I started typing a detailed response but then realized there is just not enough detail to give a response.

The problem with these kinds of posts is that you are trying to justify the situation and then ask for a solution but the lack of detail actually makes it near impossible to tell if you as the OP are actually being a reasonable man that understands RP.

How are we to know whether your requests of your girlfriend are reasonable or autistic if you don't actually give some concrete examples of it?

For all we know you could be the asshole of this situation and our answers would only worsen your relationship. Hard to take OPs at face value without context, can you give us some actual examples that are of such strong contention in your relationship? Considering she has asked you to communicate directly it's not unreasonable to ask you for examples to be sure of the appropriateness of our own advice to you

Silent treatment works but you shouldnt use it all the time.

Generally, trp encourages to withdraw attention/affection.

We also have the ability to soft next. But this should only be used 1-2 times in a relationship during very extreme circumstances. A soft next could end a full blown relationship indirectly if used wrong.

Generally you dont want to show anger. I heard from a psychologist the best response to weed out bad behavior from women is no EMOTIONAL response at all. If they get emotion out of you, they will push that button again sooner than later.

I heard disappointment is extremely strong at conditioning bad behavior from women. But they need to respect your opinion/validation. Its basically rooted in their need for a father figure in their lives

I am in the "never argue with women" camp. I hold my expectations, those that are actually serious, above all else and don't fear having to walk away.

I keep a rather monotone and basic cadence and form of communication with everybody, but with reward I'll up the affection. Having a basic base that shells out rewards helps with these types of scenarios. Since you mentioned you change how you communicate when you're unhappy, having a base to fall back on might help with your positive reinforcement. When she does the thing, you give her a cookie(nice words, a kiss, "you're cutest when you're a good girl for me" etc)

Edit: you could try to give her whatever her favorite snack is each time she does something good in attempt to Pavlov her. She's sentient so might catch on.

If she promised to do the dishes or some shit and then didn't, asking her to do it again is the right move. And then if she does it, great. If not, she's lazy and doesn't view you as an authoritave and valuable.

Yet, the point stands that since you always have to say it again and then she does it, implies that she's simply lazy or aloof. That's not easy to fix if it's ingrained in her personality.

Let's imagine a situation where she promised to do something(Not such an important thing yet important) but failed to do that on time(She did it after asking her to do it again)

If she did it after asking her again, I'd probably let it go. Unless it was a common occurrence, where I have to say everything twice, and it's become a general annoyance.

This is I used to do it. I never explained by displeasure but just stopped communicating the way I used to communicate and she'd ask me if she did something wrong and then, I might explain her if she asks many times.

STFU is a poor way of dealing with things if it means you're moping around, and she needs to ask you repeatedly what's wrong. That just makes you a passive-aggressive bitch, who's too weak and timid to speak his mind.

STFU only works if it comes off like you're genuinely in a good state of mind regardless of her and whatever she's thinking. That means staying busy for real, having other stuff to do, meeting other people. If you're going to mope around over something she did or didn't do, it's better to just be straightforward, and let of the steam.

You're basically letting her take charge of the situation. You talk because she asked you to talk.

So I thought I'd be straight-forward with her if I feel disagreement rather than not talking with her much to show my displeasure

Good plan.

The problem now is she is tell me I'm blaming her for all the things She's telling me she's the one who's always doing the wrong things. It's always her mistake and so on.

This is where you have to stick by your decision to take the confrontation, and not fall for her victimhood spin. When she says: "It's always my mistake", your response should be something like: "Yes it is. So get a fucking grip on it."

So you hurt her feelings, or piss her off for a bit. It's not a big deal. They like these little roller coasters of emotions anyways (confrontation - resolution). It keeps things fresh and alive. It's certainly better than the pissy mute approach anyways.

Our fights are increasing and its making me uncomfortable and possibly its making her uncomfortable too.

This right here probably describes the two most difficult aspects of being in a committed relationship. Because what we have to be goes against our programming for what we want to be when we're invested in a woman:

1) You need to be comfortable with her being uncomfortable. Just let her fucking stew, and have a jolly good time in the meantime.

