Long story short I fucked my ex coworker last week and to clarify for everyone saying I was shitting where I ate I literally didn’t do anything till I quit.
She confessed to basically being in love with me for months after I ignored her for two days. Told me she was going insane. Called me 7 times this weekend and came over to fuck.
She literally started confessing how she was picking her outfits specifically on how I reacted to them, she would wear the perfume I like . She started doing things she knew she was interested in. She told me she lied about a tv show we both watched and watched the entire show because she knew I liked it.
Anyways I’ve read Mallarcove you’re not her top option but it seems like I am. However, a couple of months ago she made comments about her work crush who clearly wasn’t me having a girlfriend. She also stated she started developing feelings for me around then, but was attracted to me for a long time which I can see based on the comments she made on my appearance.
Does this eliminate her from LTR contention? Is it something I should be concerned with a lot of posts in the search said this. But it seemed like those girls are way less interested. confronting her seems like a bad idea. Is it wise to even bring it up?Kinda makes me sick.
Anyways I also have 3 dates with 3 different women next week so im ready to pivot if need be.
No-Stress-Cat 1y ago
All women are eliminated as LTR material. You're going to have to wait for your next life to find a woman who is good enough to be a wife. It's going to take many generations to fix the mess society is in, and I'm afraid you're not going to live that long. Plan accordingly.
RedRedRed 1y ago
Don't stick your dick in crazy. Let her take herself out of your rotation.
Musicgoon78 3 1y ago
Who fucking cares? Are you planning on marrying this hoe?
Let me try to explain this to all the guys reading that don't really understand: If you and a girl are fucking regularly, you don't have a problem. Of course, you can always go out and look for something small to nitpick and create a problem for yourself, but you don't actually have a problem. Problems start when she stops fucking you. That's when things are going to shit.
Durek_The_Bald 1y ago
Beware of love bombing. It tends to go hand in hand with personality disorders. If there's a voice in the back of your mind that says something's off here, listen to that voice. From the little you've told about her, she sounds emotionally unhinged - the sort of girl who falls easily in and out of love/lust, and obsesses when into it. Can be fun and flattering short term, but nightmarish long term. Possibly disastrous short term as well, when the emotional unhingedness turns into vindictiveness.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
You shouldn't be remotely thinking about an ltr one week after fucking. You should have been dating exclusively before even considering a relationship
Secondly, she only just now fucked you so what are expecting if she has multiple options that probably hadn't fucked her yet. People who aren't fucking anyone usually have a few options in case none pan out
3rd, she's already lying about TV shows
Bro what the fuck read human sock puppets guide to bitch management i don't know why guys always immediately wonder about LTRs the second you get your dick wet instead of just continuing to fuck the girl
ogrilla99 1y ago
My dude, let me introduce you to borderline personality disorder: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/borderline-personality-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20370237
Being the top option to a normal girl is good and healthy for a relationship. She likes you and takes care of you but also is her own person. Being the top option for a borderline personality chick is what gets you amazing sex and obedience followed by your house set on fire and your dog poisoned.
It's up to you if you want to stick your dick in crazy, but if you do, never give her a key to your house, and make sure all of your insurances (auto, house / renters, health, and life) are up to date.
AbusiveFather1 1y ago
She was never in the race to begin with. It’s just the honeymoon phase; I suggest you find another girl that will make you as happy as this one because the time you have with this one is running out, as is par for the course
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Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 1y ago
An LTR really can't ever be your goal. You can be open to the possibility, but actively seeking one isn't going to go well for you.
It is. It'll just give her a chance to manipulate you.
I've never dealt with BPD myself, but from everything I've read and heard about it, this sounds like BPD.