I've known this girl for over 20 years but only online. She visited me one time when I was living with my parents in college. During Christmas she reached out and told me that she wished that we fucked when she was there and once I affirmed to her that I would have liked that too we started exchanging some pretty dirty messages back and forth. She then would reach out to me and ask me how my day was going and I made sure each conversation ended on a sexual note. She also told me about some of her problems, which, given that I'm her friend, I allowed her to do. My assumption is that this backfired and she stopped reaching out to me so much by the end of January. We were supposed to fuck in March but she said she is going "on a ski trip" so we scheduled for April. Worth noting that up until yesterday she never discussed dates, just a vague confirmation that we'll hang in March or, later on, April
I reached out in mid February with "hey how's it going, how's x going" type of message but she didn't respond for almost two weeks. She reached out yesterday with a shit test: "been avoiding discord, are you green or blue text" which I defused with a sex joke and then told her to give me her number and to tell me when she's coming to see me in April. She told me she is now going on another trip so April is now out which prompted me to respond irregularly with minimal amounts of words as I realized game was now necessary. This dread seemed to work as she would hit me with multiple lines of text including her number. We then planned out the 3rd attempt (which I don't think is actually going to happen) for June. No sex talk happened
My question is: in between now and then I plan on sending sex themed memes once or twice a week to keep the connection alive and keep it sexual. We've exchanged them before. I've never had to game a chick over text for this long until we supposedly fuck. Thoughts?
Musicgoon78 2 1mo ago
Jesus weeps for you! What the fuck is this bro? She's gets an emotional tampon and validation and you get to send her sexual messages?
This isn't worth your time. Go out and start gaming local women that will actually meet up with you. Get rid of this fairytale romance idea that's in your head.
asscondoms 1mo ago
Thank you for your reply
With all other chicks I would have ghosted and blocked her by now but because we were friends for so long I thought oscillating between both friend and alpha would work and was to a certain extent necessary given the friendship. Personally I'm curious to see where this ends up. I've already accepted that sex will likely not happen but since I've never had to game a chick via over 3 months like this so I want to see what happens. The emotional stuff is now cut out, that's why I asked about only texting her sex stuff from here on out. Given the replies so far I will be going radio silent. I have 0 intention of seriously getting with this chick
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
This post is so down bad that even Jesus couldn't turn these tears into wine
asscondoms 1mo ago
Haha I like that, gunna steal it from you
Honest question: is it really that bad to pursue certain techniques or methodologies even knowing that it's a failure if it means possibly learning something? I realize most would see it as a waste of time but I feel like having a variety of experiences under your belt is good for growth. I'm not under any real impression that this will even happen at this point, I just want to see what I can get out of this at this point
Musicgoon78 2 1mo ago
If you feel like developing bad habits and being a sucker is a net positive, by all means continue to waste your time and be a fool.
pofkaf 1 1mo ago
Do not reach out to her again unless it is to set a specific date. I repeat. Do not reach out to her for ANYTHING else. No sex jokes, no "how's it going," no discussing her problems.
If you wanted ro smash when she was around, you should've escalated. Failure to do so on your part made you seem like a complete beta in her mind. No wonder why she's flaking.
Find some girls irl.
asscondoms 1mo ago
Thank you for your reply
Fair enough. I was a big time beta when she visited a long time ago so I can definitely see how that permanently branded me as one in her mind. Like I told someone else at this point I'm now pursuing this as a way to add experience and potentially improve game but I'll stand down. I'm still gaming girls in real life but I'm always looking for ways to get experience and improve myself wherever I can, including situations like this one.
To your point: we have set a date so with your advice in mind I'll go radio silent
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
Make plans. If she turns them down next? What is she, your personal long distance OnlyFans ho?
asscondoms 1mo ago
Thank you for the reply
Ha. We set a date in June but like I said I'm already of the mentality that it's not happening. If she flakes then oh well, hard next. There are plenty of women in NYC so no scarcity mindset here.
I'm viewing this whole thing as a learning opportunity, especially since my text game and general RP knowledge always need sharpening.
If it happens it happens if it doesn't it doesn't. Life goes on and there's always another girl around the corner
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 1mo ago
This reads like she's stringing you along for attention.
Generally speaking, if a woman wants to fuck you, she'll move mountains to do so and will make it easy for you. Anything else, especially more than once, means she's really not interested.
If she has real scheduling issues with your suggestions, she'll offer alternatives. If she only turns down your invitation without offering alternatives, then she's not interested.
Why are you wasting your time on this crap? Is she your only prospect?
asscondoms 1mo ago
Thank you for the reply.
I agree.
I've never converted a friend of this many years to potential fuck buddy given this context so I was curious to see if it was worth it to potentially improve my text game. I remember reading some posts a while ago from some guys about having to go beyond logistics only when texting in situations where you won't see the girl for a while and considering we were friends for so long I thought it may be worth it for me to give that a shot but at this point I won't be doing it.