Long story short girl I met and failed with a couple months recently popped back into my life.
We initially met and after she reached out to my first without me giving even her my contact info she found it.
I fumbled or wasnt her top option or who knows. But she basically would text but kind of ignore date requests. So I obviously stopped giving her attention.
Anyways saw her at a bar recently and she was receptive pretty sure I could have got with her but bar closed and my ride was leaving.
Since then I gained 10lbs of muscle and got a new nice job.
Options Keep Ignoring and give it up forever. Invite straight over (poor logistics). Invite to event im going to but its far out. Or I guess invite to something else but closer.
Also general question. Is it better to wait for an event to be closer 3-4 days out to ask or girl out or strike while the irons hot? The attention spans on these girls seems to be short bc of sm.
whytehorse2021 1y ago Stickied
Iron Rule of Tomassi 7
It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.
Red_dead Should i (x1) 1y ago
Thanks will reread.
Lone_Ranger 3 1y ago
Bro - its very simple - you're not her first choice. "Your call is important to us, please continue to hold"
You write 'she would text but ignore date requests"
This is exactly why I advise against number hunting. She hands out her number on the reg, probably 3 to 6 times on a night out. Adds all of these to her orbiter pantry. And then goes home with a chad, who gives her a fake number.
Did you not ever wonder why should text but not meet? Because she enjoys your text messages, and she enjoys chads cock in her ass.
Asking for a phone number is the same as saying 'I want to orbit'.
Correct your thinking and change your behaviours. If you want to smash, start behaving like it.
Red_dead Should i (x1) 1y ago
okay I agree with your first part, but im not following the second part. My logistics are shit and smashing then and there isnt always feasible, why wouldnt i get a number? Also I fully expected to never see her again she got my contact info somehow through mutual friends so I didnt even reach out to her first in this case.
Lone_Ranger 3 1y ago
Logistics are shit? Then fix them. Like now.
Why would you be going out chasing pussy, if your logistics are shit to the point where you're not able to deliver? That's like false advertising.
Look - the reason I am against 'number hunting' is because that is what 90% of young spergs do, they go through this idiotic process, as follows
This is how 90% of young spergs live their lives.
You need to start thinking about it from the other side - how does it look for the girl?
For them, they get approached by spergy losers all night. they only want 2 things from the spergs -
But what they are looking for that night, the reason they spent hours getting ready and putting on make up, is that they are waiting for chad to arrive, so that they can go home with chad and give up the poon. Chad doesn't ask for the number.
So....
Decide who you are. Are you beta orbiter number hunter? or chad?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Bruh
Next.
If she tries to fuck you so be it. She already filed you away as unfuckable and desperate in her hindbrain. Even if she would fuck you now, she has to overcome that original save file
It's not your job to help her get over herself, it's hers. Have some self respect. You're basically asking us:
"guys, how do i double down on my initial desperation and feelings of rejection now that I have a lower chance of being rejected than before"
This is horrible for your development. The sooner you learn to stop letting women dictate your ego the better. You're training yourself to act desperate and ego invested even after improving
You might fuck her, but you will be one step backwards having a mental point of origin. Let her make all the moves, stop thinking desperately
Red_dead Should i (x1) 1y ago
Ok, ignore her in person as well if I happen to see her? I feel like the problem with the whole texting bs is that im in her frame. But in person there’s like no resistance, she’ll hold eye contact, follow my lead and reciprocate.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Not ignore, but clearly be there for your own thing and do what you would naturally do if she weren't there
pofkaf 1 1y ago
I'll offer a counterpoint to the other comments.
In my personal experience, situations like this can be hit or miss. The "misses" don't matter much because it was already a miss; and if it misses again, just drop her completely and move on.
But the "hits" can be well worth it. Very intense and fulfilling sexual experiences.
So if you think it could work out, you have to game her correctly. That means very, very minimal effort on your part. Let her do the work to initiate a date. If she's actually interested in you, she will make it easy to set up. Then run perfect game to escalate.
However, if you lack an abundance mindset (or you're desperate for pussy) then just forget about it. It won't work and will most likely result in another swing and miss.
financehardo420 Should i (x1) 1y ago
So I’d say you’re still fine but you definitely can’t do too much. Idk of all the details pertaining to the failure but if a Dec amt of time has passed and you’ve put on some gainz go for it.
I would highly not recommend doing too much (asking her out on a date/event before you’ve already been fucking is doing too much). Never do more than the next guy…
example: some dude was trying to ask out one of my plates saying he’d take her out to dinner and pay for everything etc etc. guess who gargled my nut for free?
I would just try to catch her in the bars and this time if you think it’s going to be a close… cancel your fuckin uber until it’s a sure thing and call a new one. That $5 cancel fee can be refunded by just messaging customer support