How come women tend to prioritize and value the opinions of other women when considering going out with a man, rather than trusting their own judgment?
I heard/read that if you ask a woman out on a date, if she tells her girlfriend about your meeting, then if her girlfriend doesn't like you and opposes the date, it's unlikely that she will go. How true is that?
mattyanon Admin 12mo ago
because they're weak.
the rest of the group's opinions matter more than their own opinions.
this is how they are........ take advantage of it.
Yes and no
Certainly the badboy rep can work in your favour.... but you want her friends to say you're dangerous and a bad influence and likely to fuck and dump her....... rather than creepy or unattractive.
Durek_The_Bald 11mo ago
https://youtu.be/9Mka8mB2clg?si=8OEdq2eKCKXlLFqy
(Life's too short - trying to chat up girls)
Hanscheezburger 12mo ago
never happened to me.
all the girls I've dated, their friends don't like me and say I have "red flags".
If they like you enough they will ignore their friends. If they listened to their friends and leave you, then it's just them wanting validation, the decision has already been made
Durek_The_Bald 12mo ago
It's because in olden times, when the men were away something something, and the women were something something else, sabre tooth tigers, and giant manmoths something something. So obviously, something something was very important for survival something.
ObliviousDuck 12mo ago
Women don't want to be perceived as sluts, they deeply know for every guy they fuck, they are losing value. Yet they can't help it, when an attractive guy with proper game show up, they just can't resist. They are in a runaway train and they can sense themselves inevitably crash into your bed and there is nothing they can do about it.
That's when they use friends as the people who will shield them against bad decisions.
First-light 12mo ago
Women are conformists. They are very status conscious. If a man brings approval and status elevation, he is great, if not, he is rubbish.
Its not usually as much about you and your character as you would wish. Much is about what you are perceived to bring.
Reno0vacio 12mo ago
Thanks for the comments, but I'm not sure you understand how I phrased it.
I would like to know if this phenomenon really exists, or if this thing only happens to girls with bad attachment styles, or is there any basis for this statement at all?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 12mo ago
Depends. It's not 100%
Women have hierarchies too. Some women in the friend group are the top hen. Other ones are just followers. Some women guard their naive impressionable friend. Sometimes one girl in the friend group is the one always asking for advice but ignores it anyway. There is no clear answer for every chick
However there are some consistent patterns. Friend groups that hate slutting will act as gatekeepers for sex and actively tell their friends not to fuck or make it very shameful if they do. Women are usually dependent pack animals. If they do ignore their friends they'll try to keep it secret
Then you have slutty friend groups. They deliberately go out to get fucked. They will gatekeep their friends too, except instead of from sex it's from losers. They will shame their friends for fucking a loser but otherwise tell them to get laid
Obviously some friend groups fall in between but man you're not going to get one straight answer, women aren't just in homogenous groups that all think and behave the same way. Just understand what kind of friends they have and go from there. The strength of their friend group, societal beliefs, etc will be really what determines how strong and in what way they listen to their friends. They more so care about opinions of other women depending on how pro slut or anti slur their friends are. Women who aren't in friend groups that hang to the extremes will care less what their friends think and be more independent because most of the group members have middle of the road or more independent diverse viewpoints and attitudes
You're not going to get a straight answer on this question
whytehorse2021 12mo ago
It's called pre-selection and mate choice copying.