I read this passage in an article in subreddit. It resonated with me immediately because although I am successful in dating , this is where I need some improvement. Here is the text:
"They understand that for women to be ready for sex, they need not feel horny, they need only feel EMOTIONAL.
They understand that women are not logical, and that they are emotional. They understand that for women sex is not a big deal at all, and that its their LOGIC that puts the breaks on it.
They understand that most women are afraid of sex because they lack TRUST, and because their LOGIC is putting on the breaks.
They disarm logic by making the women EMOTIONAL, so that their LOGIC (which is the BREAKS of emotion) becomes disarmed, and at the same time maintain TRUST, so that the emotions generated won’t be interfered with. "
How do you make her emotional? Like push-pull or flirting;? I don't understand this and if I understand I can improve a lot.
Thank you.
whytehorse2021 11mo ago
That doesn't make sense. It takes a woman about 45 min to warm up before sex. You start that process by getting them thinking about it. This can be something as simple as grabbing your wife's ass or making an innuendo like "Would you like to come upstairs to see my _____?" Most people don't get the old-school inuendo of etchings so you'll have to use something people understand today.
MyBoyJob 11mo ago
Push pull. Be commanding. Sometimes challenging.
A specific example, sometimes if the conversation gets lively and she’s trying to talk over me, I’ll stick my hand out and say “LISTEN” If you want a movie with great examples watch The Mummy 1999 and pay attention to Brandon Fraser’s character
Musicgoon78 3 11mo ago
I don't know who "they" is.
Women usually have a lot of options. And if we are honest, most of the options suck. As a whole the average guy is a coward and is boring. They lack masculinity and creativity. A girl will agree to a date and then realize the guy doesn't have shit going for him.
Being boring is the kiss of death to any successful interactions with women.
Now, the unfortunate problem with this idea is it's sperg fuel. Spergs will go for a neg or try to make the woman cry which is going to the negative emotions. Don't associate your presence with negativity.
The easiest way to invoke emotions is through being bold and fun.
Don't worry, spergs will think being exciting is going skydiving or MMA. That's retardation talking. All you have to do is keep yourself entertained and go after what you want. That it and that's all.
I sexualize the conversation early. This shows that comfortable being sexual and it creates reciprocity. She can be comfortable with her sexuality around me as well.
Work on having fun and her emotions will follow your enthusiastic lead.
qstone 11mo ago
I understand. How do you sexualise a conversation? Making sexual jokes or kino? Do you need to feel sexual before doing this?
First-light 1 11mo ago
Women are the gate keepers of sex -for good biological reasons.
To get through the gate you have to either satisfy the gatekeeper or disable the gate keeper.
Relaxing a woman always helps disable the gate keeper -her conscious mind. You have to get women "in the mood". This doesn't necessarily need much more than the removal of negative emotion. An excess of positive emotion is itself not relaxing but arousing and the paraympathetic nervous system that governs sexual behaviour is overridden by arousal. (Don't confuse general arousal with sexual arousal which is slightly different).
Basically one has to get her feeling not thinking too much. I think that is what they mean by emotion here. Positive relaxed happy conversation and plenty of laughs always helps. If she is laughing at your jokes you can start leading her feelings in the conversation and once you start leading the dance it is a lot easier. One can then sexualise things pretty quickly when that is achieved -why would she not be up for a pleasant experience then? I would not sexualise things until she is happy and relaxed though r you get a pushback form the gate keeper who might then start going on higher alert and scrutinising you harder.
qstone 11mo ago
That is a wise analogy. Thank you for the reply