Got into the school of my dreams to study Economics like my dad and his brother. First semester, I join a frat and feel like making connections. The only class that I needed to pass was Calculus. This school is notorious for having very difficult math courses and many people simply take math at community college and transfer the credits instead. The problem is, I already have 60 credits from community college and can’t transfer over another class (Calc 1). So I flunked calc 1 the first semester there. 2nd semester comes rolling around and I decide to say “fuck it” and I put in the time to study calc. Throughout the semester, I stay in and don’t party to try and pass the course. Long story short, my professor just told me it is not possible for me to pass the course. I’m devastated because my school doesn’t allow people to take classes 3 times. Soon as you fail it twice, it’s over.
So now I just got into the school of my dreams and ended up failing my major because of a fucked calc class and I’m also getting kicked out of my frat because I haven’t payed dues or show up to parties. I’m 24 and I feel like I just ruined my fucking life. I don’t know what to do but I’m about to go on the biggest bender I’ve ever gone on. I lost and I can’t cope with it. I’m simply retarded.
financehardo420 Should i (x1) 1y ago
The first thing you’ve got to do is beg dean for permission.
Make sure you have a solid plausible story (ie death in the family or some shit). If you have to lie; pick one that’s not as easily verifiable (my dad lost his job it’s been hard at home etc etc).
College is easily finessed if you’ve got the balls to try. When you get an extra chance… you’ve got to be 1000% focused on it - balls to the walls level grind. That’s waking up at 5am, going to bed at 9pm and doing absolutely nothing besides class and study grind.
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
Go to your prof or someone else high up and trustworthy in the school and say "ok, what do I have to do, what can I do..... I want to make this work, what hoops do I need to jump through".
re Frat: pay your dues, make fleeting visits to parties and don't drink. If you get kicked out....... meh, no biggie...... school matters more than a load of drunken parties.
Lone_Ranger 2 1y ago
Good news You have not hit rock bottom.
Bad news You have not hit rock bottom, your life ahead of you will have many more lows that are much lower than this.
The measure of a man is how he reacts when things to badly. You are able to get around this. You can, and you will. And you will be stronger as a result.
Whatsnext 1y ago
So you: -Failed 1 Class a few times -Kicked out of your frat due to non payment and attendance.
You are 24. When I was 20 my squad leader got shot in the face and my section leader lost his legs. You failed a class. You failed this class because you did not study properly for it and did not put the time in. How do I know? I have passed calc 1, 2 , 3 diffeq, linear algebra, stat. Calc 1 is not hard.
What do you do when you fail? Cry about it? Or withdraw and prepare to launch your next attack and then execute to perfection next time? The reasons you do bad in school are because you allow yourself to be distracted by the outside world instead of studying. No internet, porn, TV, Netflix, Laptops.
Draw on a piece of paper: M T W R F S Su 5am 6am 7am ...etc
And write out what you actually did during that time each day. Not what you wanted to do. What you did. For a week. I bet if you did this during calc 1 you wouldnt have put the time in
whytehorse2021 1y ago
LMFAO, I was humping an M16 in a dirt foxhole at that age. Did all the same classes as you plus everything through quantum mechanics part 2.
Whatsnext 1y ago
Some strategies for school: 1.) Care about what your learning about and find concepts and reasons to be interested in them. Ask yourself questions to help this and google the answers. What is a limit? Why is it important? What is Calculus anyway? Why is it important? What do we use it for? What is a derivative? What is an integral? What is summation notation? Did I learn trig/geometry/algebra correctly (maybe i need a refresher.) 2.) Use office hours the best you can. For calc 2 I only studed 1-2 hours a week and got a B. I also didnt do any homework so lost 10%. I didnt care. The 1-2 hours i did study i sat in office hours and asked the teacher "What is this, what is that, why is that, what will be on the test?" Build rapport and fill in missing knowledge. 3.) Use youtube/chegg if you dont understand how answers are coming. Professors dont care about you and neither does your frat. ive had teachers laugh at me for coming to office hours and asking questions. you have to teach yourself shit. countless classes ive looked something up on chegg and worked backwards from the answer to understand why we are inputting certain numbers. 4.) you have to lift and do cardio. your answers are highly emotional and erratic like a woman. i think its from the made up stress because i get like that in my engineering degree too. lifting and doing cardio helps alot. takes like 2-3 months to change your attitude
User4566 1y ago
That’s the problem, there is no next attack. The only way I can take calc again is if I beg the dean or transfer schools. I’m sorry I’m not as smart as you. Yeah, I’m sure Calc 1 isn’t hard at whatever school you took it at but as I stated, all math here is super tough compared to other schools and the problems require much more than what other schools expect.
