I currently work at the University of Cambridge but I worked in industry before. I do CrossFit and Kick-Boxing. Hang out with friends ~1 per week.
My experience is that I am quite miserable. To avoid this experience, I aim to sleepwalk through life. If I am to sleepwalk through life, the motions may as well be positive. Positive I define as improving my reproductive fitness, which implies certain behavioural prescriptions. These behavioural prescriptions are embedded in routines and habits and tracked and reviewed daily.
This approach comes as I have spent the past 6 years trying many anti-depressants, lifestyle changes, talk therapies and even rTMS. I intend to pursue further treatment concurrently with this plan.
What are the errors in my thinking?
EurasianChad 1 1y ago
Anti-depressants give you that zombie-like effect.
Its not a secret that "they" want you depressed so that "they" can sell you more of the so called "anti-depressants".
prapra-horse 1y ago
they can also alter one's behaviour to create of state of constant alcoholic indulgence, where one is becoming careless enough and do enough stupid shit, that it becomes irreversible damage.
It can apparently work for some, when taken for a bit. Men can do it with strong resolve of end date within - say - 6m. Women could do it under strong supervision of parents.
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Musicgoon78 3 1y ago
You're taking care of your symptoms and not really taking control of your life. It's a recipe for continued misery. This is like slicing your belly open in an accident and then before it heals you cut the stitches and slice it again.
Sleepwalking through life will not get your friends, it will not get you success, you won't be fulfilled and people will either hate you or avoid you.
This is really one of the worst life plans and ultimately the most cowardly and pathetic post I've seen in a while.
Why are you here if you're not going to try? You're flushing a good life down the toilet.
quachy 1y ago
What alternative plan do you propose?
Musicgoon78 3 1y ago
How the hell am I supposed to know what you want? Do you know what you want? What is your mission? Once you determine that. You can select the tools from the sidebar to make that happen.
You're more than welcome to flush your life away and accomplish nothing. I can say with the utmost certainty, that's a path to unhappiness.
Eztreoux 1y ago
Hi, just to piggyback of this advice. This is especially why I really dislike people saying “Just be top 20% bro, women will come”, I call bullshit, pump that number to 5% and it’s still bullshit. I feel like we need to actually put in effort into meeting people, making friends. It’s not forced, it’s necessary in our atomised internet driven society. This post is a great reminder because I know how this guy feels, I was contemplating doing this shit where I work on myself alone but I said fuck it, let me try at the same time, it’s not “weird” to go out of your way to meet people.
Following your mission is great and all but pussy and good times don’t fall on your lap because you watched a movie where it did where the main character has plot armour
Agreed?
Musicgoon78 3 1y ago
I think I get what you're saying. It's definitely normal to go out and talk to people and try to make friends.
I don't agree with your percentages. That's doomer speak. I wasn't in any top list when I started spinning plates. I was divorced, homeless, overweight, broke and jobless. I slayed. I'm now fucking swole and still have that success.
If you watch too much Fresh N Fit or Pearl you're going to have a pessimistic view of dating. Most guys here don't understand dating or women they give up or believe bullshit based off of rage porn.
First-light 1 1y ago
This sounds prudent. The tone of your writing is depressed but if this were put in less depressed language it could actually sound upbeat -you will go through life developing good habits and improving yourself while looking into treating your depression. When you are fit for something you never know what might turn up. Its a prudent policy in the absence of any clear goal to shoot for.
There are a lot of good clubs at the snowflake factory where you work. Could be worth a pop? Its good for a man to get out and get the sun on his face with some companions not just work out in gymnasia.
quachy 1y ago
Indeed it's subtly positive - applied 'making the most of a bad situation'. I'll have a look around - thank you for your input :)