fresh off a 2 year relationship and am back in my hometown working as a server before I start law school in the fall. Honestly I'm just bored now and am looking for a girl to make things fun.
Been talking to a girl on IG who I barely knew in high school but grew up to be gorgeous. I know I'm a good-looking guy but obviously I'm rusty with women after the gap. On top of that there have been a few nights of drinking which I probably came off weird, but tbh I think she was rolling with it.
Tonight I straight up asked if I should just plan on us being friends this summer or more (she's also fresh out of a relationship and we have been talking a lot about both of our breakups so i actually wanted clarity). she answered "I'm not into hookups if that's what your asking" and then talked about how she's just going with the flow this summer.
I feel like I made the cardinal sin of trp, it's been like 2 years of being cuffed so I just forgot how to not come off like a bitch.
Well is there any way to save this? Do I just give a few days of no texts or something or am i cooked
Testme 1mo ago
Talking about "the future" was a mistake. It's non-immersive to do that.
The way you can "save it" is by: (1) getting other options, (2) stop making non-immersive editorial comments / questions like "what are we?" or "I think we are great together" or other shit like that. Don't make commentary or offer opinions about your "relationship", it's highly anti-seductive.
Typo-MAGAshiv 1 1mo ago
A) you have one-itis.
B) re-read the sidebar.
C) LTRs, especially marriage, are RP on hard mode. Unless you dropped everything you claim you used to know and beta-ized yourself into being grossly unattractive and caused your ex to leave, you should be on top of your game as far as frame, dread, passing shit tests, etc
gopherids1 1mo ago
thanks, I'll dive into the sidebar. I feel like I forgot everything I knew.
coolsocks00 1 1mo ago
See other women and avoid oneitis. You're already overinvested.
What you can do is withdraw attention, meanwhile show displays of high value occasionally. There are some ways to do that while withdrawing attention, e.g. social media stories, pics, updates directed not just at her, and solid game/flirty banter with her on rare occasion, without falling for the beta bait of asking for a meetup again.
You've already set a bad frame of you looking to hook up or more, and her turning down anything casual. If she reconnects and wants to meet up, you need to frame it so she can feel like hooking up "just happened".
gopherids1 1mo ago
Tough to spin plates while living at your mom's over the summer w/o a car. Bad timing to get single.
Is there a way to fix the bad frame, or are you usually cooked after coming off needy?
coolsocks00 1 1mo ago
Well, you could always be celibate.
Over text it wont happen in the short term, once low interest is established. In person it's much easier.
redhawkes 2 1mo ago
This is the only shortcut to unfuck your game.
https://archive.ph/7G5t9
Typo-MAGAshiv 1 1mo ago
Holy shit that's gold.
Roissy was probably the most important Red Pill writer in my journey, followed closely by Dalrock and Athol Kay.
Where did you find that?
redhawkes 2 1mo ago
Read the sidebar n00b.
https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/5pgren/mustread_red_pill_content/
If you can't open some of the links, try archive.org
YaReally has some golden nuggets, check it out. He was top commenter on the CH blog.