Was in a 3 year relationship with a women who did absolutely everything i said. A unicorn if i could put it in simplier terms. No male friends, girl night out, dressing conservative, cooks clean, etc. I was always applying dread whether its on a date talking to the server or out late at night with friends. She also agreed that i can have hoes just if i dont shove it in her face.
We had an disagreement one night looking for a threesome and she broke up with me the morning of. She said she couldnt handle my lifestyle anymore . How can i tell what shes saying is truly what she means? Was it really that she couldn't handle me having side chicks and threesomes anymore?
A few weeks later i found out she was on tinder fucking new guys.
I thought i was on top of the game but this happened all of a sudden.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Runs dread for no reason entire LTR on a girl who is doing everything right, gets dumped
Classic case of taking the RedPill on an empty stomach and not understanding why you should employ certain tactics at certain times
Diabs 1y ago
Good summary. I like to ad many red pill men take acting like the prize way too far especially in an ltr.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
LTR has expectations of social contract. She ostensibly earned the LTR (through vetting) and didn't get treated any differently than her downgrades
Calling a girl a GF doesn't fulfill social contract. A lot of expectations defiled here, largely for no reason. Unclear if OP brought the open-ended relationship in before or after he committed. Not wrong for OP to try for an open ended thing if that was already part of the expectations package but in conjunction with not treating her like an LTR outside of that was doomed to fail
Newbie-Casanova 1y ago
How would you guys go about this lost? She's the only girl who has treated me this well in a relationship. I dont even have the urge to fuck other women right now.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
This is a tough answer to give. I would enjoy the time you spent with her and recalibrate what you didn't do right. If you do a one-sided open again, make sure it's absolutely described up front before LTR is officiated.
Personally i think a one-sided open is antithetical to a relationship with a woman who has truly earned all of her upgrades and makes your life complimentary and full (but i digress that's not my prerogative to decide between you and a future LTR)
This one is going to sting for a while. If she ever reaches out again I'd probably just be very cordial and own that you should have treated her better if it comes up (without being a supplicating beta).
Unfortunately here i think you needed the wake-up call after several years of this. So I'd look at the silver lining that your next LTR will probably go better. There isn't a whole lot i can say to help make this sting less this is going to hurt for a while
Keep busy and of the energy you direct to thinking about her, cherish and appreciate the time she gave you in spite of the way things went and what you would do differently in the future
Overkill_Engine Endorsed Contributor 1y ago
Accept that you lost this one for a deserved reason, and treat the next one better.
redpillretard 1y ago
I feel like a threesome is kinda shoving it in her face, no?
Newbie-Casanova 1y ago
You're right, i did fuck up badly
redpillretard 1y ago
Being able to recognize your mistakes is the most important part of getting better, well done.
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lurkerhasarisen 1 1y ago
What did you expect? When all you have is a hammer, all your problems start to look like nails, but the red pill is an entire toolbox. Why were you using a hammer to loosen a bolt? That's the wrong tool for the job.
And even when your problem is a "nail," you still wield a hammer with precision. You were flailing it around like a maniac and ended up whacking yourself in the balls.
I've been married for 36 years, and here's a big truth (Typo will back me up, among others)... dread derives from your woman knowing that you have options. Rubbing her face in your flirty interactions with other women is absurd when you're in an LTR with a girl who's treating you right. On rare occasions women will give off IOIs in my direction. Sometimes they're not subtle at all. I tell my wife when it happens (she's seen it happen). And although my wife doesn't worry about me committing adultery, she knows that I could. The point of this exercise is not to make her unsure about me, but rather that women want a man that other women want.
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
This has been appropriated for mass distribution
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No-Stress-Cat 1y ago
I second this. LMFAO!
Redpillpusher 1y ago
Another prime example of the autistic "alpha", reading the Red Pill forums in a robotic manner as if he was studying for an exam. Do guys like you go online to research before every move you make with a woman?? Some of y'all really need to focus on how you interact with other humans period before "taking the red pill", very odd
Overkill_Engine Endorsed Contributor 1y ago
I like the analogy of treating it like a paint-by-numbers instruction guide and then having no clue what to do when handed a blank canvas and paint. Or it being akin to overfocus on rote memorization of tables instead of understanding the actual rules of the math.
Given that the modern education system basically lobotomizes kids of the ability for critical thinking in favor of creating conformant drones, I guess we should not be surprised to find so many are falling into the prior traps.
Redpillpusher 1y ago
Also good analogies. It's a very strange phenomenon I've been seeing. They think there's a short cut but nothing can excuse you from learning how to interact with humans. If OP is truly autistic, my bad. But if not, you really need to work on basic, basic communication and interaction skills, you cannot be the Alpha Rain Man all your early adult years
Durek_The_Bald 1y ago
What a lucky, lucky girl. Basically living the dream. How ungrateful of her not to sign her one life up for that. Oh, but what can you do...whamyns, am I rite?
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
What an ungrateful fucking whore.