4 months this one plate is obsessed with me and pays for everything and shit tests me sometimes if I can pay and I dismiss and she laughs and pays with no problem.
Lately this girl has been bitching at me that I should “respect” her more and had started bringing up how much money she spent on me and blah blah blah(Probably BB pays for everything and she wants the same)
I usually just switch subject or walk away and it goes away until after the next time we fuck.
She is also bitching to her friends over text that there’s a guy that doesn’t pay for anything and never bought a meal blah blah
This has being going on for the last 2 weeks
This girl wants to eat out every time I see her. She has rich parents and she makes really good money so she can afford it. I can’t. so I come along for the free wine and dine and she pays and then we fuck hard.
That is the arrangement we have and it’s been going good until really really recently when she went to a few of her friends weddings in a short amount of time and watching loser BB getting secured for life by her friends and the whole stupid marriage fantasy.
I don’t want to pay for even one meal. And I don’t want to split 30 bucks on dinner when I can cook some eggs at home and save my money.
But on the other side this girl probably spent 1000 dollars on me on food alone and probably feels used.
How to handle? I feel like if pay for one meal next time to show her some comfort she will expect every meal to be paid or at least split, so not doing that at all.
Problematic_Browser 1 7mo ago
She's a plate, so the fuck what? If she's not happy with the arrangement, she can go.
financehardo420 Should i (x1) 7mo ago
Zelle me 10k and I’ll intro you to some ppl. Fkin sperg
derdeutscher 7mo ago
Often plates cant go on forever. Three options here:
1) break up with her 2) show more decency but still keep plate status 3) relationship
Go with either number one or number two.
financehardo420 Should i (x1) 7mo ago
First of all this fuckery is 100% stemming from her friends getting married n shit. Her lil hamster brain is spinning n she’s prob trying to compete w her friends.
As for solution 2 possible compromises:
Idk if you’ve explained your logic but explain to her that you don’t like eating out. Say it’s bad for your gainz or some shit; don’t say it’s cause you’re a brokie. Say you only eat out on special occasions and invite her to one of em at some point.
Final thoughts: yeah fuck paying for these hoes but if you’ve been clapping for a while like I totally do not think it is “beta” or “simping” to reward her every once in a while for being a good little slut. If she really keeps bitching tell her you’ll buy her chick fil a lol
Lone_Ranger 3 7mo ago
Are you interested in this woman as a long term partner? yes or no?
you omit this important detail.
financehardo420 Should i (x1) 7mo ago
He says plate so I’d guess probably not
First-light 1 7mo ago
This is, as was to be expected, moving from an infatuation to "can we build a relationship?"
Would you build a relationship with a women who made you pay for everything? A good few men would but they are not here. Very few women would. When women extract money form men its unfair, that works the other way around too.
You have 3 choices.
You may well decide that option 3 and its necessary compromise is too much like hard work. In that case she is not for you, revert to option 1 and don't be sad when it breaks.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 7mo ago
Alright man there is something about not paying for her but making a woman buy you shit endlessly might be funny at first but it's not a flex. Sure it's a good laugh and a sigh of interest but honestly dude that shit doesn't stay funny forever
Why the fuck is she paying for everything? Ffs drop your fake alpha shtick and buy your own crap. She has a legitimate complaint. Yes, I've had women buy me shit, i don't expect it. How is this repeatedly coming up? I doubt she just offers unsolicited every time. Buy your own damn shit you're a man
mattyanon Admin 7mo ago
Counterpoint: she wants to eat out, he wants to eat in.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 7mo ago
Maybe. It's unclear.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 7mo ago
I mean, if she offers, why not take her up on it?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 7mo ago
I have a feeling that isn't what's going on. I have a feel he fake alphad his way through this and they have a very weird dynamic where he does or says something indicating she should pay, up to and including awkwardly standing there when the bill comes and looking at her
I highly doubt she is just offering each time
Wkekdkek 7mo ago
I understand what you are saying. But..
She is from a rich family and she makes good money herself. She is used to going out to eat everyday and getting delivery when she is lazy. She has not cooked at home the whole year except for me when I asked for it.
She is spoiled, if she wants to spoil me as well, why not? It makes her happy and she always asks me what I want to eat and if I’m full and want more.
That is the arrangement we have and it’s been going good until really really recently when she went to a few of her friends weddings in a short amount of time and watching loser BB getting secured for life by her friends and the whole stupid marriage fantasy.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 7mo ago
Look man I'll im saying is it sounds like she doesn't actually want to and it's wearing thing. Keep it going at your own risk. You making excuses isn't going to change human nature. Sure, keep doing it until she breaks as a plate I guess. I'm just telling you when a woman indicates clear frustration with something it doesn't magically vanish via ignoring it
Dxmx99 7mo ago
He said, paraphrased
There's two lines of thought.. she invites him out and wants him to pay.. she ends up paying because he blows her off. That's fair play IMO as she initiated the date and doesn't have the game to insinuate he pays his way.
The other is he is making her always pay for shit when they agree to hang out and end up going somewhere after the fact. She knows she can afford it and is willing but wants him to step up because she's also looking to be provided for, naturally. Paying would be required if he cares about developing an LTR. If not.. sucking it dry until it goes away doesn't even matter.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 7mo ago
Regardless of what was said to here, there is a frustration and frustrations always boil over the top. OP can address it or accept it when his turn ends sooner
EurasianChad 1 7mo ago
Haha I used to do the same too man. I find it hilarious when some simp pays for her food & she ends up getting it to go, and brings it to me. All you gotta do is provide good times, vibes, and good D.
Watch out though, she might try to baby trap you to secure your commitment. Her toxic friends are probably gonna convince her to try some rat shit so keep yourself protected.
Wkekdkek 7mo ago
Thanks for the warning. You are completely right. I need to stop with the creampies
EurasianChad 1 7mo ago
Try inviting her to your house, say you'll cook for her. Split the eggs. When she complains, say the protein is good for her physique. Say it'll make her more desirable.
financehardo420 Should i (x1) 7mo ago
Bro is diabolical
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 7mo ago
Skittles Man detected!
redhawkes 2 7mo ago
Keep doing what you're doing mane. Maybe in her head, she's trying to upgrade herself to LTR status.
Maxim #21: Betas pay, alphas split, super alphas profit.
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mattyanon Admin 7mo ago
Right.
She has detected that she can extract resources from you.
You're here talking about it, so she has detected weakness.
Ok, serious suggestion for you...... work out something awesome you are offering her and make sure she knows it. Social life, hard dick, fun times.... literally anything that she values.
If you're not offering anything she values then you're fucked any which way, so may as well double down on that.
Worst case it ends. Plates break.
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