coolsocks00 1 1y ago
That isnt the point. Point is that, while not a tiny setback, it’s probably one of many to come throughout life. And the better prepared you are, the fewer setbacks you’re likely to face.
You’ll be fine.
Whatsnext 1y ago
What school is it?
User4566 1y ago
I don’t feel comfortable disclosing that, but you don’t understand: I literally cannot retake calc here. I have to change my major to something retarded or switch schools. My school is a tier below Ivy league, my professor went to Yale so he sets high expectations on his students.
Edit: yes, I’m getting pretty emotional. I’m not the sharpest. I grew up in special education and it was a big deal for me to get into this school from community college. I wanted to prove to myself that I was good enough. I failed and I’m pretty devastated because I sacrificed my social life to normally stay in and study until 5:30 in the morning while hopped up on adderall.
Whatsnext 1y ago
Share a photo of your exam
Whatsnext 1y ago
write a response to your own post as if it was a friend posting it and you are trying to advise him on what to do next
Maturin_nj 1y ago
Switch schools and suck it up. Thats where you belong. You are prideful. I bet you liked bragging about where you went to sch. Its beta. Whatsnext is in a whole other league compared to you. He doesnt go around virtue signaling his university. You are in a leftist shithole only you dont know it. Move on with your life. You don't understand Calc probably bec you don't understand algebra. Failing twice is indicative that you have limitations to overcome. Hire a fucking tutor.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Work with an advisor. Maybe you need to take some remedial math courses, get tutoring, etc. I failed horribly at language classes. Totally fucked my GPA. The only way I was able to get my degree was to live in Thailand for a couple years and study with a tutor in a full immersion environment and then they waived the requirement to take their class. So even if you didn't pass the class, you can ask them what they would need to see to waive the requirement.
Go talk to your frat. Make your payments. I doubt they're kicking you out because you didn't go to parties.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
You're going to have to work with an advisor or dean or something like other users said. This is ultimately your fault and you need to own it.
Sounds like if they don't let you re-take it that you need to take it a different school. You can be a "student at large" for a lot of different schools which means you can take like one class and still be enrolled. So possibly you can still stay enrolled at your dream school, take calc somewhere else "at large" and then get that transferred there without ever dis-enrolling from your dream school while taking your other credits
Either way you need to talk to advisors ASAP and not fuck up calc any more. Math is the most objective of sciences, it always has the most predictable answers because math follows set rules. If you're not passing math classes you are not putting in the correct effort, no matter how hard the math is
EurasianChad 1 1y ago
Rock bottom is the perfect foundation in which you can rebuild yourself into an absolute beast.
This world is filled with cucked men who are afraid of everything and have no fighting spirit left.
Embrace it bro. Start lifting. Get on a strict regimen and allow all your failure to push you to becoming the richest, best looking, fittest & most confident version of yourself. You vs you.
Trust me, you will thank the gods above for this opportunity to rebuild yourself.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Can confirm
Rock bottom strips you of your ego and investments. You are often left with a lot of empty time and a need to rebuild your daily schedule/life
It is a forced reset and you can build it in the image within your means
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 1y ago
Upvoted just for knowing the difference between "regimen" and "regiment".
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 1y ago
I've been out of academia for 21 years now, so I can't give you anything as specific as some of the others did, but I can tell you this:
1) learn from your fuckups
2) don't repeat your mistakes
3) sometimes dreams change