The reason I joined TRP was to get girls. It WAS NOT to break out of matrix.

The second part of your mission is accomplished. You are clearly still a plug in. The first part of your mission will never be accomplished.

You are afraid of failure

You've heard guys say you have to have a DNGAF attitude. It's true, they aren't joking.

You WILL fail with women, most of the time. Who cares?

Serious caps there. Stop taking yourself so seriously. You are one guy, not god's gift to the universe.

Keep practicing on women you do not care about. Do not practice on women that you care about.

Do not try to interact emotionally via text messages. Use text messages to invite women out. Invitations should be interesting things that you are doing with or without them. For example: "I am going to a concert on Saturday with my friends Tom and Rich. Would you like to come?"

Reading a bit between the lines, I think cold approach is a bit beyond your skill set right now. Sure, cold approach works but its the pinnacle of pull. It sounds like you are at the foothills.

The thing to try is to hone your social skills. Join clubs and activities in which there is mixed company. Learn how to chat and joke and laugh with mixed company, how to gauge interest and how to tease. There is a limit to what you can learn by reading about it - people who are good at socialising are good because of hundreds / thousands of hours of practice.

I'm going to break it to you gently dude - I have never met a guy that is good at pulling who is not also good at socialising. The converse is true (I'll spell it out for you): I have never met a guy that is bad at socialising that is slaying pussy.

It sounds like your problem is that you are terrible at socialising. Do something about, and the rest will follow.

I came here from the other side, I am sick of the matrix and I won't get too worked up over performing to please women. I am not even sure if I would bother to replace the present resident female if she decided to vacate (which I have been known to suggest in moments of frustration). But a younger version of me knew how you feel. I was a bit of a slow starter with women but ended up having quite enough women in my life and plenty of children.

At some point you have to embrace the worst case scenario -she thinks you are a loser and isn't interested. So what, there are millions more girls like her out there. If you see really experienced Chads hitting on girls cold (which is not a good strategy at all for a self conscious beginner) they fail far more than they succeed but you only have to succeed once to change everything.

Just accept you are going to fail with women. How many people die married to the first girl they ever went out with? Accept almost every relationship in the world ends in failure and loss. Then go and see what you can get. Advance in very small steps, accepting the potential of multiple failures at all stages.

Learn to talk to people -any people. Think of it like lifting weights if you like. Lifting weights is a useless activity itself but it allows you to be stronger next time you push the car up a hill when it won't start, when you carry a big log, when you sprint to catch a bus, even when you want to get the top off a jar. Talking to people helps with chatting up women like strength training helps with life and sport. It also makes you more injury resistant -you can take failure better if you are used to failures in conversation.

Next, without stopping talking to people generally, try to talk to women in non sexual situations -again any women old and young -like at the checkout, in a queue, wherever you encounter females. Try to ask her something, compliment her something but NOT chat her up, just chat to her to make her happier. You don't have to show off and impress women to make them happy. You impress them by being good company.

Then try approaching women -perhaps on on a serious dating site where some chat is expected before any action. Remember you don't have to ever meet any of them if you don't want. Just make them happy with what you say. If a woman thinks you are high enough value overall as a man, likes the look of you in person and the smell of you up close, you don't have to chat her up really, just make her relaxed and happy and if things then go sexual with her you will only be doing what she wanted you to do anyway. You don't have to positively do anything, just not mess up and make her relaxed. Nature does the rest. PUAs try a lot of hard cold sell and sure it works -sometimes- but as a beginner, stick to the basics put a boy with a girl who has decided he is good enough as a mate and if he does not mess up, they sooner or later bang.

I did not do this but I would actually recommend it -try professional women to loosen you up around women. This could be just going to get a massage and learning to relax around attractive women being nice to you, this could be going to a massage parlour to get laid, it could even be one of those call girls who will do "training" for shy guys. I think close contact with women can help a lot of shy guys get over being too wound up to get anything right.

In almost all cases when a guy can't get off the blocks with women it is because he can't get anywhere with people and relationships in general. Do the strength training on having a conversation the other person enjoys and your goals all slide into reach. Sure you have to be high enough value too but it sounds to me like you are not hung up over that but over actually approaching and talking to women.

I know cold approach is not just great way to get girls

it can work

I try to do it talk to girls but am afraid of what people will think

It's more important to prioritise what YOU think of you, not what others think of you.

and I just want isolated meeting with girls so others can't judge me but I know that's not possible.

Are you afraid people will think you are a man with a penis? Are you scared they'll think you are awesome and confident?

I KNOW I HAVE TO Do IT MYSELF AND NOBODY CAN HELP ME BUT STILL I CAME HERE TO ASK - CAN IT BE DONE

It can,, but you are fighting with yourself.

You need to build yourself and your life to a point where you don't give a fuck what others think of you. Why do you care, what are the consequences that you are afraid of? Meet those head on and embrace them, or stop giving a fuck somehow. Live your own life by your own rules.

Girls and freezing is not the problem, the problem is your relationship with all other humans.

Yes. You already know the answer. You just want to hear us say it for some reason.

The longer answer: Your ego is scared of acknowledging the fact that you are capable of being rejected by a girl who is "into you" and so here you are writing here as a buffer because it is more comfortable for your ego than dealing with potential rejection.

Tbh you're going to fail more than you succeed, especially at the start. I still cringe when I see some of the texts I sent, or remember some of the things I said. But you quickly learn what works and what doesn't. You can't read your way into talking to someone, you just gotta go for it and then your brain is gonna adjust.

And you're going to make mistakes, holy shit I've had some bad blowouts but guess what? You're not that important, nobody even remembers the stupid ways I've messed up and it was well worth it into becoming a more social person

The first time i did i almost pissed in m my pants. And did't go well. Go expecting this. It's easier with friends around. It's also easier if you are in a place where no one knows you/you don't expect to go back.

The reason I joined TRP was to get girls. It WAS NOT to break out of matrix.

Yet here I am after years and not successful in my ventures

I stopped reading after this because it answered your post