Hello,
I have met this chick 2 months ago on her trip in my city. We had a great time until we separated. We ambiguously discussed meeting in NYE which later turned serious with me giving her a direct invite.
She later mentioned that price tickets are high, she can't afford coming during NYE, and would be coming a week later. When she was mentioning her plans she didn't mention anything about us meeting but framed it a way that she'd be visiting her grandmother. She then asked me directly after that about my plans during that time period. I didn't react to her plans, but I did mention I'd like to see her but after NYE would be difficult due to my work condition. She said that she'd also like to meet but lets not make it mandatory, if we will want to meet we will meet. I just moved on, until she asked as to why I'd be busy and I left the conversation at that.
I am seeing other women currently every weekend, but I do recognize I like this girl much more than anyone I am currently dating.
I was turned off by the 'lets not make it mandatory' comment, therefore I went radio silence.
What do you think about the ambiguity?
MrSupreme 1y ago
Shes just not making it happen dude, dont make plans with her for NYE,let her hang in there,and youre one foot into oneitis, snap out if it,it doesnt seem like shes in the same boat Enjoy other girls!
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Musicgoon78 3 1y ago
Go after what you want. Girls want to be pursued. They don't want someone to get butthurt and go radio silent, they want to be wanted. That lets not make it mandatory was a small shit test. She wouldn't be throwing it out there just to shoot you down. Learn to be direct as fuck it will get you further.
Tell her you want time with her and that her grandma will have to go without for a small while when you two are together.
AbusiveFather1 1y ago
yes = yes
no = no
maybe/ambiguous = no
No-Stress-Cat 1 1y ago
This is her plausible deniability. She wants you to fuck her.
You can't blame her for tickets being too expensive. The economy is in tough shape right now for everybody.
I'd just roll with her story. "Oh yeah, you're visiting your grandmother? You're a good girl. Perhaps you deserve...a reward." Fuck her when she rolls into town, and see where it goes from there. You never know, she might need to...visit her grandmother more often.
First-light 2 1y ago
As you can tell from the different replies to this -there is not enough information here to know. Going radio silence on a question is a bad move. That I am pretty sure of. She probably wanted to work out why you were lukewarm, if your reason was good enough.
She is not too interested. Women who "can't afford stuff" are usually bad news anyway. They can afford things they want and want bailing out for other things.
If you want her, you will need to make a move, show interest, try to make plans and risk getting turned down. There is not enough evidence to say she is bad news or that she is not interested but there is a lack of clear strong interest. On the other hand what loss is one attempt? Some people do warm up with expressions of interest.
Mofreer 1y ago
A fair assessment. She did actually reach out to me yesterday, we chatted for a bit but we didn't speak regarding our last conversation.
My gut feeling is telling me she's interested. So, I'll bring this topic again, show interest regarding it, and see what happens
First-light 2 1y ago
Good luck with it. Her reaching out to you is a pretty good sign.