I currently have around 150 open chats on Hinge, I‘ve been using it for around 2 months, met a few girls, had good dates, had bad dates, had a few ONS.
I‘m super busy with life right now due to full time work with part time studies and gym/hobbies/friends. I currently have no time for dates, ONS are always fine but I don‘t want to go out late night and drink and literally am too drained to „impress“ women to go to bed with me.
How do I proceed? So many chats are just open and empty, I currently text no one, a few girl text me but I‘ve ghosted too many since I cba at the moment.
In my head I see it as good option as when I‘m going out after my finals my matches might recognize me or visa versa and then it‘s an easy conversation (I live in a small city).
Is this a good approach or literally just delete the app for now and re-do it after my finals?
whytehorse2021 1y ago
The conclusion is the ROI on dating apps is abysmal. Set up an instagram and shuffle them over there. Then just throw up selfies every now and again. Big time saver. Just say "Hey I don't use this app much and I'm blitzed with exams but I'd still like to meet you. Here's my instagram so we can stay in touch until I have free time"
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
You have dozens of matches you never responded to and want to reset?
Why?
nicknack 1y ago
I don’t get the point of the reset but really the return on investment on online dating is so horrible as the other guy said on this thread. I probably have 300 matches in the past six months of casual swiping and only smashed 3 .
In person is much better roi. With 5 numbers a you can usually smash one.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
I get that. ROI on OLD has gone down. I got more lays from the same profile 3 years ago as I have now.
I really believe girls on OLD have been pumped and dumped so much they don't act the same way any more as 3 years ago. Plus whatever algorithmic bullshit they are employing now on their apps
I was going on so many dates with the same profile before. Something has seriously changed on OLD above and beyond profile quality.
Doesn't help that I'm 70% pickier than i used to be but something is definitely fucked up compared to a few years ago
I only use old as supplement, never EVER rely on Old for anything
nicknack 1y ago
100% agree. Only thing I’d add is it was better even more than 3 years ago. 10 years ago on line dating met you’re almost certainly meeting up and when you do you’re certainly fucking first night. 5 years ago it meant you’re usually meeting up and when you do, you’re almost certainly fucking. Now it’s like, you’re probably not meeting up and when you do it’s no guarantee of fucking at all.
In person; your odds of actually meeting up are shaky but if you do you’re fucking. I much prefer actually knowing I’m gonna fuck if I’m gonna go through the time and effort of going out.
moneymakingmitch 1y ago
I made the experience if you don‘t text within a few days/a week most likely you‘re not going to meet, ever. So many guys texting a girl up, chances are lower the longer you wait
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
It depends. I've converted some.
Up to you, but how many of these girls might re match you? Should just try to get their numbers and then reset for new ones
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Lone_Ranger 3 1y ago
150 open chats? Jeepers. What a time sink.
Are you sure its worth it? When you add up all the hours?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
He should just be like @Nubias and say "come over" and unmatch the rest
/s
No-Stress-Cat 1y ago
Haha. "Here, bitch. Take a number. You're #235. The back of the line is over there."
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
That text is too much investment for crumbling pussies