Generally what are good initial steps when moving to a new city, and also what would you do to establish social status, especially outside of the bar and clubbing scene? Assuming you can't rely on wealth or social media status (no IG).

Get out there and DO STUFF. Find stuff that you can do that you enjoy that also has a social element. You get social status by being attractive and providing value to others, so go do that.

Also for those that have experience with either Manchester or London

UK?

London is an amazing place, you should try a capital city at some point.

tbh - this question sounds a bit weird.

why are you focusing on 'social status'? what are trying to achieve? 'foundation in the community' sounds a bit....well.... deranged.

Wherever you go, just focus on building up your connections with real people. Focus on making friends and contacts. Would suggest that you immediately join some clubs, such as Tennis, or whatever you are into. Cycling, hiking whatever - but don't expect to gain 'status'... just do it for fun and social interaction.

That is very different from 'social status' and 'foundation in the community'.

Clubs for activities you're interested in. Volunteer for things your passionate about. Reoccurring public events, think group activities like hikes, yoga in the park, farmers markets. Join a league or rec sports team. Mentioning you're new in town helps. Work/clinicals could offer opportunity too.

I did this when I moved from the USA to Wales for a few years. Like anywhere, I noticed that people don't trust outsiders. They'll be polite, and helpful as you learn your way around, but until you can speak their "language", they will never view you as "one of us."

So the first thing I did was interact regularly with the people working in the small shops, just a regular customer. I would listen to what they say, how they talk, and started picking up a few words here and there. In the meantime, when at home I would research the area, learn some of the local customs, and the local language.

Before long, I was able to say things like "good morning" and "how are you", the basic stuff, and they became a little more welcoming. I would interact with my neighbors, "I'm trimming my hedges today, would you like me to trim yours as well?" They became more and more friendly, wanting to chat when I was out an about. Eventually, you become like another interesting part of the area, "That guy is the American who lives in my village. He's a good guy."

Then you can branch out, pop down to the bar and chat with the guys, learn some new hobbies, and make some connections. If you need something, it's a matter of, "Hey, do you know anyone who can ....?" (everyone knows someone who can ...). You just kind of...merge into the local life and become "one of us."

It was a great experience. I would highly recommend anyone to travel and stay (not just tour) for a while in a foreign country. To face the reality of a completely different culture is really an eye-opening experience.

what are your hobbies? when I move to a new city, I try to make friends in hobby-related clubs that interest me. you could also get together with your male coworkers, just make sure they're not cunts first