I've heard 2 sides. Some say yes, do it, approach or if you see them frequently you can ask them out 3rd time you see them after some small talk.
Some say it's pointless to eye out girls because that gives them attention and power in some way, thus "we need to be on our mission and not look at obstacles".
Or we can make eye contact with a girl in a club or elsewhere just to test if they like us back and then approach them?
Before I was making eye contact with every girl I see just to see my SMV and to practise, it'd give me a boost of confidence sometimes especially when they smile or look at me.
What's the correct mindset to this?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago Stickied
This is overthink dude. At this rate you are never going to take off your training wheels and stop being stuck at incompetence.
Start applying the material dude. You are analyzing the microcosms of TRP into analysis paralysis and I'm just going to start deleting your posts if they look like this.
You're doing yourself a tremendous disservice. Your next 3 posts better be field reports of you trying this shit.
Masun Can't think for myself 1mo ago
I did post a field report here and then I explained my methods and what results I did get and still got comments like this.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
Because you over thought in your FR as well.
Keep posting FRs. I'm deleting analysis paralysis questions from all the n00bs going forward
Masun Can't think for myself 1mo ago
Will do. Generally I am an overthinker and I really need to tone down that. Heard meditation helps; something to keep me in the present.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
Yes you need to stop overthinking. Women overthink. Men act
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
To answer your question, it depends. It's not a magical formula. Some times you happen to make eye contact with them, some times it's the other way around. Go with the flow your question is sheer autism.
General rule of thumb is that women don't do much by accident. They usually look, touch, talk on purpose
Stop overthinking it's getting pathetic. No woman wants a guy who can't think for himself. No girl is getting wet for the guy overthinking the living fuck out of whether he should be comfortable make eye contact without it being an existential and philosophical power struggle.
Fucking look at them if you want to telegraph a quick ioi and see if they give you a green light. Dear Lord dude. Sometimes it's you sometimes it's them. It's a basic as shit social interaction that sometimes heavily progresses a set to start and have an interested tone to it. That's all it is
You and our guys on here need to go with the fucking flow and have fun. Women hate this shit you guys ask on here. Go live your life
It's not a power struggle ffs, you are looking at a complete stranger, which is generally against regular social decorum, so that you two might quickly fuck and make it sexual from stranger to sex. So of course one of you should look at each other dear lord
Masun Can't think for myself 1mo ago
Why do you think not looking or opposite if what you said on RP? Many self proclaimed gurus on social media advocate against "making strong eye contact"
Musicgoon78 2 1mo ago
Who said this? And where?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
You shouldn't stare down random women. It's fucking weird. You should give non threatening confident eye contact.
Some of this should be common sense. Stop mentally masturbating
Masun Can't think for myself 1mo ago
I was obviously talking about a normal eye contact not staring, but yeah lots of them do stare too long.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
that's the clarification, make normal ey contact and be confident about it. Just don't stare awkwardly as hell
coolsocks00 1 1mo ago
What usually gets em is the strong initial eye contact into disinterest. Trust
Masun Can't think for myself 1mo ago
So you mean if I give them a strong eye contact they will begin to be disinterest in me? How does that make sense?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
No, you give them firm eye contact and then YOU show them disinterest right after
Lone_Ranger 2 1mo ago
dear lord sweet jesus
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
It's an option. Since he didn't get the original point of the above comment
First-light 1mo ago
Generally women are waiting for guys they fancy to ask them out.
You have to let her know you like her and get her wanting to be asked. Eye contact is a very good opener and it tests the waters -does she hold the contact, do you catch her glancing back.
OK it gives them some sort of power but you have to give them some sort of power or nothing heats up in their minds. The power of possibility is very powerful to women, it is part of hypergamy -something new, something better might happen.
Lone_Ranger 2 1mo ago
I find it almost impossible to reply to these kinds of questions without sarcasm.
Sigh.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 1mo ago
I couldn't resist this time.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 1mo ago
Yes. They use their feminine mystique to siphon away some of your masculine essence from your soul. Make enough eye contact with enough women enough times, and it's curtains for you.
You should always be staring at the ground to prevent this.
(do I really need the /s?)
Musicgoon78 2 1mo ago
The correct mindset is who gives a fuck! This type of worry or question isn't going to help you out in the slightest with women. If you can't just be a normal person that makes normal eye contact women will hate you. The more you think about this, the more you are fucking yourself over. Is that what you desire?
Problematic_Browser 1 1mo ago
What the shit is this?
Stop overthinking it. Just look at people like a normal person.
No-Stress-Cat 1mo ago
Basic psychology. Eye contact is important in asserting your confidence, but you don't want to go overboard and make it uncomfortable. At that point, you're asserting aggression. This goes for both men and women.
mattyanon Admin 1mo ago
Solid mutual eye contact shows both interest and attraction.