Alright you approach counting autist. You want to be the guy who needs more so others get less, the suave character of mystery who women swarm over, and the world’s mistress?

The very first thing you have to do is forget about numbers. Forget about success and failure; after all, success can only exist if someone (you) gives it a definition, with failure being the inverse logical equivalent.

There are people who have done no approaches in their life but have what you constantly struggle after. They never think about numbest of successes, failures, number of approaches, because they haven’t trapped themselves mentally like you have. We can blame Instagram for incubating a culture of narcissistic fantasies but I’m partial towards blaming you for your own shit, because as men that’s what we’re responsible for.

So… success doesn’t actually exist, failure doesn’t actually exist: you’re probably thinking what exists and that’s a great question. I’ll let you answer that for yourself. If you want to improve, it’s an easy answer with self reflection. If you can't answer it, you don't want to and aren't ready.

After (if) you figure that out, self-confidence is easier than lifting a 10 lb dumbbell. There are people who have banged 10 chicks in the past half year with no self confidence, constantly defining themselves through the validation of women, and others who have banged a third of the number (the .3 is for flicking a nipple) and are completely cool with expressing themselves.

Do you think Kanye West would lose confidence if he was rejected by anybody in the world?

Addendum: Fuck you for looking for an Alpha checklist. If it were that easy, TRP wouldn’t exist.

"Just do it"

Yeah well unfortunately you have to actually succeed one bit at a time. If you keep failing repeatedly at everything with women, then you need to set your goals very low and start succeeding at square one. And then when you succeed at square one move to square two until you are succeeding at square 10 or whatever your goal is.

Sounds like you're shooting over your pay grade. Also you still should read/finish rational male. I don't think you're going to have success at all if your ideas of how women work are all wrong.

I do not see this as practically possible and I do not see it as being actually desirable either. A man should know himself, including his limitations. Otherwise what is he but a twit at best, the sort of over entitled thing that we see in "where are all the good men?" women.

Anyway that said, yes one needs to go from zero or eve minus to something realistic and positive on the self confidence front. It is not wise to be irrationally self confident. It is also unwise to be irrationally underconfident and if you are failing a lot with women and you are not someone with a physical or mental disability, you will be actually underconfident. You will have learned that failure is normal, when it should not be normal for a normal man to fail 100% of the time.

What to do about it? Acknowledge that you have a negative view of reality. Work in small practical steps. Keep a record of you small successes.

The record keeping can be surprisingly helpful. Every day wright down all your positive encounters with women and why you think they were positive This is a cognitive behavioural approach and it will reinforce your successes. So if you smile at a girl and hold the door for her and she says thanks with a smile, you write it down. If you make a girl laugh, you write it down and so on. Try it you might surprise yourself. It creates a virtuous circle of action, leading to positive reinforcement leading to more action which all leads to a gradual and realistic improvement in self image.

It's experience. Confidence comes from experience. When I got back from Asia I had banged so many hotties that I had very high confidence. Then I started encountering all these entitled American chicks and was blown away. Like wtf? I have to play these stupid games and jump through all these hoops and be rich and tall and blah blah just to get with a fat average chick? Fuck that shit! Bye Felicia!

Spend a few days reading through the Roissy Archives (chateau heartiste), there's some great inner game content in there

It's a mindset and the essence of it is Outcome Independence aka IDGAF. This is all perceived value, that's why women shit test. If you're congruent with that attitude, she'll get the tingles.

I've been ghosted/rejected by 200+ girls so how am I supposed to be confident?

You should have stopped at 50 and self reflect, but obviously, you keep doing what doesn't work. Once you get success, repeat what you did and it'll become second nature.

Your problem is external validation. That's why you fail. You treat women as a measurement unit for your self worth, instant failure.