Lately I've been running into and chatting up super pretty introverted girls.
They have really beautiful facial features always seem to be studying or working on interesting stuff and have a very quiet relaxing energy that really chills me out.
The thing though is that all they do is listen.
Like, I keep talking and they keep nodding their head, and I ask them about stuff, and they seem shy and taken aback. Just taking in what I say but not contributing.
Maybe I'm too high-energy for them, but we interact nicely and I can tell there is attraction and some sexual tension.. but I am used to more talkative girls that can hold a conversation.
They just listen!
It's like punching water.. and after a while I'm just tired of doing all the talking..
Anyways, not sure how to move things forward with these chicks. But I like the fact that they are responsive, more submissive, respond well to my orders/directives.. but, It's like punching water...
React bitch!!!
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2w ago
Have you tried making plans with them yet or are you just gaming them
Lionsmane8 1w ago
Just gaming. (Actually I don't call it game, just talking)
I chitchat with them everywhere in a nonchalant, "normal" way like I do with everybody.
They open up easily (to me, because they are quite reserved and inapproachable for most guys).
We can have a good discussion, even escalate a bit (encroach on the usual relationship and stuff type, from early on).
I failed to number close two really stunning ones (both engineering students) because "it didn't flow right".
I don't pressure or rush to get a number or escalate. I just let it happen naturally.
But with these girls, I see a pattern, I'm doing 95% of the talking, they're not helping.
They just stare at me with deer eyes and let me talk and talk and talk and talk and they just sit back and take it in. I often have to catch my self saying too much and I'm like "why am I saying thst to you?". Really good listenners!
Usually I just pave the way, set the girl up and let her run her mouth.
It's the opposite here!
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
Right but some girls are like this man. You won't know unless you try to close. You're basically throwing away effort just because she's shy and protecting yourself from rejection
I try to close shy ones anyway, some are just very enthralled at listening and just enjoy being part of a conversation and will explode into talkativity if you strike a topic they really care about. But a lot of shy and reserved girls are shy and reserved. They enjoy your lead presence and when you make plans a lot will enthusiastically take them because they were just shy and reserved but interested
Now if they say no to your plans that's your answer
Lionsmane8 1w ago
Hmm, yeah..
My default is "if she doesn't reciprocate my energy, then it's not worth it".
So I try to not put in too much energy into it.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
Right, but while Women in of themselves aren't NAWALT, NAWALT does extend to personality and personal characteristics
I have the craziest fucking sex of my life with a woman who was not reciprocating any of my moves and i definitely remember some OG or just older posts back on ye reddit where the guy was absolutely convinced a chick was not reciprocating or interested and then fucked her very easily
The best test of determining interest with these kinds of women is yo try to make plans. There are genuinely some women who are so introverted they just won't reciprocate in the traditional expected manner. You cannot blame them for this or have expectations.
If they are NOT leaving your side and staying engaged, even if that engagement is just listening only, assume interest.
You can't assume disinterest unless they are disengaging in obvious ways. If you spend 5-10 minutes on a girl, just try to close. Why are you fucking yourself over. Closing take 5 seconds or less
Lionsmane8 1w ago
I have no issues closing. It just comes naturally. It's not like I am trying to get my "sales numbers" up.
But you're right. I tell them to come to my table (at a café) they obey and come sit at my table so I can show them stuff on my phone/laptop. I tell them to do stuff for me, test them, qualify them and they obey.
The discussion is natural and free flowing, but I'm doing most of talking, which is not what I am used to.
They do respond positively to my commands and tasks I give them, get coy when I look into their eyes and all those signs of interest/attraction pop up.
It's that they don't reciprocate to the same level and it bothers me.
Maybe that's an introvert thing. I started googling thAt.
I'm assuming super introverts just like to take things in, slowly digest them and only then reciprocate when they feel like it or ehen they feel comfortable/courageous enough.
It's strange, but I like the fact that their energy is the exact opposite of mine. Kind of draws me in.
I dunno.
Tell me more about the girl you thought was not reciprocating.
imstartingtolikehoes 1w ago
How do you tell them to come to your table at a cafe? How does the interaction look like before this happens? I'm a noob
Lionsmane8 1w ago
I'm usually working on something on my laptop, or the conversation steers towards something and I tell her to come over to see it on my phone or computer. I just order and see how she reacts. I like to use that because it helps me gauge her obedience level and close the physical gap.
imstartingtolikehoes 1w ago
I don't get it. You make eye contact first, then talk to someone who is sitting like 10 meters away from you, with what excuse? What's the conversation like?
Lionsmane8 1w ago
Man, just strike up a random conversation. It doesn't matter.
imstartingtolikehoes 1w ago
Can you explain it in detail? I'll buy you steak on uber eats
Lionsmane8 1w ago
Not sure what to tell you buddy.
You know what, here is an example.
Today I was working on my pc at a coffee shop. I got a call, so I went out. I finished my call, I find out that this cutie took the table behind me doing the same.
I sit back on my chair and my mind starts to think off something to open her.
Suddenly a street cat walks in and goes next to her (we have a lot of those here).
I happen to like cats and I notice that she responds positively to the cat.
I comment about that. She smiles, and we strike up a conversation about pets.
I tell her if she likes cats then she should see the half dozen baby cats just around the corner. Her eyes sparkle and I tell her to follow me (here is the first command).
She follows me outside, we play with the kitten and talk about stuff.
Turns out she teaches french in high school and is working on her PhD in litterature (she's only 23 though).
Frankly speaking her face is meh, but her body is banging and she's soft spoken.
I mentally classify her as short-term with possibility for an extension.
I take her number and we go back to to the coffee shop and to our respective seats..
(Now I sent her a first text a few hours ago and it is now past midnight and she has yet to respond. My cut off is 24hrs, after that she is officially invisible. In any case I've already moved on mentally and thinking of the next one. Keep it rolling, play the numbers, it gets easier).
MrSupreme 1w ago
I once went out with this girl, seemed like she had no friends,I think she didn't.I did most of the talking, she giggled like a schoolgirl,asked a few questions but didn't seem too eager to talk about herself.love bombed me a bunch.We fucked for 3 months and then bada bing bada bang it ended.
With some girls there is just not much to talk about,keep it playful and don't take her too seriously although she is probably a serious girl
Lionsmane8 1w ago
care to expand on how it happened
Lone_Ranger 1 1w ago
What are you complaining about? You can't expect women to be like men.
Quite honestly, the girls you mention just sound like shy girls. Nothing wrong with that, everything right with that. They just want you to be a man, so that they can be a woman.
Stop expecting women to 'match your energy'.
Escalate to next step.
Lionsmane8 1w ago
I guess you're right mate!
Lone_Ranger 1 1w ago
Go for it.
Women are surprisingly boring. They are empty vessels. That is why they want a man to bring drama and entertainment and adventure.
Don't worry about a woman being shy. Lots of good women are shy. In fact, the one thing I cannot stand in a woman is if they are extrovert, boisterous and have a 'big personality'. Fuck no man.
Give me a shy girl any day of the week...and I will bring her out of her shell. Massage, nude photo shoots, lingerie... its like watching a flower bloom.
Its good for her, and its good for you.
Lionsmane8 1w ago
Yeah, you're right. You have to carry everything.
It's just tiring sometimes. Always nice when she plays ball
Lone_Ranger 1 1w ago
You have to carry everything??
Welcome to being a man. Get used to it.
You carry everything, nobody helps you. Damn near everyone hates you. But... men generally have the last laugh.
Lionsmane8 1w ago
Lol that's the real shit I needed to hear