I was supposed to go on a hinge date today but just got a text from her saying
"Hey sorry I’m not actually gonna be able to do today, if you wanna try for this week let me know"
If she hadn't offered to reschedule I would probably leave it on read, am I failing a shit test if I respond with another day/time this week? Or am I thinking too far into it?
Testme 1w ago
This is not a "shit" test. A shit test is when a girl criticizes you. Breaking your date is not criticizing you.
When a girl is flaky like this it means she is low value. Your best move is to ignore her and move on to somebody who is not flaky. Do not invest anything at all in flaky women. They are a total waste of your time.
mattyanon Admin 1w ago
Ok, this is easy.
"No problem, thanks for letting me know".
Then you DO NOT reschedule straight away.
Keep her guessing for a bit, and most importantly: try to get with other women.
Shit test or not shit test: doesn't matter because you can still fail an unintential shit test.
The point is that she's made a step back, albeit a polite one. So you respond with appreciation that she has let you know, but not with any further efforts. Ignoring her for a few days is a reasonable response.
If you're still free, hit her up after a day or two.
pancakesforbreakfast 2w ago
.................
"drinks this thursday at bar, first round on you for flaking"
go talk to 5 other girls in the mean time
Lone_Ranger 1 2w ago
Have you ever met her before?
I guarantee the reason why she is flaking is because someone who is a better option came through. She isn't even bothering to lie about it (no story about a sick relative).
So you aren't her top option.
Next.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2w ago
The only reschedules I really accept are if they are in the next day or two. Next week though?? She has other priorities
I would decline. You are going to stick more in her head being the 0.1% of men who decline her shit than saying yes to a date that will go nowhere
And in the rare chance she actually couldn't do the date this time, she will chase you back for it (but I doubt this is the case here)
pancakesforbreakfast 2w ago
I usually agree with you but not this one. At best this is a covert contract taking the form of "if i appear uninterested, then she'll appreciate me and want to date me". At worst it's blue pill by being indirect and being in her frame. Even if it's coming from abundance I don't think you can argue that it's a better strategy than rescheduling if the goal is getting real life meets.
I'd treat the girl with the same aloofness as the rest of your prospects and push her to convert to a real person meet up.
Would you disagree with my assessment?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2w ago
I never said any of that at all
I said OP should decline and that if this was an actual situation in which she is actually busy (i.e. something embarrassing happened she didn't want to explain etc), she will pursue it instead of lose it.
I never once said OP should "appear disinterested for game, that is not at all waht i said
pancakesforbreakfast 2w ago
"You are going to stick more in her head being the 0.1% of men who decline her shit than saying yes to a date that will go nowhere" that isn't a game strategy? i might've misread it then
fair enough on your follow up but i still hold my position that if the goal is to convert leads to real life dates, a low-investment reschedule is the way to go. plenty of girls are too anxious and will let it drop if you reject them
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2w ago
You misread that.
That's not a game strategy. That's getting more satisfaction out of rejecting a woman than having her decline a second date if you can even get her out at all on a first because she's already not interested
Definitely not a game strategy, comment was misread
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2w ago
I forgot to add a quote to my advice
"I appreciate the offer but I am not interested, I wish you well though"
financehardo420 2w ago
no response is the best response
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2w ago
Most men don't have the resolve to leave no reply
financehardo420 2w ago
Guys need to stop taking OLD so seriously smh
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2w ago
Agreed. I treat it like an afterthought (if even)
financehardo420 2w ago
yeah I honestly haven’t even been using it in forever; generally a huge waste of time. When I did I’d use swipe like whilst taking a shit lmao
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2w ago
I swipe when bored.
Gonna upload good exciting fuckboi fun guy photos this summer because that's what they want