Got a number saturday and told her we should grab coffee sometime (she responded well), pulled another girl that night and forgot to text. Now I just remembered (2 days later no text) and was going to text smth like "Hey X it's X, lets grab coffee saturday?" but I just looked at the time and it's 10pm, so I'm not sure if I should text now or wait till tmrw afternoon
autistic question probably, but what u think lads?
financehardo420 Should i (x1) 1y ago
Tbh man I think you could still smash; she didn’t mention the bf at all when she gave you her number. she’s def down to cheat
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Autistic as fuck, and that's an autist telling you that
"Hectic past few days, coffee Saturday?"
If she's still not down she was never going to be no matter what you texted about it
SwallowMyPill 1y ago
Haha I appreciate the compliment
That's a solid message too, but I would put her, and at least my name in there no?
Also im 100% sure shes down from the vibe we had, its just a question if I send it now (kinda late tho) or tomorrow really
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
If you have NEVER texted her before that's not good that you waited this long for a fist message
Some how I missed that, yes, you would
I would send it now, even at 10pm, because that makes it seem like you finally just became free, despite how late, imo
SwallowMyPill 1y ago
Yea exactly it's the FIRST text since I got her number saturday. I would've texted her yesterday but forgot
Would you change the message with that in mind?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
No. If she isn't willing to be not butt hurt by the message i already type dits over anyway
SwallowMyPill 1y ago
Thanks for the feedback champ
Hope it, actually, being the first message makes me slightly less autistic in your eyes
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
I was just giving you shit but yeah some times first messages can be like that, i think most women understand how first date first reach out interactions can be
But most women reach out day one (within 24 hours) and waiting two days is a bit of a violation of well accepted social contract, many will auto reject so seeming like you had a hectic few days helps. Only her response will tell
SwallowMyPill 1y ago
She just responded with an essay, shes working this weekend and she mentions she has a bf lol. So if it was a date I had in mind it would have to be a "friend coffee;)" lol
Responded with "Fair. It was actually a date that I had in mind, so it's probably better we cancel ;)"
She responds "oh well, in other circumstances it wouldve been nice!"
Between just leaving it read, a ";)" or "maybe one day" before leaving it. coach?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Just next.
You could just say "if other circumstances ever changes you have my number, wish you well though"
There really isn't anything you can say without sounding thirsty. Just closing it out that way doesn't really help or hurt you, it's about a net zero
Unless you see some kind of benefit to being her friend like social proof or she has hot friends etc than that's one thing to go anyway a friends, but if you don't want to and can't be bothered than don't bother
When women are taken/reject me etc i just let them go or say "no problem" and then i just drop it. She has your number she can keep it or text it if she ever becomes single that's not your problem, that's hers
Most women understand you're a single guy, especially if they are taken. They're not going to hold it against you that you're "still trying to find your person" unless they are self-indulgent and possesive usually