I (27M) was at a festival the other day, saw this girl (23F/HB9), approached her, got her contact. She hit me up that same night and we hung out at a different place. We met two more times after that, had sex, and genuinely enjoyed our time together.
I really like this girl, not just physically but emotionally too. She gets my humor, has a great relationship with her family and female friends, which I found really attractive. The issue is she lives in a different country (she was here on vacation). While it's easy for both of us to travel, it’s still long-distance, and I’d like to get to know her better and keep things alive.
However, she stopped texting completely after she flew back to her country 3 days ago. Before that, she’d always message me thanking me for the great time we had. Now, there’s been radio silence. I haven’t tried to contact her either, as I don’t want to come off as needy.
I don’t mind long-distance for now. I’m not saying I’d commit yet, but I want to keep things going until she comes back for New Year's to see if there’s something to pursue. The reason I’m asking for advice is because I’ve definitely got a case of oneitis. I went out and talked to other women, but I couldn’t stop thinking about her.
Should I initiate texting, or just wait it out?
mattyanon Admin 1w ago
Boyfriend.
Long distance?? Dude, she isn't even responding to you.
That's not long distance, that's a non-relationship.
Sure, text her..... but it sounds like she's not interested in the context of her normal life.
Mofreer 1w ago
She did text me shortly after, but I should keep contact to a minimum until I know she's coming here to set up logistics. This is both to not rush things and not get distracted.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
No.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
Lmao
Mofreer 1w ago
She is very beautiful to me!!!!!!!
MrSupreme 1w ago
Your answer is no, to the LDR. Hit her up on Instagram once a month to comment on a pic or something, IF she shows hints of traveling there in December then escalate WHEN she's in town. Foggedaboutit
Mofreer 1w ago
I appreciate it
First-light 1w ago
To try to maintain contact is a small investment. Just don't invest anything else. Stay in contact, try to meet her again if its easy to arrange. See what develops. Keep it all light and good humoured. Its not really that long till new years anyway. Its a small investment. You just have to guard yourself against the oneitis.
Odds are she is back at home with the regular guy, hence the lack of contact but there may yet be another reason.
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redhawkes 2 1w ago
Ayy mane, you don't even know her and already puking unicorn shit.
If she's mildly attractive, she has dicks on demand and if it's not yours, it's someone else's. It was probably an ONS in he book. Maybe she has a bf..who cares.
You're are already desperate and needy af. The trying to "make it work" is terrible mindset. In your situation, texting can only make things worse. You can try some non sequitur game, but not too soon. It's only been 3 days ffs.
No-Stress-Cat 1w ago
You were her summer fling, a one-time dick to ride.
She's back home now cooking her husband dinner.
Enjoy the memory for what it was.
whytehorse2021 1w ago
My wife and I had an LDR so I know it's possible. Just get a new gf and keep the LDR as a once a week chat until you both want to uproot to be together. Don't get attached though because it could end at any time. Attachment leads to loss. Loss leads to suffering. Suffering leads to anger. Anger leads to hate.