As far as I know I’ve only been cheated on once; I wasn’t really emotionally invested so I didn’t really care. This more so stems from all the girls I smash that are in “committed” relationships.
But having made significant improvements in my physique and whatnot I can’t help but be a little flabbergasted at the sheer amount of women out there that will cheat on their mans w a guy like me.
For the foreseeable future I’m not even considering any type of ltr/offering exclusivity to any chick. But sometimes on a lonely night I think back ab my ex oneitis and (forgive the beta coming out of my mouth rn) how good it felt to be cuddled up w someone that I genuinely like loved or whatever and that genuinely loved me back.
I just feel a bit jaded I guess.. like does that ever go away?
Like I just made plans w some poor sap’s girl for tomorrow night lmfao
Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
Sounds like you are bit damaged from sleeping around. I know exactly what you mean. I have been there and done that myself. I think back to work trips where women that I had know for about 2 days, would come to my hotel room and let me smash raw with no birth control. This is married women - women that knew that I knew that they were married. Women that had husbands (and in one case children) back home, and were desperate for me to jizz inside them.
It's hard not to loose respect for the entire female race.
I don't think it ever goes away. The only cure is to NOT make women the centre of your life. Find your mission (it can't be a woman). Find your mission and don't devote your life to
a) the pursuit of the perfect woman b) a relationship with a woman that you find and mistakenly think is the perfect woman c) the resulting chaos and carnage of a divorce with this perfect woman
The perfect woman does not exist. If you want to have kids, then try and find the least bad one you can. The one that will be the most suitable mother (clue: it will not be the hottest baddie you can find in the bar). If you DONT want kids, then please please please don't make the mistake of putting a woman in place of the kid you never had.
DonDripp 2y ago
or just have business approach. assume it will fail. choose the best. secure assets. be ready to say goodbye to kids. spread seed on holidays. apply light bdsm. make them slave like. create artificial boundaries that put you away from women. there is no stupid rules you can come up with.
BTW what folks will understand from this is 'being damaged like woman', I would argue it is different. It puts us on a back foot more [the way we should be anyway], even when being so called 'damaged' we are inclined 'to believe' because this is how nature has created us [no all ofc], by getting the chemicals released at right times.
If we could control it - I assume - it would be preferable to limit release of negative chemicals - as that would negatively affect overall quality of life. TO achieve that we would require gradual conditioning in limiting release of positive chemicals to avoid big drops and spikes.
Where damaged woman's value is very much tied to how much she can bond - in the first place and it is now in gutter.
Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
I would be wary of 'assuming it will fail' because going into a union with that attitude will cause it to fail.
I think a man gets more sceptical or even cyniucal from sleeping around before marriage, but a woman certainly gets damaged in a different and more serious way. A woman that has slept around before marriage will not want to have sex in the marriage -that is the inescapable truth. This is what causes more marriages to fail than anything else - the woman does not want to have sex with the man. No marriage can survive that in the long run.
You can debate WHY it is that women who have high n counts before marriage don't want sex in the marriage all you like - but that is the truth. It doesn't work in reverse - men with high N counts before marriage do not loose interest in their spouse during the marriage.
DonDripp 2y ago
Thanks for putting that in nice English.
Absolutely. I'd compare it with the business that assumes that gov will come for them at some point, that doesn't stop them doing business things nor attitude. but they put effort in getting ready for it.
This is why men fail. There is always exceptions and caveats and it takes lifetime to explain simple stuff. There is no dads to do it.
If we would be left on our own and at least have not be lied to, we would do better.
Anxiety / depression] comes for us when world is showing us that what we have learnt is false. If there is no one to show the truth anxiety will turn into life threatening condition.
AbusiveFather1 2y ago
as far as you know.
listen to your own words. what you experienced with the ex was a fantasy you fabricated. awalt.
pofkaf 1 2y ago
There comes a point where you truly do not give a fuck. If she cheats on you, her loss. If she sticks around, wonderful. If yoy break up, oops. If you spend the rest of your lives together, great. None of it impacts your frame because you'll be thriving regardless.
You reach this point by experiencing various women, working on your mission, and just being masculine.
No-Stress-Cat 2 2y ago
Found a gold nugget, gentlemen. Once you reach this stage, you have become The Final Boss.
Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
It is very tricky though. Because of the way divorce works.
It's extremely difficult to 'not give a fuck' about losing 380% of your net worth in an instant, because your wife 'isn't happyyyyyyyy' and wants to jump back on the CC.
In the west we are wondering about declining birth rates of native born populations - and the answer if so fucking simple - change the divorce laws.
liftheavystuff 2y ago
Get a Prenup
Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
Prenups are a trap - they don't work. The only people that benefit from prenups are lawyers. The benefit twofold - once when they bill you the time for writing up a prenup (contract work, at about $900 per hour) and then when you go to court to try and defend it (trial work, at about $5,000 per day). These might be a little out of date, its been a long time since I last got divorced.
Prenups will not work the way you think they work. The judge can and will just disregard the prenup - often the first thing they do on the first day of the first hearing. If you think a contract (law of tort) is going to aid you in a family law court then I have a bridge to sell you.
liftheavystuff 2y ago
State dependent. You should probably acknowledge this fact before spouting inaccurate information to naive readers. There are specific "no-no's" that you can't include in a prenup which will invalidate it. Not sure what lawyer you're referencing that charges 900/hr lol.
Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
Right, so you have access to lawyers that charge less than that? Good luck buddy.
Also, good luck with your 'pre nups'.
As soon as you end up in court, you have lost. Source: spent the same amount as a small apartment on legal fees in a divorce, ex-wife spent more. (Plot twist - the money that my ex wife spent was actually just my money).
liftheavystuff 2y ago
Again, you're wrong. Case law is well established. State dependent.
Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
Good luck and fare well brother.
financehardo420 2y ago
Right haha it’s easy to not care when you’re not that invested. Once it’s a marriage plus kids that kinda goes out the window
liftheavystuff 2y ago
You can always tell the people who misapply TRP (making their focus women instead of themselves) when they humble brag about creating the hoe ridden environment that they then complain about.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
When you go for quality rather than quantity you get better results. When you get a high quality woman you'll know it. She won't be wearing make-up, fake nails, partying, drinking, etc. She'll be sincere and honest.
Once you find her, you can have a meaningful relationship based on mutual respect, trust and shared goals. She will fall into your frame and become a ride-or-die chick. Over time your lives become so integrated that she never even thinks about other men.
financehardo420 2y ago
Describing my ex oneitis lmfao
whytehorse2021 2y ago
If she's an ex she was never ride-or-die.
Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
If she were RoD, she would have done anything and everything to keep you. Including humiliate herself (by crawling back to you), including breaking all her own internal rules. A woman that is in love will move heaven and earth to be with her man. Pride goes out the window when she is in the presence of a man that she actually wants.
liftheavystuff 2y ago
This beta has been posting about the same oneitis and subsequent low quality hoes he's used to fill the void for years
financehardo420 2y ago
Oh no! Liftheavystuff called me a beta I gotta go cry now my life is over
liftheavystuff 2y ago
Go post about the watches you buy and bang more drunk tavern wenches. That'll fill the hole for sure.
financehardo420 2y ago
Oh no liftheavystuff is butthurt I can afford nice watches and fuck drunk tavern wenches brb gonna go kill myself now
Lone_Ranger 3 2y ago
ok, but lets try and help each other a bit?