I was going through a period a couple months ago of just going on dates and meeting girls for 1 or 2 dates, and if the dates were successful, going to their place then moving on after a couple of times/dates onto a new girl.
During this time whenever living situation got brought up I would just say I live alone (I live with my parents). This wasn't an issue as usually I'd see the girl once or twice at their place then move on. I want to move out soon and buy my own place (i can afford to, but I'm saving like 5k a month living at home with 100k saved, so I've been greedy not moving out as I've not wanted a LTR before). Feels like I can have a great life if I continue saving at this rate.
Problem is, the last girl I've met is great and LTR worthy. We’ve seen each other for like 3 months. I want to come clean that I lied and deal with the consequences (i.e. it ends). Is it best to come clean in person, or over facetime would be okay (she lives about 40 minutes away).
For context, all our meets have been at her place, or we've travelled to other parts of the country for mini holidays. A bit shit cause she also told her parents about me, kinda sucks I wasn't truthful from the start.
mattyanon Admin 4w ago
Come clean but downplay it......... "I usually live alone, have in the past and will do again soon, temporarily living with my parents".
Bear in mind that this looks fucking terrible though, girls don't want to tell their friends or parents that their bf lives with his parents.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
"Hey so I'm saving for a house, i am saving a lot each month and don't want to rent to get my goals faster. I should have said that from the beginning."
You guys need to stop lying for pussy. "My place isn't ideal tonight, let's go to yours tonight "
TheoC11 1mo ago
she was surprisingly okay with it, we'll see how it lasts. Just my turn I guess
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
It's not ideal but it's better than lying and you have a good excuse. She might or might not prefer a guy that has his own place. In my experience they do, even if you have a housemate or two
Musicgoon78 1 1mo ago
When I went through my divorce, I had a motorcycle, two guitars and a PlayStation4 . I stored my guitars in a paid storage place and roughed it. I was homeless and owned it. The surprising thing was women would take me in, feed me and give me help. In return I gave them attention, adventure and sex.
I saved up enough to get a janky 1978 Minnie Winnie. I would go on dates and fuck them in that RV. I didn't apologize or even feel shame. I was so grateful to be away from my evil wife. That was all that mattered.
My point in all of this is shortcomings are only a big deal if you want them to be. I didn't lie because I was just in a transition period. I framed it as something positive. This got me a lot of respect from women.
I suggest to own where you are in life and show the world and the women you date how strong you really are. All adversity is temporary.