This isn't a mod post. I am just thought dumping my observations and, despite the tone of this post, am actually trying to help some of you spergs.
The biggest common denominator of why some of you guys are permanently stuck repeaty asking the most basic shit on here is YOU.
I guarantee a large percentage of the people this applies to, you have not read the full side bar or skimmed it at 2am without any serious thought, if you even read it at all.
I also gaurantee an even larger percentage of you have never opened one page of The Rational Male, which is where an extreme bulk of RP comes from. No wonder you are so confused about the most basic of basic RP 101 shit on here.
I gaurantee a large percentage of the half of you I'm talking about have never used the search function on here. You have a question and you immediately come here and ask your Yahoo! Answers style question here. Believe it or not, there are already 100 posts asking the same damn question, and with far more answers than you will get asking your version of it, from an OP that worded the question even better than you did.
Your question is 75% of the time not unique. Someone already asked it, you askhole. If you did the basic lifting on your own you would have seen it somewhere.
To be abundantly clear, I'm not talking about field report questions. A FR shows you actually went and tried and have enough humility to look for feedback on actual shit you tried to accomplish. But even then a lot of the misconceptions you have in your FR could, surprise surprise, be answered by actually reading the dang material, dudes.
The biggest lag in half of your guys' personal development on here is defaulting to AskTRP the microsecond you have a question. You know what men who don't have your frequent problem did? They found TRP, read the whole side bar once, if not twice, located the other books (rational male, no more mister nice guy, Pook), then they looked at all the resources too (heartsie, 50 shades of red, some of the vanguard writings)
They didn't immediately go ask shit on AskTRP like a hand-holding askhole. They found all the content and then hit AskTRP (and only after searching for the answer already in search bar) to get clarification on what was almost always an actual good question with evidence that there is some confusing or contradictory information they wanted to address. Often they'd cite where the confusion came from which demonstrated that they tried to find it.
I have coached some of you fuckers before and months into answering your questions I asked if you read rational male and you said "no". What the fuck guys. No wonder you are having problems with women and stuck on tutorial island. You are completely dependent on other people to do even a modicum of thinking for you.
You guys are your own worst enemy. The difference in why some guys got TRP right away and did well and you're not is YOU.
If you're not going to read any of the material like a normal person who actually wants to learn, at least spend an hour of critical thought thinking about your circumstances before asking a question. You are completely dependent on even the smallest of lifting
P.S. don't assume that if you asked a question recently that I am talking about you specifically, it's a lot of you guys though
Theolympicnomad 5mo ago
Honestly Vermillion you're absolutely right. When I was in contact with my old pickup mentor (he's a pimp in real life) he told me that there's two type of problems guys have with women, there's low value problems (the guys you're describing) and HIGH value problems, problems that guys who actually understand AND fuck semi consistently get.
There's even guys on YouTube now trying to bring back cold approach and it's sooo bad how they're stuck in this endless beginner loop thinking that because they get consistent numbers with bad game they're on the right track just to end up in a forum like this asking basic dumb low value questions.
All I'm trying to say is that it's 2024 and if these women do something to you that hurts you then it's you're fault at this point. Men ARE doing it to themselves at this point.
EurasianChad 1 5mo ago
Agreed. Guys spending too much time chasing women's validation and instant gratification.
The real gratification is in the results of the work you put into yourself. Think long term. Think - how can I improve to be better next week, next month, next season, next year, next 5 years.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5mo ago
Yup. And it's not even the instant gratification of women.
It's that they barely read any RP at all and then jot the forums with every minor setback. No critical thinking, no self development, just nuanced "hey guise I have a question". Questions they wouldn't have if they read jack
So much development is done in ones mind, in critical reflection and thinking. Guys don't think for two seconds what their situation is, they immediately hamster and type up a novel
There are easily multiple a day on here. No research, no TRUE self development. All spoon feeding
EurasianChad 1 5mo ago
Yup that's partly why I find myself posting less and less
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5mo ago
My posting goal ATM is to just make posts that basically answer askholes questions so I can just link it once instead of answering it 100x
Theolympicnomad 5mo ago
Fucking EXACTLY. And to add to that, not just better in life in general but with dating as well. Picking up girls is a DIRECT SKILL SET that needs to be learned by every man who's genes are meant to be spread.
EurasianChad 1 5mo ago
It's more social skills & charisma, and especially BALLS in terms of talking to girls.
Willingness to walk away. All comes with self respect. Being THE MAN just makes things so much easier, which is why it's a better ROI to invest in self then women as a side quest.
Theolympicnomad 5mo ago
Exactly all that comes with learning pickup which I think is almost a lost art at this point
Overkill_Engine 2 5mo ago
This is what I mean when I say you can tell some people came from very conformist cultures. And unfortunately American culture is drifting that way too. Just with technicolor hair dye and other shitty body mods.
No-Stress-Cat 5mo ago
The word of the day is SPERG. Say it. Use it. Wear it out.
FrancoAP 5mo ago
Thnak you!
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5mo ago
You're welcome!
Testme 5mo ago
A legitimate complaint, but the audience is pretty clueless, so it may go unheard.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5mo ago
I'm just circle jerking at this point. I know this is deaf ears
Goingthedistance 5mo ago
If I might add on something to this post. It doesn't matter if you read everything on the side bar if you do not apply it IRL. So, if you read and never approach you won't get shit done.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5mo ago
I rarely see that version of the situation ever. It's 99% not reading the material while trying to whatever isn't RP in the field and not understanding any of it and then making AskTRPs 2 times a week (if not more) that clearly reflect a lack of understanding.
I almost never see the other situation of all read; no action
CreatineTrihydrate 5mo ago
It is worse then that. These days you can listen to books, you don't even need to know how to reed, be dyslectic or even blind.
Audiobooks, great podcasts.
All one needs to do, is to play book instead of latest music playlist.
But there is one thing that doesn't leave my mind.
I'm fairly switched on and I think even at this level this shit is fairly hard, but at the same time I think to certain mid level of masculinity, one needs to just follow the internal voice and put little energy toward masculine education, just to deprogram the mind. That's alll.
That one thing on my mind is that, maybe some people are so fucked they have no internal masculine drive at all, and they are 100% defective women and best purpose for them would be to upskill to... an eunuch.
I believe there are men that would pay good money, for someone agreeing to get castrated and take care of harem. I would if I had this problem.
Goingthedistance 5mo ago
I was talking more about the guys that only read and never try it IRL. The type of guy that reads about the gym and routines but never goes to the gym because he is not finished reading.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5mo ago
That's few and far between. Not common on here
Goingthedistance 5mo ago
Agree to disagree then.