Just literally turned 36 and I get a sum total of zero bitches currently. The last time I had a woman was approximately 2 years ago. I don't remember precisely.
I don't complain about it in real life to anyone. I just carry on with my day to day grind and goals, and pursue what fulfils me. Generally, I'm content and not a miserable dude. Frame is pretty good considering.
Prior to this though, I was getting a hell of a lot of pussy (allow me to have one flex in this shit post) - like way more than your average dude. I'm only like 5'9 too. Slim athletic build. Not bulky. Not a rich dude by any means either. Just some poor short king who's really good at drumming. I had cute, fat assed little baddies on tap. I must have been in a flow state for like 10 years - Red Pill helped immeasurably.
Nowadays though: nothing. I kinda gave up trying so much because of this dry spell. As I said, I just switched focus to honing who I am and what I love to do. But I'd be lying if I said I'm not lonely as fuck. Most of the time I'm cool with it, but there are nights where I reminisce on times past, and think about the future and I miss all the fun, excitement and adventure... And I do miss the comfort of a good woman and a relationship as well.
But those 2 years have put a nice dent in my confidence. I see girls looking my way all the time when I'm out and about, I see opportunities like I once did, but the difference is that I don't have the confidence to pull the trigger. So this post is a vent and a stepping stone towards maybe getting back on that train. I just know it's gonna be brutal.
Anyway, thanks for coming to my TED talk.
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Silly_birb_returns 1y ago
Imo it's correct that in our 30s we become more interested in life fulfillment, it's instinctual, the horny period was in our 20s and now having to chase a woman is perceived as an hindrance to our goals.
It could be possible to find a woman to have fun with but gynocentrism made women despise men, so they are fat and unpleasant to talk to. Even more impossible is expecting a woman to make your life easier or comfort you when you struggle in your climb to success. After all women wait at the finishing line...
MrSupreme 1y ago
It's ok to take a break as long as you're focusing on yourself and have some clear goals about what you're using the time for.
I haven't gotten laid in +5 years, trying to get out of this poverty stricken country with a worthless degree,next to no skills and broke as hell.Also I'm 35 so ain't getting any younger. Yet here I am, getting advice and making the right decisions to get out of the situation and not waste any time unnecessarily.
Your situation doesn't seem that bad.Just take a week or two to set goals, have a meaningful objective like learning a skill (Wich can turn profitable), getting a degree. Just something to work towards and give some meaning and direction to your time off pussy.
However,if you feel you've done exactly that in these 2 years then sure you may be ready to get back on the market, get a haircut,bulk up and go get em.
MidgetSpinner 1y ago
Appreciate the reply to my cope posting. I truly wish you all the best in exporting yourself to somewhere more favourable as well, bro.
MrSupreme 1y ago
Will get there mate, let us know in the forums what your next move is
Lone_Ranger 3 1y ago
Your story sounds like the opposite of how things usually go for men.
When I speak frankly with other men, we all have a similar story to tell in terms of getting laid
It's strange that you are getting less pussy in your 30s than you are in your 20s?
No matter - here's the thing. Never use pussy as a metric of self worth. That is what you seem to be doing.
How are things going with your career? Is that what is bothering you? What about your social network - your friendship circle? Is that doing well?
I would advise all men to stop focusing so much on getting laid. Stop putting women at the centre of your life. Ironically, when you do this, the pussy just starts flowing to your door. Women love men that don't give a shit about women. That's the secret at the heart of red pill.
Intrepid_Place53900 1 1y ago
As a guy who's been through his 50's, I can second what Lone Ranger states.
Divorced in 40's and wow, I had no problem getting women. My issue was finding women who were good looking (fit), and not a total bitch or mess.
Had some women of course looking for a pay day, even though I didn't show money or spend money on them.
Agree with LoneRanger, you are the prize, not them. Start believing that and things will change.
Lone_Ranger 3 1y ago
Just focus on yourself, instead of women, and the women will come.
that's the counterintuitive learning. I learnt the hard way - I simped pretty damn hard for my two ex-wives, which of course gave them the dry.
MidgetSpinner 1y ago
What I failed to mention in my post is that something did set me back in a big way a few years ago. Had an event that happened which caused a mental breakdown. I ended up becoming a bit of recluse because of it - that definitely impacted everything.
Lone_Ranger 3 1y ago
feel free to share brother.
That's a big part of what this forum is about.