I got this best friend that i’ve known since i was 5 years old. I’m 28 and he is 27. We’ve always been close and done a lot of wild shit together, so he’s more of a brother to me. He always was going for girls early on and naturally has that cocky/funny and confident attitude which led me to falsely believe that he is more naturally red pilled than he is.
He went to college, got a decent job making relatively good money for a single dude, but he’s very ambitious in his career and learning (IT).
Last year he got into a relationship with this 24 year old “country girl” from out in some tiny hick town. She told him about her “past” which involved living in a “coke house” with a bunch of dudes or something to roughly that effect.
I take this to mean that basically she rode the CC, and now she found a nice, ambitious, loyal suburban guy with a good job and a future to lock down. Which i guess is fine, but i don’t think he understands the dynamic.
What bugs me though is they just moved in together, and more and more they’ve both been blasting their relationship all over social media with pictures of them kissing and shit. and i’m just like bro, she is using you , your gonna get her pregnant and it’s gonna be done.
I really am just trying to figure out what kind of girl she is, she said to him recently, “ill give you a blowjob if you pay for my Subway” which i thought was weird after being in a relationship for over a year and maybe some kind of compliance test to see if she can get him to provide by using sex.
then after they moved in together she let him do anal for the first time. She acts like she’s such a sweet girl but i’ve met her friends and they are trash
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
Ok.
You're right.
But here is the thing:
HE WILL NOT LISTEN TO YOU.
So say nothing. Be there for him when it goes to hell, but there is no way he will ever listen to you.
They never do.
pofkaf 1 1y ago
Nothing you can do except lead by example, and support him when the relationship crashes.
Goingthedistance 1y ago
Under any circumstance, do not tell him she's a hoe or try to Red pill him. You will lose him as a friend 100% as he will choose her over you anytime any day. What you need to do is be his strong brother and nudge him into the right direction but you have to make it look like he was the one that had the idea of being RP.
First-light 2 1y ago
The warning signs are all over this one that she sells sex for stuff. The price always goes up while the novelty wears off the sex. The poor guy will get burned or enslaved.
Musicgoon78 3 1y ago
I think you should stop this. It's his life and his mistakes to make. We don't give a shit if he does anal with this chick. Why do you?
Focus on your own life. All your going to do is lose a friend if you try to open his eyes to her shit..
TheBarber 1y ago
i don’t give a fuck if he does anal with his bitch, that’s that’s not what i meant at all. i’m just giving an example of the way this girl rewards him for his provider behavior. i am not trying to do anything about it. and i’m not talking to him about it either. i am focused on myself but i’m just analyzing what’s going on there so i can learn from it and see what type of girl she is
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
Not your problem.
Either it works out or she red pills him.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Don't try to be a Red Knight
What makes you think he's going to listen to you over his only source of sex who is now moved in to his house? You think he's going to magically listen to you under these circumstances?
You're going to lose a 19 year friendship over a transactional whore. Why do you care? How does this affect your life personally? Let his relationship crash and burn and then talk to him
TheBarber 1y ago
I dont see the part of my post where I said I planned on saying anything to him?
He constantly analyzes her to me and shares stuff about their relationship to me, and I usually dont say much besides what I think is positive about her. In fact I dont think I have said a bad word about her to him or to anyone else, I also was telling another friend who was saying shes weird that she is actually cool.
MrSupreme 1y ago
Sounds like he got a good deal, a spicy sexual relation including blowjobs and anal, a loyal girl that probably cooks and cleans, maybe talks good about him too when he aint around.
I think youre expecting that because you found TRP you should know better and other guys shouldnt be getting a good deal if they're not red pilled.
Worry about your own life, the day you start telling him something is off about her is the day you start killing your friendship.
Here's a twist: try to befriend her too, or at least do stuff together with them, so you get to know the bitch better and find out who she really is
She raised some red flags with the coke house and possible CC riding ways,thats all.
TheBarber 1y ago
It seems like you think I am jealous or mad about his relationship and I'm really not sure why. I do talk good about him when he aint around, constantly actually. Was just just recently having to defend him and his family to another "friend" of ours the other day. I wasnt shit talking him in my post whatsoever, except for saying that he's possibly less red pilled than I thought. Everyone must not have noticed all the good things I said about him. I better get right on my knees shouldnt I?
And no , you are totally wrong, I am not expecting that because I found TRP that he shouldnt be having a good relationship naturally occur. If I wished that for him then I'd be a shit friend, and clearly, I dont know better since I am not in a relationship. I aint afraid to admit that I dont know fucking shit. at no point in time was I ever planning on talking to him about his girl.
On the flip side, he constantly analyzes his girl to me, and tries to get my opinion, which is probably why its on my mind in the first place at all.
I didnt realize that if i tried to objectively analyze my buddys relationship that now I'm talking shit about him behind his back, sounds emotional to me honestly. I didnt really look at it that way.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 1y ago
Some lessons have to be learned the hard way. This is one of those.