2) You need to be comfortable with the uncomfortableness of that gray cloud of negative vibes hanging over the place. You need to be able to break through that privately, in your own mind, and have a hell of a good time regardless.

Look, women like emotions. They live for it, and they thrive in it. Whether the emotions are positive or negative is of lesser importance. Obviously, it matters on a grander scale if it's generally positive or negative what they get out of their relationship to you. But on a moment to moment basis, you never need be afraid of a woman's emotions.

How do you deal with fights? How do you express your disagreement? How do you express anger?

Sometimes I take the time to think things through privately - whether I'm perhaps overreacting, making a big deal out of nothing, or actually bothered by something else entirely. I don't discuss insecurities like that with my wife, I figure it out on my own. Sometimes, all it takes is a good session at the gym. Actually, a lot of times it ends there.

Sometimes, I sit her down, and talk straight to the point. Calm, collected, not allowing for any deviation from the point.

Sometimes, I just go "fuck it", and let loose. Things are said, feelings are hurt, it's all good. Once you reach the resolution stage, it's all past, and the sex is fantastic.

When I think from her POV, she is not wrong but at the same time, when I think from my POV, I'm not wrong either.

Your POV matters more, because you are you. This is a matter of frame. Yeah sure, you shouldn't be oblivious to her point of view either. But yours is more important.

I don't get angry with my LTR.

I've set my expectations with her. If she doesn't meet them, I remove attention from her and she 100% recognizes that.

This happens very rarely in our 4 year relationship.

why? Because she knows I have options and not afraid to go that route.

Let's be fair also, Women set expectations for men in a LTR (usually a much Bigger list of expectations than a man has for them).

If I don't meet those expectations, she sure as hell lets me know.

You two are with each other , only because you choose to be. At some point, that may change. Don't be afraid to remind them.

. I never explained by displeasure but just stopped communicating the way I used to communicate and she'd ask me if she did something wrong and then, I might explain her if she asks many times.

This can be effective, but it's slow and can backfire.

The problem now is she is tell me I'm blaming her for all the things She's telling me she's the one who's always doing the wrong things

Classic. "Please tell me what I did wrong" followed by "You always tell me I do stuff wrong".

It's always her mistake and so on. What did she expect when she said "Open up with me so that I can do as you like". These women are so difficult to understand. Our fights are increasing and its making me uncomfortable and possibly its making her uncomfortable too.

They are not difficult to understand once you realise how selfish, shallow and manipulative she is being.

How do you deal with fights? How do you express your disagreement? How do you express anger?

Ok.

Don't fight - it just makes you look weak. That's why women love to fight: it shows that she is in the winning position.

You have to fight in a way that women HATE. Women who date me don't pick a fight with me twice because they absolutely hate the way I fight. They tell me they hate it and they actively avoid it.

How do I fight? Simple. I lay out the facts, I clearly discuss things. Obviously because I am not homosexual my partner will then throw emotional shit at me. I tell her "don't do that". Followed by her doing it even more because I told her not to. FOLLOWED BY ME QUIETLY WALKING AWAY.

No emotion. No communication. I pack up my shit and I leave, then I ignore her until she's fucking sorry and has learned her lesson. Maybe a day the first time....... three days if she's a slow learner. Then you carry on like nothing has happened....... but next time you tell her to stop throwing a tantrum she will listen.

Be Clear. You have to tell her the problem. One thing at a time...... you are letting things stack up without giving her chance to fix the first thing. Get each thing fixed before the next thing so that she doesn't feel "oh god it's always me fucking up" - especially if it is.

Punish. Unless there is punishment there are no consequences. She's is selfish and shallow, and that means she only cares about what affects HER. That means you punish her to align her best interest with hers. Punishment means showing your displeasure, communicating less, ignoring her more. The punishment is calm emotionless withdrawal of attention.

Fundamentally you have to be prepared to walk away. Dealing with women is like dealing with the most immoral second hand car dealer you have ever met. If you are not prepared to walk away, if you need a car, if you are attached to one particular car then you have lost and you will get thoroughly fucked over faster than you can blink.

Once she thinks she's "got you", you lose all bargaining power and will be bullied into submission through fighting which she will always win because the more you fight the more you are showing her you are not prepared to walk away over poor behaviour.