Hi all,
Met a girl (21) from tinder and had 3 dates with her. After the 3rd one I brought her home and had sex (without rubber, yeah I know).
Her - studying law, out of 5 year relationship from her words.
Two days later she texts random stuff, I propose we meet but she says was in her hometown for NY, but "would love to if wasn't" - cool. I text 3 days later and she tells me she feels unwell since two days after we had sex and will get tests (for STD). Ask me if I have issues to which I deny and told her she has nothing to worry about (which is true). I ask for number so I can call, she sents it 24 hrs later. Obviosly she might been anxious. I call a few hours later, - no response. Left message that was me - "oh okay, but I cant talk". Left her on seen. Then I texted 5 days later "If tests are okay" to which said "yes, everything is good". I say great, let's meet-up to which she says she can't and didn't propose other time. Could it be that I've shown too much beta qualities? Or still has BF in her sometown. I'm so confused. The night we hook up I believe both enjoyed.
EurasianChad 1 2y ago
Spot on too much beta qualities.
She thought you were an alpha Chad til you started chasing her after sex.
She once had an idea of you to be x guy, and after you showed needy & beta relationship seeking behavior, she has lost interest.
After sex you have all the power. Stop forgetting that & get more options til you drill this in your mind.
Or better yet, forcibly drill this in your mind as you pursue your purpose. Time better spent chasing goals & having women chase you as you climb to the heights of power, where women will chase you 24/7.
Problematic_Browser 1 2y ago
This is the time best spent, as it does two things:
It makes you more valuable in the sense that it improves you.
EurasianChad 1 2y ago
Bingo.
Increases self confidence and effectiveness in navigating this world.
Just don't forget to hone your social skills while you're at it as well. Don't be a recluse.
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
Yea the frame is off and he chased, but i cant see that he was needy per se.
So aside from not proposing a new meetup the first convo at day 3, not DEERing over her STI hamstering, not asking to call her; wwyd?
Sometimes women just want a roller coaster. They wanna get in their feels over you. If you dont follow up at all because you actually think that's solid Game, they're often gonna chalk it up to low interest and no chemistry. They're not gonna chase you just because you're off chasing bank and whatever else the heights of power means.
Whichever perspective you apply though, the interaction left much to be desired.
EurasianChad 1 2y ago
Her attraction is built through time spent apart. Her wondering why 'wait why isn't he chasing me like all these other guys?'.
Especially after sex, I wouldn't keep initiating convo/meet up much. I'll try 1 or two times, but after that - I'm not gonna play this game. Any apex man with true abundance or chasing power/money aka status/excellence in your given field of expertise wouldn't. Hell, even a guy living a crazy social life where he is deemed charismatic, captivating & chill would not.
Imagine you had a rotation of 8 supermodel level beauties, and 2 of them are with you laying in bed after a 3-some. Would u try to set up a phone call? I'd just send a voice message that's it. Fuck the call. She seemed distant and uninterested, and pursuing when she pulls back is a sign of a low-value man in her caveman biological wiring. Women WILL pursue after sex, that's how it is. Unless she's a giga slut with a ride all you can day pass on the cock carrousel.
Let's also not discount the fact that she may have just been looking for a ONS, and doesn't want to lead OP in the wrong direction.
Theotonic_knight 2y ago
Yeah, I'm thinking she was looking for ONS. On the first date she told she's out of 5 year relationship. Thinking back she might have wanted to tell me "looking for something casual". Also after the sex asked me what was my nastiest moment during sex. This rang some bell in my head.
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EurasianChad 1 2y ago
Bingo.
Theotonic_knight 2y ago
Too much initiating, absolutely. Anyways, the dates we exactly that - fun events which she liked.
I knew i was sending too much messages after the hook up. But was like can it get so bad?
Convo about the STD stuff was along the lines:
Me - How is it going, you back in town? Her - Yea, feeling unwell though. I was at the doctor, will get tests tommorow. Do you have any issues? Me - No, that's strange. There nothing to be worried about. Her -That's good to know. But would to know whats happening Me - That's good idea. Everything will be fine. Her - hope so. Me - whats your number Her - 24 hrs later, number. Why do need it?
Guess being normal person is too much. I didnt't even ask how is she doing. Or this was her way of not leading me along. Strange thing is she removed her tinder after that night.
Anyways, enough over-analysing. Thanks for your feedback.
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
Great mindset. Make the minor adjustments and keep moving.