"The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation”

-Henry David Thoreau

You need to accept this hard truth: all of us are, to some degree, alone. Even those of us with a harem of bed wenches feel it.

You aren't lacking women, you're lacking a mission. When you find that, you will find the thing that makes being woman free a freeing experience.

Everyone here will say "get in the top 20% and pussy will come", which is true. What they won't say (because it's known, read the sidebar) is that we are also FUCKING BUSY doing the things that got us there and we'd rather be doing that than getting our balls (and resources) drained.

Here's a big question for you. What do you do to have fun?

Most people are hiring or have shitty sad lives. One guy I talked to would go out on the town to cold approach by himself. He would get scared, approach no one and then come home defeated.. He put a lot of pressure on himself and had no fun.

No one wants to hang around someone scared, miserable or boring.

I suggest you go do events or activities that make you happy and talk to everyone there while you are having a good time. This is the easy trick to making friends and lovers and not being lonely.

Try to put the fundamentals in order -get some social exposure even if only with men to keep you sharp socially.

Get money and property.

Women will follow. Especially form your country of origin once you have a secure financial footing. Honestly this may be better than well used western goods anyway.

You sound like Albert Camu. . He got a lot of girls becuase he didn't give a shit. Your focused too much on the outcome. You can attract them your probably scaring them. They get easily frightened by strangers. Your probably talking to way too many babes in public unworthy of your attention. Never a fan of day game, I think it lowers a guys status, standing, and comes off as a little desperate. Be more an existentialist like your countryman camu.. camu wouldn't approach random chick's, he'd make them come to him.

i hit the gym 3 days a week since 2 years

doesn't mean anything, except you travel rom A to B and have some exercise##

i feel like i'm creeping women and people in general

loneliness is killing me

i got depressed after covid

you a re likely in a loop, you see everything in dark colours, which makes you look uncomfortable and unsuccessful in social interactions, that feeds your view of the world as unpleasant etc

some people take happy medicines, but only take it for very limited period of time.

There is this blog that went from depression to lifts, cleaning his room and threesomes - maybe someone remembers the website name.

Talk to men, forget women for a month, but talk to 3 stranger men everyday. IF you brak the cycle, start the month from the beginning.

*1) Wake up at least 1 hour before you have to be at a computer screen. E-mail is the mind killer.

2) Make a cup of tea and sit down with a pen/pencil and paper.

3) Write down the 3-5 things — and no more — that are making you most anxious or uncomfortable. They’re often things that have been punted from one day’s to-do list to the next, to the next, to the next, and so on. Most important usually = most uncomfortable, with some chance of rejection or conflict.

4) For each item, ask yourself:

– “If this were the only thing I accomplished today, would I be satisfied with my day?”

– “Will moving this forward make all the other to-do’s unimportant or easier to knock off later?”

5) Look only at the items you’ve answered “yes” to for at least one of these questions.

6) Block out at 2-3 hours to focus on ONE of them for today. Let the rest of the urgent but less important stuff slide. It will still be there tomorrow.

7) TO BE CLEAR: Block out at 2-3 HOURS to focus on ONE of them for today. This is ONE BLOCK OF TIME. Cobbling together 10 minutes here and there to add up to 120 minutes does not work.

8) If you get distracted or start procrastinating, don’t freak out and downward spiral; just gently come back to your ONE to-do.

9) Physically MOVE for at least 20 minutes each day. Go for a long walk, lift weights, take a free online yoga class (YouTube), anything. Ideally, get outside. I was once asked by friend for advice on overcoming debilitating stress. The answer I repeated over and over again was: “Remember to EXERCISE daily. That is 80% of the battle.”

10) Follow a diet that prevents wild blood sugar swings. This means avoiding grains and refined carbohydrates most of the time. I follow the slow-carb diet with one cheat day per week and have done so for 10+ years. Paleo also works great. Don’t forget to eat plenty of fat. High protein and low fat can give you low-grade symptoms of rabbit starvation.

11) Schedule at least one group dinner with friends per week. Get it on the calendar no later than 5pm on Monday. Ideal to have at least three people, but two is still great medicine.

12) Take a minute each day to call or email someone to express gratitude of some type. Consider someone you haven’t spoken with in a long time. It can be a one-line text or a 5-second voicemail. *

Why are you black?

What happens when you talk to girls?

What happens when you try to make friends?

How are you getting out and meeting people?