How do you build a social circle from ground 0?
Hey guys, I’m getting out of the army next month and moving back to a place where I don’t know anyone except my dad. Most of my friend are very blue-pilled and I honestly don’t enjoy hanging with them for long periods. I want to rebuild a new social circle but in all honestly, I’m pretty clueless. I want to date again and start spinning plates but tinder is filled with nothing but 304’s and single moms. I have goals to get my business up and running to which I’m very excited about. But coming from the army where I had some of the best mates I could ever ask for to heading back out in the civilian world, I have forgotten how to civilian and more importantly, how to find similar red-pilled people like myself. I’m moving back to California which as you can imagine, don’t have the most ex-military redpilled dudes and I’m pretty lost/worried that I’m just going to end up as a hermit besides hanging with my pops. Any tips would be greatly appreciated, thanks.
Problematic_Browser 1 5mo ago
Find things you like doing. Hang out with people who enjoy those things.
mattyanon Admin 5mo ago
See my blog post article on how to make friends.
Electrical_Tackle 5mo ago
This is a topic that matter to me, since i'm also moving, age of 33 and i'm not good/interested in any group activities: I like running (which is solo), lifiting weights (solo), watching concerts (solo and passive). I say all of my hobbies end up being solo or passive stuff.
Skev77 5mo ago
an easy way i stumbled on was attending networking events on eventbrite and meetup. i accidently grown a social circle on linkedIn and now im able to meet up and collaborate with likeminded ppl in real life.
this may work better in a large city but id assume small cities are filled with ppl that want to connect so get out there!
Lone_Ranger 1 6mo ago
"I have goals to get my business up and running"
Can you tell us a bit more about this?
Also, best advice is to join as many social groups which are male focused as you can. Groups like sports and hiking etc.
Electrical_Tackle 5mo ago
Dude what if all you like doings is passive/solo stuff? Let's say my hobbies are in playing guitar, gym, reading, hence i'm damned. Which "group" one do you think it's a good one? 33 years old.
Lone_Ranger 1 5mo ago
I would say broaden your horizons and try lots of stuff. Have a look online, maybe facebook.
You could try any number of things,
Don't let your previous hobbies become a prison... try some new things and get outside your comfort zone!
Lone_Ranger 1 5mo ago
btw - your use of the phrase 'hence I'm damned' is negative and self defeating.
When you hear that, check it. YOU are master and controller of your destiny. Say NO to being passive and defeatist.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 6mo ago
I'll answer when I have a moment.
It will probably be a full ass post. This question frequently gets asked here
mattyanon Admin 5mo ago
Ok, some suggestions.
Don't ditch the blue pilled. They often make great friends. You don't need RP friends ...... it's nice to share values, but honestly it doesn't matter for friendship. I don't care if my friends dress as a furry cat on a weekend so long as they are good to hang around.
Right, but this might be true of your whole area. Consider not being there if you have a choice, or set up regular connections somewhere with better prospects.
Find ways to meet women in real life. Look the best you can and literally go up and talk to girls during the day.
Friends: best is to do things you enjoy that have other people around. Take it slow (other people have a friend group already), but also escalate the friendship....... say hello the first time....... say hello and tell them about your day the second time you meet....... and just move things forward like that. There's a lot that you can do to make friends in this way.
Don't be too fussy about your friends.... you'll meet other people through them. If they're BP as hell, that's fine. If they are into anime girls, well... so long as they're good company, I guess that's fine too. You get the idea. You need a social life, not the perfect friend group.
Meeting great people takes a long time. Do everything you can to make the journey fun.
Dxmx99 5mo ago
Most of us should act more BP to make friends anyway. Ever met someone who constantly talks about Andrew Tate, women, and being alpha?
Retarded!
Edit: Annoying, too. They understand amoggong but don't understand its concept.
Lone_Ranger 1 5mo ago
agree with Matty - you don't need friends to be exactly like you. I have plenty friends that are blue pilled to the core. Not everyone can be saved.
mattyanon Admin 5mo ago
PS also read my blog posts about making friends.