I've been getting shit tested constantly recently by this one specific girl. Was wondering if it is a red flag or is it normal for girls to shit test this much. A bit of shit testing is obviously nice and fun, but this level of shit testing is crazy. I feel like i'm getting shit tested every other sentence.
UPDATE: Is this a sign a girl is crazy or mentally ill?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago Stickied
Obligatory information you didn't include and should:
Have you even fucked her yet? Dating? What is the context? I don't know why you guys leave out the most important information if the question
TulioHumanos 1y ago Stickied
Have you even fucked her yet? No
Dating? Not dating
What is the context? Met her through social circle. Can't escalate for now because of similar reasons to don't shit where you eat.
Shit testing happens a lot through texting, which she initiates mostly. Definitely know I'm giving off time ho vibes rn, but I find it fun bantering over text, and passing shit tests is fun in moderation.
In real life, not as much shit tests, but they do happen. I have noticed she has many attention-seeking behaviors in real life though.
MidgetSpinner 1y ago
Girls picked on the boys they liked at school. It's as simple as that. Unless she is a straight up asshole, it just means she is aggressively flirting with you. More confident girls are like that.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
You should not be remotely invested. Escalate (plans, kino) and if she declines move on. You shouldn't be getting this many shit tests and nothing to show for it unless she thinks you're not making a move or something.
Next. Move on
whytehorse2021 1y ago
I got that when I dated a prostitute, but I was fucking her. I'd say it's a red flag in terms of a woman who hates herself so she thinks you're low value because you like her.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Either you're not satisfactorily passing them because your SMV, frame and/or game is too low so she is attracted enough to test you but not attracted enough to be convinced of her mating decisions on you
Or
She is crazy or both. It is not normal to be bombarded with shit tests unless you are so far in her frame that she has to
Musicgoon78 3 1y ago
There is zero context for any of this.
"Hey guys, this one girl did some stuff. What should I do"?
How the fuck should we answer this vague post?
Do us a favor and give more information. Your question is terrible.
First-light 2 1y ago
If you are not in a relationship with her and have never dated her, this is unlikely to be shit testing. Probably just hard work and has learned that being hard work to men gets you more than being nice. It probably worked with daddy anyway.
Intrepid_Place53900 1 1y ago
not sure about that. I've gotten major shit tested by girls who were interested in me and were trying to see if I was interested in them. Kind of like, WTF doesn't this guy hit on me? I wasn't interested, but I enjoyed the banter back and forth with them a bit.
redhawkes 2 1y ago
It's probably because you're not congruent and she found some weakness in your Frame. There is a fine line between shit testing to see how attractive you are to her, and you losing attraction. You decide where that line is.
Next time, provide more context and the actual texts. In your case, it doesn't matter since you haven't smashed. You're just dancing monkey to her.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 1y ago
Shit testing is when they're attracted to you, but doubt that attraction. The only time women don't shit test is when they're so attracted to you that they don't doubt it at all, and when there's no attraction whatsoever.
Most of the time, you should welcome it because it's an opportunity to make her more attracted to you.
Too many dudes in these spaces think that everything a woman does is a shit test. Sometimes, she's just being a bitch.
Given the vagueness of your post and the info you gave in your reply to Vermy, I'm inclined to think she's just being bitchy.
MrSupreme 1y ago
I've been there,girl thinks you're kinda cute but not interested in a sexual way.She just wants attention,not even a friendship(Wich I'm still debating if it's possible between male and female).
Think through if she has some value,like access to friend groups,contacts,mostly social stuff or whatever,in that case there's some strategic value in keeping a pleasant vibe with her.If she's nothing but an annoying,shit testing brat just keep away from her,she's got nothing to add to your life.