Hi so i am a m17 and i have been kind of friends with this girl. We do have our moments together and we used to flirt a lot over texts before and she used to even start convos before etc but now i think the attraction has died down and idk what to do but like just yesterday when we met it was akward tbh(only met her twice counting till now) but she did post me like in just a story with her tho (also when we first met it was not as akward tho since i was not sick and also we also were pretty affectionate as much as we can be like i held her hand etc) our like this flirty or attention in eachother comes and goes. She knows i like her but she is not ready for a relashionship cuz ig she got cheated on or etc in her first and only relationship etc. I have known her for a year now and i had a gf too for a short while in the middle after we knew eachother. Tbh like idk what to do like how to ignite the flirty etc thing again
Any thoughs, ideas, advice and help will be appriciated
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Lone_Ranger 1 2w ago
The lesson you need to learn is this;
After puberty, girls and boys will never really be friends. You cannot be friend with a woman.
Now learn this lesson and move on. Develop your friendships with other men. Build you social networks, concentrate on your education and career.
Durek_The_Bald 2w ago
Disengage, and focus your attention elsewhere. And do so genuinely. No "pretending-because-maybe-that'll-get-her-interested". Delete her number, don't follow her on SoMe (out of sight, out of mind), and pursue three other prospects. Surely there are other birds you find attractive.
Zxcvbnm 2w ago
Thanks for the advice man
Nostromo 2w ago
Focus like shit on working out, studying, playing guitar, etc. generally improving yourself. Do a strict schedule around that, the girl becomes secondary, don't act rude towards her, but she's not your priority now.
whytehorse2021 2w ago
It sounds like you believe you have "equity" in this relationship. You don't. Just friend-zone her and use her for social proof and pre-selection. Pursue other women, even better have her set you up with her cute friends.
mattyanon Admin 2w ago
ok dude..... harsh truth time....... "I am not ready for X with you because Y other man did something to me" is a classic shit test. You'll experience this with girls frequently, especially while you are susceptible to it. It's beta bait: it's designed to make you blame the other guy and not her. The harsh truth is that she is misdirecting her reasons. The truth is "not attracted", the rest is bullshit to make sure you don't blame HER and instead blame some other guy. Learn and understand this dynamic because it's one classic way that women lie.
Ok. Next hard truth: you are evolved to like the girl who is nice to you from your village. It's how humans are, and it's worse when young. Reality is that you are much much better off finding another girl. There are 3.5 billion more of them: find another and start a great thing with her...... this one is completely friendzoning you and you need to find a girl who is really into you.
redhawkes 2 2w ago
Corollary, I've been hurt in the past.
mattyanon Admin 2w ago
Yeppers.