Background: We had insane sexual chemistry. Around the 3rd month she told me she loved me, got flaky after that, which i found super weird since she initiated that. I got frustrated with the head games so i moved on to other girls, posted a date with another cute girl on my IG stories and she got jealous and started posting break up memes about me, Despite this she still made effort to reschedule with me. A few weeks later she came to my apartment. We had sex and she asks me if i have been with other girls, I told her yes (bc she saw the ig stories) and she seemed sad, and she told me she wasnt seeing anyone. We fucked again and she went home. After she blocked and deleted me. I took this as a good sign that she was in her feels about me (jealousy is a strong emotion)
I ended up reaching out on another number and she told me she cant be in a relationship now. But we could still see each other. We made a date that she ended up flaking on, and completely stopped trying to reschedule with me or writing me back at all for the first time. Shes never completely ghosted me until then, so i decided to move on and deleted her number.
Since then shes been posting break up tik toks about me on Tik Tok (song lyrics about breaking up, will i return) even posting videos wearing a hat i gave her and holding a stuffed animal i gave her as a gift. I laughed and took this as a form of breadcrumbing.
Until this happened. Im honestly shocked, i woke up to 6 texts from her. She texted me from a new number, sent a photo, and said if i wanted to see her let me know with a kissy emoji.
The truth is at the end of our "break up" I was in Brazil and was in a bad place mentally, with the break up and then i got fired from a job, my apartment lease was just ending. I ended up going back home to USA for 4 months to kind of reset everything. So she messages me back when im like 80% over her and in another country and wont return until September.
How do i proceed? Part of me wants to lie and tell her im in a relationship now, just to destroy her. (Even though its a complete lie). This is risky because the rejection could will hurt her so much she wont wanna see me when i return. The other part of me wants to forgive her, but just treat her as a plate and fuck her and never take her serious. Thus, letting her know im out the country and maybe we can see each other when im back and act like nothing happened.
How should I proceed?
Edit: I didnt respond and she just called me twice hahaha..
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Did you actually learn anything since the last post?
whytehorse2021 1y ago
She probably got with another guy, it didn't work out, tried another, didn't work out, etc. See, when she says she not seeing anybody else, it means she fucked other guys but didn't cop feelz.
ObliviousDuck 1y ago
28 sentences, 36 she/her. I must admit, I thought you were finally cured of your oneitis, I had hope for you, but this is getting out of hand.
I don't think you realise how a big fucking deal this is. Everything you do, everything you say, is centered around that girl.
How about you stop thinking about that "FWB" like she's the center of the universe and work on your frame?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Anytime I read repeated posts like this about one girl, it is always a clear indicator of far deeper issue and the OP needs to find out what that is. This girl is just the tree and not the roots and OP needs to stop letting this tree grow out of control and fix his roots
redhawkes 2 1y ago
Lmaooo
Fuck off with this oneitis shit, seriously. If you still have this revenge porn fantasies, you're only lying to yourself.
The main option pumped and dumped, now it's time for some simp validation. You know very well how this gonna end up. The second you give it to her, she'll flush you down the toilet.
Have some self respect dude.
Hondurak 1y ago
She said she wants to come over, this isnt validation. Nothing of our (past) situationship screams i was the simp. She cheated on her boyfriend with me, i was the side guy who provided sex.
redhawkes 2 1y ago
Since you can't smash, it's useless. Maybe "I'll hit u up when Im back" and that's it.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
And you care about her this much, why?
First-light 1 1y ago
Look, she is not worth getting hung up over, she has shown you that but you like banging her. No point throwing a good thing away unless you have a better one. So while looking for a better one just reply and chat with her a bit. It keeps your options open. Don't chat too much -she is not worth that much time and you don't belong to her but chat as much as you enjoy while it does not interfere with anything you want to do.
I would not plan anything with her but leave all doors open. When you are next in her part of the world, if you are free and she is free, go fill her up.
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No-Stress-Cat 1y ago
So you stalked her and ended up begging her for a relationship. You lost your frame. Now, she's armed with a shit-test machine gun.
So, you're going to double down, tell a bunch of lies for the sole purpose of destroying her emotionally, and you're the one seeking forgiveness from her?
She disrespects you in public on social media, which you probably deserve, and think you'll be able to wear the pants in any kind of relationship after all that?
You can forget Brazilly chick. She's done. The only thing you're good for to her now is how much money she can chump you for.
My advice to you is to stop acting like a bitch. Use that "reset" to get your shit together.
financehardo420 Should i (x1) 1y ago
Bruh lmfao yall both sound like nut jobs.
how you should proceed? talk to other women.