24/7. Disgusting. Then BF 1 walks back in the picture and I doubt there was much thought there.

Sure she felt guilty, but I do not blame her at all. She broke up with that wimp and I do not doubt that she will be loyal to her current boyfriend... Unless he turns into a wailing bitch as well.

So yes, just because a woman has cheated on her ex in the past that does not mean she is damaged goods. More than once? That's a different question. Once a mistake, twice a coincidence. Three times a pattern.