LTR of over 3 years.
In the last year she's started calling me "daddy" in the bedroom, pretty much every single time we have sex. She loves it, I equally enjoy it. It was me that initiated it, but ever since she's latched on and now gets extremely turned on by the whole "daddy" during sex.
Things have evolved though, and now she's liking things such as "daddy daughter bonding time" (not every time, but occasionally). She also loves to roleplay that daddy has "snuck into her room at night" and is fucking her when everyone's asleep. She'll dirty talk it, and to be honest, I enjoy it, but it's her that's going deep into the dirty talk. Then recently, we were in a store and we walked past pacifiers, and I said to her lets get one, she didn't resist and now she's putting the pacifier in sometimes during sex, but more often after sex and even sometimes just generally when we're chilling. She also really likes me calling her "little girl" "daddy's princess" "daddy's girl" "daddy's baby girl".
I'm not necessarily complaining, as I say, I enjoy it and so does she. But I'm just wondering what's the deeper psychological reason behind her strong liking towards daddy stuff, daddy-daughter roleplay, and wanting to put a pacifier in her mouth.
Regarding her actual dad, he's always been around, parents are together, and they seem like a normal family to me. Possibly he wasn't around as much at times, as he's a successful businessman (C-suite). Not sure if it's something to do with that, or something I'm not considering.
Thoughts? Reason to be concerned or nah?
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whytehorse2021 1mo ago
Well that sucks. Bad copy/paste and the edit button doesn't work. So here it is again: In psychology, transference refers to a phenomenon that occurs in therapeutic relationships where the client unconsciously redirects feelings and desires from important figures in their past onto the therapist.
More specifically:
It involves transferring emotions, attitudes, desires, and patterns of relating from past significant relationships (often parental) onto the therapist.
The client relates to the therapist in ways patterned after earlier relationships rather than seeing the therapist in realistic terms.
It can involve positive feelings like trust, love, approval-seeking, or negative feelings like fear, anger, disappointment being displaced onto the therapist.
It occurs unconsciously and the client is unaware they are transferring these feelings from the past.
Transference allows unresolved conflicts and emotions from childhood to resurface and be worked through in therapy.
Recognizing and analyzing the transference is considered an important part of psychoanalytic and psychodynamic therapies.
So in essence, transference refers to this redirection of emotions originating from earlier significant relationships onto the therapist. Working through the transference is viewed as a pathway to greater self-awareness and resolution of deep psychological conflicts.
No-Stress-Cat 1mo ago
If you really want to make her horny as fuck, find out what cologne her dad wears.
NorbertoDelude 4w ago
This is a good idea.
Lone_Ranger 1 1mo ago
FUNNY...................
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wswZtyqNGQ 1mo ago
Incest fantasies are common. It's not a concern until it becomes something that negatively affects your libido.
coolsocks00 1 1mo ago
Not an uncommon kink. Better to find out sooner than later. Like it? Roll with it
SeasonedRP 1mo ago
Bath time.
Lone_Ranger 1 1mo ago
Don't worry about it. It's fine.
She's probably not actually fantasising about sex with her dad at all. I really doubt it. She is just getting off on the forbidden nature of it. I used to know a guy that always wanted his LTR to call him 'nigger' during sex. He would be highly offended in any other situation. I think he just like the fact that it was the most forbidden thing, so it felt kinky. His wife objected at first, but then she saw how turned on he got, and he said she really started leaning into it, pretending she was a landed lady and he was her slave.
It's probably a kink that has become 'self referential' at this point. You suggested it, it felt naughty, so it became more and more regular. So now, she associates the daddy kink with having sex with you, which she greatly enjoys. In reality, her kink is sex with you.
I would say that this is a good sign. She is discovering sex and kink with you, its all good.
Top tip - never say 'lets lay off the daddy kink' even if you get a bit tired of it. Because it will introduce shame into her sexual world (shame is the enemy of intimacy). Instead, if you feel like its run its course, just try to introduce something else, something a bit diffferent. I would highly recommend a bit of light discipline. It's a fantastic way to get a woman into a role that she will enjoy (submission) and it really helps hetero relationships.
Next time, tell her she has been a naughty girl, and daddy will is going to have to spank her. Then give her the lightest most symbolic spanking, and see how she loves it.
mattyanon Admin 1mo ago
the daddy thing is normal.
"daddy daughter bonding time" is fucking creepy as fuck.
oh god, it gets creepier.
baby play. she wants to be a baby. no responsibility, no performance requirements, no contributions. just eating and shitting.
I'd be concerned about the implications for the future where you're accused of being controlling or where she demands marriage and that you baby her while she eats and shits all day.